Thread: The dreaded long-distance relationship, and more

And when I say long distance, I'm talking the-other-side-of-the-world long distance.

So I've been with my boyfriend for four yrs, and the last two have been long distance. Here's the story: We met in college, started dating, fell in love, the works. (This was when I was still living in the U.S.). He'd only gone there for school, so I always knew that he would eventually leave. I didn't really give it much thought - who knew if we'd still be together, you know? But of course, he turned out to be the love of my life.

I'll skip ahead. Now it's time for him to go home. His family... big-time business owners; it was always assumed that he'd work there, so staying wasn't really an option. I still had a semester left in school, so the plan was that I'd join him there later. What can I say, I'm adventurous - at least I think so. Anyways, before I make it there, turns out we have a bit of a problem: his entire family wants nothing to do with me! See, we're different nationalities, and simply put, I am unacceptable for their son.

Now, he assures me that all they need is time. He didn't think it was a good idea for me to come over too soon. So I said, okay, if we have to let it marinate, let's do it.

It's been two years. Yes, we talk, we skype, our relationship is great, and I'm still very much in love. But I'm still here. And his parents still hate me. Okay, okay, not true. They don't APPROVE of me. He wants me to come now, but I'm suddenly...apprehensive? Is it really a good idea to move to a foreign country, different culture and language, no friends... and I'm going to be completely dependent on him. And I just want to make clear it crystal clear about how it's going to be. During a spring break before he left for good, he had to go take care of something and invited me along. His father would not even acknowledge my presence, and I stayed in their house for about 10 days.

He's very close to his family. And I don't think they're bad people. I would never make his choose - he'd be miserable and I could never do that to him. But they want nothing to do with me. HELP.