Is he no longer interested?

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-12-2011 10:16 PM

I don't think you need to give up on this guy entirely... I think you should give him some space, give yourself some space and let him start inniciating contact with you. He may have felt awkward after your sexual encounter... but you are right that its way not a big deal. He may have felt slighted at the movie theatre when you didn't introduce him, he may be genuinly busy with something this week... or yes, its possible that he just doesn't feel the sparks for whatever reason.

But I don't think him being a little distant is enough reason to throw in the towel entirely... you guys are newly dating, and just taking it slow and give each other some room might be just what your situation calls for. If he is interested in you, he WILL be in touch with you whenever this funk he's going through has lifted. If he takes too long by the time he does and you've already emotionally moved on at that point... then thats his bad luck. If he realizes what he has with you and gets on the ball and makes an effort to hang out with you, and you are into him... I say why not give it a shot.

But for now? I'd stop with the texts and calls at him, his short answers his blowing you off after the movie, his telling you he's busy this week... all point to him not making an effort, and its cool that you like him, but you need to feel liked too... so let him make you feel that way before you invest any more into things, invite him to things etc... let him pick up the slack and if he's interested.. he will and once you feel comfortable -- you can go back to situation normal.

**Rhysenn** · 02-15-2011 03:47 PM

thanks guys, you've all been so supportive. If I hadn't had your advice I'd probably be sitting at my desk pulling out my hair because I was so frustrated.
I've decided to move on, I guess I was looking for more out of this then he was.
We did talk though, and I found out why he was being to distant. He said he was concerned I ws getting too attached to him, not in a clingy way or anything, but that I was genuinely starting to like him, and he's moving to another province in June and didn't want to get into a serious relationship before he left. I guess I kind of understand that. Eventually he told me he just wanted to keep things casual between us.
I can do casual, I've done it before, but the thing is that I already really like him. I told him this, and I told him that I can't promise him that I'm not going to want something more serious in a few months. And I don't have what it takes to be part of a long distance relationship. So I told him it would be best if we just ended things.
Now I might be getting ahead of myself by ending this because of the possibility that we'll still be together when he leaves and the possibility that it will break my heart seeing him go, but you guys are right, I'm more invested in this than he is and it's only been a month and I want to get serious with him even though he clearly said he doesn't want that.

Thanks again, I'd be a confused mess without all of you

**LadyLena** · 02-18-2011 09:00 PM

Well, This certainly May NOT be my place to say as I JUST joined. But I'm thinking it coudl be TWO things here. One, he's embarrassed the did'tn come to a climax OR becuase you had oral sex,, he took you as being FAST. NOW. Please DON"T be upset with me. WE (most woman) Want to please a man We care for or ar ein love with, but he maybe kind of old fashioned and thought the oral sex was jsut way to fast an intimate for the relationship. Again, I coudl be WAY off BASe here. Just my thoughts.

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