Thread: Exs and V-day

Are you two still friends? Are either of you in relationships?

Are you two still friends? Are either of you in relationships?

If it ended badly for either of you...definitely NOT do anything.

If either of you are in current relationships...definitely NOT do anything.

If you two ended peacefully/mutually/good terms and are still friends...then..maybe do something but as friends. Maybe see a movie or grab dinner or lunch. I would suggest forego the cards and gifts if he is your ex.

If he is someone that is not over you, then do not do anything. you do not want to lead him on or give him false hope.
If you're not over him and he has clearly moved on...don't do anything either. You do not want to open that flood gate of emotion and set yourself up for another heart-break.

It really all depends on the context of your guys' relationship.

2 of my ex- are born on Valentine's day, and since we have managed to have healthy relationships, I usually send a small message.
Other than that V day means nothing more compared to any other day.

Well, everything ended on a fairly good note. We go out to lunch twice a week since we go to school together. Today he went out of his way to get my favorite lunch and pay for it. We joke/flirt relentlessly, we always have. Out of the two, I'm definitely the one who is wanting to try the relationship again. Honestly, not sure what he's feeling? Wasn't sure if doing something romantic would be moving too fast if we even are headed in the relationship direction.

Oh, and no, neither of us have gotten into a serious relationship the fourish months we've been split up.

Glad you two ended peacefully and able to maintain a friendship. However, since you have feelings for him, I would suggest not doing anything romantic especially not knowing where is he coming from.

If you want to recognize the day, you can get him a card - not a romantic one- that says "hey, thanks for being my friend!" or something casual and upbeat like that!
Or maybe take him out for lunch as a "thank you" for him getting you lunch.

Whatever you do, keep it light hearted, fun, and laid back. Don't get too serious or romantic!

I think getting an ex anything for Vday wouldn't be a good idea, but in your situation he's not just an ex, he's someone you are actively interested in... still sort of seeing and trying to make things head that direction -- so in that case, why not? Why did you guys break up and why haven't you let him know you are interested in trying to work things out? If you are not ready to acknowlege that you want him to be more than a friend and ex... then you probably shouldn't do something for valentines... however if you are ready to go for it and let him know you want to try again, it might be a great opportunity to express that.

I am very fortunate in my relationship that my guy sort of treats every day like valentines day for me, not the showering with gifts part, but the appreciating me and letting me know how much he loves me... and I do the same for him. For a lot of people though valentines day is a day that sort of forces guys to acknowledge and be thoughtful, romantically, of their signficant other.

You could get him maybe a lil card or some other fun thing, you could ramp it up and make it more of a sexy day to see if you can spark his interest in something non platonic -- or you could get him something silly and fun and just keep it put away... maybe make plans to see other on that day and if he kept you in mind for valentines day you can give it to him then, and if he treats it like any old day and doesn't bring it up, then you could maybe hold on to it and wait til you are ready to express you want to re-ignite your sparks.