Thread: in dating limbo

I wouldn't stress out over it. He hasn't been in a relationship before. If you enjoy eachother's company just keep doing what you are doing. Taking things slow is not a bad thing. You have to ask yourself what the title would give you which you don't already have. Be cautious though- you should draw the line somewhere.

If he gives you reason to think he is intentionally avoiding what the relationship actually is- then it would make me leery and frankly, I wouldn't even want to be his girlfriend.

I was in this same situation. We were exclusive but he would not admit that we were boyfriend and girlfriend. It has more to do with his own personal interpretation of the terms and fears/paranoia over what the expectations mean. It can be easy to accept if both partners don't mind the "no label" with all the other parts, but usually one person feels a bit offended that the other person doesn't want to proudly boast about their "gf/bf." If this is the case and it's really bothering you, feel free to put space between the two of you more than normal so he's not so comfortable and sees a need to pursue you again. It'll get your point across in a way you don't need to verbalize.

thanks everyone for your help
Talked to him during the week and basically just put it out there that are we really any different to what a boyfriend and girlfriend would be, ive met all his family, THEY call me his girlfriend, we meet every chance we get, we dont see other people, were physically intimate,HELLO?? but anyway I ended the conversation saying im just going to put the whole relationship thing on the back burner and just enjoy each others company for what it is. That was Wednesday and by Friday he asked if we could take the next step He said the thought of me backing off is more frightening and scary than a relationship. Everything is all good and hes grinnning everytime he calls me his girlfriend. Im thinking reverses psychology works!!! haha