Thread: I just don't understand

I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months, for the past 2 months he's been going through a rough patch.

He's been feeling very lost like he doesn't know who he is anymore. The last time I saw him he opened up to me and told me about a lot that was going on.

About how his father doesn't want to see him anymore, and how dropping out of college and losing his job has pushed him to sign up for the military. But how the coast guard might be the best thing for him, that when he gets back from boot camp he would be able to provide me with more things.

That maybe we could move in together, and be together for the long haul. But mainly, he says he just feels very sad and alone.

I told him that no matter what happens, I am there for him. I will help him through this and I will be there as long as he needs me to be there.

Yesterday we had plans, his friend was having a bbq and I was suppose to head up after work. I called him telling him I was off and that I was going to head home first to shower and get ready. He responded by telling me he hasn't gotten ready for the day either. He said he's been lazing around all day and hasn't felt like doing much of anything. I said that was fine that I could just drive up now and we can be lazy together, we didn't have to go out.

He told he'd call me later once he felt like doing something. I was confused, because he knows I now have 2 jobs and I'm trying to balance my time, and he knew I had to go to my second job later that night. I told him that I had to go to work again at 8 and that I really wanted to see him today cause I probably wouldn't be able to for at least 2 days. He came back yelling at me and telling me over and over he's depressed,

I don't understand and that I just need to move on. I was completely blind sighted. I didn't even know what to say, all I could say and think was 'Why?' I told him I only wanted him and I didn't want to move on.

After him yelling and telling me pretty much the same things over and over all I could yell back was 'This is the biggest cop out of ever heard in my entire life, if you just don't want me anymore just grow up and tell me.' He told me he's just screwed up and that doesn't mean he doesn't want me, then hung up on me.

He turned his phone off and it's been off since then. It sounds kind of dumb, but I sent him a long facebook message expressing how I feel and really getting it all out. How I just didn't understand. That just the other night he made all these future plans with me, and now he's just telling me to pretty much go away.

He didn't respond and I haven't heard from him since. And what even threw me for a bigger mind edited by Admin was the fact that he was tagged in photos at his friends bbq.

This turned more into a vent then a question, but it felt really good. I'm just so confused, here is this guy, who I think I'm falling in love with and he's just thrown me away so easily. I have no idea what to do.. and I guess I just need some sort of advice on what am I suppose to do next? Nothing? Move on? Is what he told me real or was it really a cop out? I'm just feeling so lost and confused.