Thread: Do Background Checks On Your Dates!

There will be some people who read this blog and say to themselves, "I'm not insecure", when in reality...everyone to a point is insecure. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a bit insecure. The problem comes when you let your insecurities get the best of you--where as you ask your "friend"/partner questions like.... "Where are you?"... "Who are you with?", questions like "What did you talk about?"...or even say stuff like... "Call them back and put them on speaker phone." No one should have to go through that....Man or Woman. And to be honest...most people act insecure and get mad at you to justify their own actions. Another thing...Being hurt in the past shouldn't be reason enough to be insecure. It's as if the person is making you pay for the things that their former partner did to them. This is why it's so important to heal before we get into any other relationship. The accuser might not see things the same way as the accused, but it is emotionally draining and after a while...the accused does one of three things...

1. They go out and do the very same things that they're being accused for

2. They find comfort im some else's company (even if they're not sexual with that person)

3. They eventually leave the relationship due to the emotional (or sometimes physical) battering.

My suggestion...
If you're the accuser....check yourself before you check your "friend". Maybe that person may not be doing the things that you accuse them of, and because of your own past experiences....(which you shouldn't be bringing to the table anyway)...you lose someone who is or was important to you. Each person is different and should be treated as such.

If you're the accused....you also need to check yourself. If indeed you are/ were doing things that caused your partner to be insecure...correct it before the situation gets out of hand, if you want it to work. Sometimes you 'act out' hoping to end a relationship. Most of the time, the relationship is not even worth it. Whatever the reason, this is not the best tactic; you don't want to end up with your kids crying over you talking about "Mommy...wake up". And we definitely don't want to see you on the seven o'clock news.

I agree that background checks are needed. For the purposes of seeing if their married, if they have criminal history or maybe a sex offender. We have to be safe.