casual dating
I want to date but I don't want anything serious as I'm really short on time right now and I want to date a few others until I find someone im serious about. The thing is, I can't deal with someone seeing multiple others at the same time is it okay to casually date and not cheat or ho does that work? does anyone have any options for me?
IMO if you let them know that you're not looking for anything exclusive, there shouldn't be any problem.
If there is, that's a THEM problem and not a YOU problem.
Lots of people date more than one person at a time and there is nothing wrong with it (as long as you're upfront and honest about it).
It's only "cheating" if you lead someone to believe that you are exclusive to them and they find out later that you weren't. Then that might be construed as cheating.
Hi AR, I think the term "casual" dating defines a type of dating with no expectations attached. My thinking is that if you are interested in dating a few people before you decide you may want to get serious with someone, then the people you are dating will probably have the same thing in mind.
Are you asking if it's okay to date someone exclusively before moving on to someone else? If so, that implies more than just casual dating in my opinion.
I don't think that people who are being casual about dating are necessarily cheating if they date a few people at the same time. That is as long as they are honest about it with their dates.
Why are you short on time? Just curious.
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Im a university student and I work.
Just becuase I don't want to plan my life with someone right it's OK to casually date be bf and gf but not be serious but seeing others is called cheating and many people get the wrong interpretation of casually dating. Date some and if their not up to standards end it and date someone else.
There is nothing you can do about people...If they see you with Tom a few times, then Darryl, then Tom again, and then Jack, they are going to assume...
Sounds to me like your lonely so you want someone in your life, your a student and you work... But you want to concentrate on your career first and not get all tied up with someone that wants to pop the marriage question in 12 months time
Why not have a few male "friends" and if you feel an attraction to one, let him know that your interested in dating him but your not ready for any commitment, you want to concentrate on your career, you'll be faithful if it ventures that way, but you will keep an open mind about dating others..
Problem is at some point even though you've told him, one will get attached and view you dating a new guy as cheating, even though you've told him up front....
When the dating stage finishes and sex comes into it, boyfriend and girlfriend comes into it, you are in a relationship...You can really only date one at a time exclusively and see where it heads making it clear that your not wanting marriage, or friends with benefits hopefully exclusively.
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
I think what you're asking for is... a paradox.
You can casual date as many guys as you want, make it clear from the start that you just want to date but not get seriously involved, but it's not very reasonable to expect the other to "wait for you" while you date others. I think this is something you'll have to accept/not think about. If you casually date a guy and one of you becomes attached then you can discuss this and tell him you want to be exclusive. If he feels the same he'll go for it. If not, then it wouldn't work anyway.
What I'm saying is: You want someone who won't do to you what you'll do to him, which is pretty much "unfair" in a sense. Bf/gf is "exclusive". Casual dating is just casual dating.
Be honest with them and tell them about your approach. Remember that there are men like you, who also want to casual date without it leading to anything more, which is not bad when you're on the same level. It will be just hard to find someone to 'casual date', who won't casual date others, while you will. Hard in the sense of "you want it all for yourself"
Depends what you can emotionally handle...
From the get go you MUST be honest. If you are honest to tell whoever you date that you arent looking for anything serious, then further down the line (and at the time) they will have no reason to be dissapointed with you because you were up front about your needs, and so it is their decision to put themselves in that casual situation.
Saves a lot of heartache. Good luck!
But most people who casually date aren't planning their lives together are still true to one another and do engage in sexual activity and thats when it becomes a problem because you want to be safe. I definitely don't know who came up with the idea you can date as many as possible cause it is cheating just because your not going on trips together etc doesn't mean much at all you can still be close and honest to one another
If you want to be safe, use a condom. Asking for casual not so serious dating is asking for them to date other people while dating you at the same time.
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