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    i need some help
    ive been with my boyfriend for 2 months, so not long.
    our relationship is good but i think we're rushing things sex wise.
    i havent got the confidence to give him head, can somebody help?

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    What else do you do with your bf, sex wise and intimately?

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    Whoa! s - l - o - w down. If YOU think you're rushing things sex wise, then you're rushing things sex wise.

    Sounds to me like your NEW boyfriend wants to move along in the relationship sexually and you're not sure.

    If you're not ready, you're not ready...regardless of reason. If he can't handle that or puts pressure on you to do whatever, send him packing!

    To answer your confidence question about giving him head, I would do a search, using the key word BJ or spelled out completely and see what comes up.
    BJs and the two words spelled out completely, along with oral sex have been talked about a lot in here and I think you may find many answers to many different questions by doing a search.

    If not, then come back and ask other questions.

    S - L - O - W DOWN !!

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    Hi Kayleigh!

    I'm sorry to hear that things feel rushed sexually in your relationship. Here are some things to try to try and slow it down: 1) Talk to him. Explain that you really like him and enjoy being close with him (like making out, etc.), but that you'd be more comfortable if you slowed things down a bit. 2) It's very hard to have this kind of talk with a guy, so if confronting him isn't your thing, when you're necking with him and he starts to hint that he may want more (like oral sex or intercourse or anything that you're uncomfortable with), just continue to do what you happen to be doing at the time, like kissing (or whatever you happen to be doing at the time.)

    As for giving him head, if you don't feel confident giving him head then I think it's your gut, your instinct telling you not to do it. Head is not a necessity and you should only do it if you feel comfortable doing it. Definitely do not do it till you feel ready!

    I hope everything works out with you and your guy!
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    All guys are going to put pressure on you once a relationship is established, so it doesn't mean he feels any less about you. It's up to the girl to set the pace. Trust me, he's not gonna go somewhere if you hold off for awhile on moving things along in the bedroom. He'll understand. And if you don't have the confidence to actually say "no," then you're not comfortable enough around him to be getting involved sexually anyways because there's some trust/control things going on that make you scared of standing up to him. Just take it slow
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