Thread: Stealing a kiss vs. Talking? (Male)

My background: Male, 20 years old, United States

A few months ago a girl and I who were friends started to give dating a try. Things went well and we had a good time together but about a month after that she broke up with me. The break up was really no fault of hers. But to be fair, it was not my fault either. She's been through a lot of serious problems in her life, especially for her age. Her emotional baggage prevented her from being able to be in a relationship (at least that's what she claimed). I understood and told her that either way I still wanted to remain friends. I almost want to cry when I think about what a hard life she's had (I'm hoping a bunch of women won't call me a p***y for that). Unlike most, we stayed friends and I just kind of accepted that we wouldn't work out and moved on. I still missed her and even though I saw something special in her I figured the break up was for the best. I assumed she felt the same way and I started dating a few other girls casually. Recently she's been showing signs (which I perceive) meaning she wants to get back together. She keeps touching me, teasing/flirting, joking around, wanting to spend a lot of time together, calling at least once a day etc.

Would it be better for me to just steal a kiss from her when the moment seems right or just tell her that I want to talk and get back together. It takes a lot more courage to steal a kiss, but is it more romantic? The last thing I want to do is offend her. It's not like we haven't been comfortable touching and kissing each other before. We did everything but have sex. I was fine with this. I saw something special in her and was willing to wait until she was ready. But we broke up before that. Even though I'd love to have sex with her and make no apologies for that, I'd much rather wait until she's ready then call up a casual girlfriend. I'm tired of the random sex and would rather be with someone I care about. I know women also like to talk much more than men, so I'm pretty much torn. I figure that if she really wants to get back together, we'll get back together whether I kiss her or whether I just tell her. But stealing a kiss is much riskier. On one hand it seems more romantic and memorable if she is receptive; one the other hand there's a larger risk of her becoming offended.

I would not just randomly kiss her if I didn't truly believe she wanted to get back together. Thoughts?

I've found that if you're having trouble putting your feelings into words, sometimes a kiss is totally the best way to express what you're feeling. Since you've dated before, and obviously kissed before, I'd suspect you're at less risk of seeming "disrespectful" because you're not going in completely blind. And from your tone, you seem like a really respectable dude, so if this girl's as great as you say she is, I think at the very least she'd appreciate the sign of affection.