Thread: ...is my friend dating a sexual predator?! (Help!)

Originally Posted by Alexandra

Hi everyone. Thank you for all of the responses. He is college-aged, so not the age differences aren't huge, but I still find it disgusting. And CW, he apparently was logging into his account and she saw him type is password.

Here's an update though:

I called Kay a few times, trying to talk about it, but she never picked up. When I finally texted to say that I was going to the police, and she immediately called me back. She begged me not to, and I told her that it was wrong. She said that she knew, and that they broke up, but that she was a Christian woman and believed in forgiveness. He's living with his parents right now, and they apparently are restricting any computer privileges, and after the holidays he is going to a psychologist. He admitted to her that he needed help, and that he was going to get it to improve himself. She said that she (despite the fact that they are not together) is going with him to make sure he goes.

Despite all this, I still wanted to call the police, but she pleaded with me to wait. She said that if he didn't go to counseling, she'd even go to the station with me. After a while I hesitantly agreed, but it's tearing me up inside.

Her father was just diagnosed with cancer for a third time, and she's going through a lot right now. She said that this all was even making her feel suicidal, and that she just couldn't stand seeing someone go to jail when they could get help. It's so hard for me though, because I *have* been sexually abused, and sitting here while John isn't being taught a lesson is just killing me.

So, even though I promised not to go just yet, I'm very conflicted.

Thank you again to everyone who responded. Your posts are what concreted in me that it was really wrong - by everyone's standards. I hope John is actually going to get help, and not BS about it.

forgiveness is great and all...but what happened was a CRIME.

forgiveness doesn't mean that you don't call the cops when someone is committing serious felonies.

she can forgive him for what he did to HER, but what about those girls?

people like this are repeat offenders...the going to the shrink and staying with family are all just a ploy to evade the radar...a few months later the buster will back to his old ways.

call the cops BEFORE A GIRL GETS MORE THAN JUST A PICTURE OF HIS DONG.