I have been living with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and everything is great..up until he leaves.
See he's a musician and he's always busy with band stuff and he's also in a band in another province so that can get a little tough for me sometimes, when he goes away it's really hard for me to sleep. I get little to no sleep I just need someone in the house with me. He's going away pretty soon for 10 days and I'm worried I wont have enough energy to make it to work, with the lack of sleep.
I've talked to him about this before, but I cant tell him what to do, it's his life and he knows how I feel, but it's his passion. Do I really have a right to deny him freedom and fun because of my poor sleeping habits. I don't think so personally.
Anyways if any of you out there have some advice I'd really appreciate it.
i dont see why you cant go with him but then again you do have work but if you get lonely invite one of your friends over or a family member or buy a cat or dog a pet will always be there when you feel lonely.
I have a cat, and I can't go with him when he is recording at a studio, I have gone with him to stay out there before though, I have friends out there so I just hang out with them while he jams.
I also have friends stay over, but I can't have someone stay over every night he's gone, I think thats a little too much.
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I think conditioning yourself to be able to sleep on your own is the answer - your ability to sleep really shouldn't depend on anyone else, that's probably a bit unhealthy and can get you into trouble at times like these when you know your partner is going away.
Maybe get a dog - they're more emotionally dependent on people, would give you something to fuss over.
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Work on you and your sleep while he is gone.
Make your bedroom a place for sleep (and sex when he's home) only. No TV, no radio, no other distractions.
Make it as dark as possible...pitch black is ideal.
Go to bed at the same time every night...weekends too. As soon as it gets dark where you are is a good idea.
Drink a glass of warm milk about fifteen to twenty minutes before going to bed. There are chemicals in milk that help you sleep.
Get some exercise if you can at least three hours before bed time. Any closer than that can negatively impact your ability to sleep. Walking outside in the fresh air for a half an hour will help. Do this several times each week.
Look for other helpful suggestions on the internet on a trusted web site like web md.
There are many things you can do to improve your sleep and sleep habits that don't include drugs or supplements.
IMO - Only use OTC drugs or supplements as a last resort.
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