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Revenge is getting you worked up over him. If you want to really forget him, you also have to let go of everything about him including good memories (if there is any), learn to forgive him (I know it's hard), process and let go of your anger towards him and self-pity you have inflicted on yourself. Do not beat yourself up if you find yourself going back to square 1 (i.e. wanting to reconnect).
Your need for revenge does not allow you to completely let go of everything about him. Let it go. Live and enjoy life on your own. Try new hobbies - the ones you haven't tried before and associate them with your new life. If you have to change your wardrobe, your sheets, your plates, your dining set or living room set, do so (if you can afford it). I was once in your position and I did spend a lot of $$ to change what I see/use that I have associated with the relationship that I had. I joined a martial arts class to release my anger and directed all my negative energy at my target - try to find one that suits you (Tai chi, Tae Kwan Do, Aikido, Jujitso, Arnis, Kick boxing, Mixed Martial Arts are some examples).
cutting all means of contact is a good start you've already done, so I commend you for that. Next step is you taking care of yourself and mindfully calling yourself out every time you have the urge to have revenge or anything wanting to reconnect. It's a long journey, but time would help you heal.
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