who has it harder...

**fiestypunkgirl** · 07-08-2011 02:40 AM

...in the dating world: men or women?

Clearly its tough for guys because they typically are expected to initiate conversations, ask for numbers, (which puts them in a position of possible rejection) show interest...but not too much so shes not creeped out, impress her on dates, etc.

On the other hand...

Its tough for women too. Because we have to play the game. and thats really hard to do sometimes! (maybe more so for some rather than others :-P) We have to wait to be "chosen". If we dont, they lose interest because that makes it too easy to "catch" us. We cant make ourselves too available, we have to keep them interested, remain aloof (or act like it), etc. Its difficult in different ways, in my opinion. but which is harder?

What do you think? Why?

**jns** · 07-09-2011 02:28 AM

It is hard on both because a person who is serious has to open themselves up a little, no matter what sex or what role.

**Texinator** · 07-09-2011 06:27 AM

Originally Posted by fiestypunkgirl

Its tough for women too. Because we have to play the game. and thats really hard to do sometimes! (maybe more so for some rather than others :-P) We have to wait to be "chosen". If we dont, they lose interest because that makes it too easy to "catch" us. We cant make ourselves too available, we have to keep them interested, remain aloof (or act like it), etc. Its difficult in different ways, in my opinion. but which is harder?

If a guy needs you to play hard to get to remain interested, then he's not really interested in you in particular in the first place, he's just interested in "the chase." If two people honestly like each other, they should just get together and there is no need for any games to be involved.