Boyfriend going to a party tonite without me
It is my boyfriends best buddy's birthday party tonite - I'm almost 24 and have no interest in that kinda thing anymore - I know it will just be a bunch of 30 somethings trying to relive their youth and getting stupid and drunk - long story short, he is going, I am not. I am not into it. I feel bad because if I go I won't wanna be there and if I don't go I will worry all night til he comes home to me. He isn't a cheater or anything, but I have bad thoughts anyway. I'm paranoid. Any similar stories so I don't feel alone? Lol. Do you and your spouse have seperate social lives and go out seperately sometimes? I am totally not used to this. First time in our relationship he is going somewhere without me.
Well there will be bucks parties too, hens nightsHe's 30 or there abouts, not 18 so he's going to be somewhat sensible and get home safely.
It's important to have independance, and important to just purely trust..Otherwise, the relationship won't go far anyway..
This is where you go yay, me time, mmm what do do, shall I catch up with some friends? Or take a nice long hot bath with candles and a book, glass of wine and spoil myself...
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
I like your take on it... Hehe. I like to play on SecondLife so maybe I will find a party on there for myself. LoL
Enjoy your own seperate time, absence makes the heart grow fonder
Absolutely this. Don't see it as a bad thing at all... if he's not a cheater than don't even freak yourself out about it.Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH
It's not like he is trying to "sneak" off to the party either. If you don't want to go with him you'll have to learn to trust him.
Having separate social activities/interactions every now and then is perfectly healthy. It sounds like you both live together so it is sometimes necessary to give each other breathing room.
Also, he invited you to join him. It's not like he doesn't want you there or is hiding anything from you. The way you are feeling is totally normal. Sometimes your just not into going.
I get nervous sometimes when my SO goes out with out me, but when you feed your insecurities don't be surprised if they grow. Trust is key.
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