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Reply With QuoteI can understand how much pressure someones family and culture can have, but it's your life and we aren't in the middle ages anymore. Live your life the way you want to and remember, there is someone for everyone out there
Want to love and be loved.Dont want to lose faith in love and guys.Please Help!!
I am an Indian girl and i don't like Indian men.I don't mean to be racial but i simply can not live like an animal who is petrified of an Indian master.I have stayed for 4 years in US and i like white American men( again not being racial here, sorry if i sound like one).I am 29 year old virgin and had an Indian boyfriend before but i just wasn't happy in that one-sided relation and my own shares of physical abuses i.e he used to beat me up with any object that he could lay his hands on.I don't want to end up alone and i don't know how to ask out guys on a date as that embarrasses me a little and it shows.What do i do??Only serious suggestions please.I don't need pity nor do i need any taunts or bad remarks.Any suggestions would be welcome.God bless you all.
I can understand how much pressure someones family and culture can have, but it's your life and we aren't in the middle ages anymore. Live your life the way you want to and remember, there is someone for everyone out there
Thanks CheatConfession for the reply. We are taught right from the childhood to be a one-man woman(i used to think that i too am one before the breakup), but unfortunately that doesn't work these days. The problem with me is that i cant approach the guys i like. On the other hand i think many people hesitate to date an Indian lady because of our culture and other barriers. I am not even sure if people want to date Indian females. I am not being desperate but i am scared of ending up lonely.
I'm not sure where you are living, but for instance I'm in NY and see tons of attractive Indian girls everyday. If I was single I would have no problems going up to one and asking her out. Do you have any friends that you could hang out with and maybe introduce you to some guys? I guess as long as you're not in a very rural part of the country and make an attempt by putting yourself out there (that doesn't mean dressing like a tramp or anything like that) I would think that it would only be a matter of time before you had guys who were interested in you.
The best way to ask a man out on a date, without doing so, is with your eyes, your smile, body language....
You know, you are your own person, at 29, you can definately make your own choices..
Sure, it can be assumed that your culture suggests you will marry another Indian and maybe men may think your off limits, hense the body language may help you until you feel a bit more confident with this...
Are there social groups? Join one, and that way you as a group go out and mingle, and maybe you can then talk to different people, and interact ...
You moved to America and so that's your first port of call, what you know...If you came to Australia, you'd like Australian men too
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
There are many men who are attracted to women of other cultures, they find them attractive and exotic. Are you a student? Do you socialize outside the Indian community? Do you have any American male freinds? Getting out and meeting people gives you more opportunity to get comfortable with them and to create opportunities to become closer.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
I am not sure where you are now, are you in the USA or in India or where? It makes it harder to meet Americans if you are not in the USA.Originally Posted by ~~Rainbow~~
In ordinary situations, such as a market, you can use flirting glances to catch a guys eye. Alternately you can ask a guy for his help in getting something down or his advice about one brand versus another of something he is interested in. If you hold onto the conversation a little longer than necessary, most guys will catch on that you are trying to make conversation and will respond back if they are willing to talk further.
I think many or most American guys would not have a problem dating an Indian lady. There was a weekly TV drama on for the last 5 years called Numb3rs in which the main character had an Indian mathematician girlfriend who was beautiful and obviously brilliant. The actress playing that character (Navi Rawat) has an Indian father.
If you are in India, i would think you would have the best luck hanging out in areas that tourists frequent, possibly getting a job in such an area. You may have better luck amongst tourists instead of expats, especially if you want to move to the USA. Find a bf amongst guys who are into learning about Indian culture and are adventurous about food.
I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
Patrick Henry
Gippy11, I live in Sacramento California and right now i am here in India for vacations. I hail from an Indian metro city Mumbai. I do have friends and even have a study group. I think its a good idea to ask my friends to introduce me to someone.Thank you
CHANDLERS WISH , Yes i need to join some social groups apart from just study groups. Thanks. Are Australian men as chivalrous and gentleman-like as their American counterparts? If yes then i would like Australian guys too
WildChild, I am a student,yes.I do have American male friends and we do discuss about stuff like Hindu culture , American culture , places to visit etc. In short, we do talk about each other's countries and try to learn about certain things which we are not aware of.Apart from all this we only talked about studies. I know i sound like a geeky boring person and i want to overcome this very nature of mine.
jns Thanks, that sure was helpful
When you talk with your American freinds you should casually mention that you are open to dating and prefer Americans. You never know, one of them may be interested or know of a man who is.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
WildChild, Yeah i am so gonna do that.Does it sound like i am desperate for a relationship or i am coming too strong if i say that? But i am sure gonna try that no matter how that sounds.Thanks a lot
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