Past relationships...
Do you think it's alright to talk to exes when you're in another relationship?
In my opinion I believe that you should leave the past in the past. There's not much of a reason to really keep talking to your exes after your relationship is through.
Why do so many feel this way? There is a reason others are your ex's and your with your current SO. I think it's a bit insecure on the partner that doesn't want the other to talk with their ex's. Why not? Because your insecure?
My SO talks with and sees many of her ex's when we're out, exchange hugs, etc. No big deal. Get over it.
It really depends on the ex. My ex, for example, still from time to time emails me saying how he'll never love again and other ridiculous things like that. I would never meet up with this person and "exchange hugs", but Seeker I definitely have seen instances where what you describe is possible.
It depends on you and your exs.
Well I dont think a person should receive new pictures and keep them from their exes... They don't really need that anymore
Is that what you are experiencing? I'm a little confused, maybe you could shed some light for us on your personal situation?
Ok. 2 years ago when I first got with my bf he would talk so highly about his exes. Describing all their good qualities knowing that I lack those qualities. I talked him about it and let him know how much it hurts me to hear that his exes are better than me. He stopped talking about them. For 2 years I felt like I needed to be better than them so he would love me more than he loved them. We broke up about a month ago. After a week he called me and begged me to come back. He told me that I would have to deal with him talking to his exes because they are his friends now. I have a serious issue with him talking to his exes because I'm scared he'll go back to them because I don't think I'm good enough. I've created my own insecurity and I know that. And he wants me to get over it and I want to get over it as well. But... He keeps texting one of his exes and he has been receiving photos from her on his phone and keeping them... And that makes it extremely hard to get over my insecurity.
Ooh. Him talking like that about his exes almost like it was deliberately to put you down is very unusual... and not good! Also exchanging pictures is definitely odd in my opinion. I don't exchange pictures with my platonic friends on my phone, much less with an ex when I know it would hurt my boyfriend.
Do you really need to stay with this guy? You're already broken up, he doesn't sound like that great of a catch to be honest... why not move on? You've already gotten through the tough bit (actually breaking up), now's your chance to re-build your self-esteem and have fun in life. And later you might meet someone who shares your opinion on proper communication with exes.
Don't go back to someone who brings you down, regardless of whose "fault" it is. Clearly the dynamic between you two isn't working. I say move on.
Oh my mind is telling me to move on, but my heart is telling me to stay and fight. He really just doesn't understand how I feel and where I'm coming from. I've tried talking with him about it but he always calls me crazy and that makes me angry so I stop talking to him. I really need to sit him down and let him know that if he wants me to get over my insecurity, that keeping pictures of his ex isn't helping me, but that it's keeping me from getting over it.
See I've never been insecure in my life. I used to think that I was the best of the best (I used to be pretty conceited). And since I've never had to experience this I don't really know how to tackle it.
Honey, staying friends with ex's is okay, providing there is nothing to hide, you know? Like you meet them too, know about them, them about you and boundries are not crossed. Pictures is boundries crossed.... You can post a picture on facebook to keep things up to date with "friends" not, personally to your ex...If he tells you, you are crazy? You tell him what I said, and that he is crossing the boundries...Imagine if he, found photos on your phone from "men" just friends he'd flip right?
The problem is he knows he can get away with it, just put it back on you, yet you get angry because you know that he's wrong and he's trying to blame you..yet you can't yet stand up for what is moral..Now is the time
You know it is guys like this "the blame game, pfttt, it's you not me" that bring women down to be more in-secure...they know that they are wrong, they truly do.. What they hate and run to is a woman who does the reverse, pfttt you are gone, nothing wrong with keeping ex's as friends but accepting their photos is disrespectful, guess what? I am worth more............
Spanner in the works? Now that you have said that? He's in-secure not you and he's bringing you to his level because he thinks that you will run off with someone better, make you jealous and you'll stay, love him and think he's the best of the best, you'll stay, fall down to his level,darn should have read that firsti used to think that I was the best of the best
So mam,go back to who you were and smile, call him out, tell him you love him and tell him no photos or else....If the above paragraph is correct? You'll know that is what it was, if not and he thinks he is better and he is just doing what he wants you will also know because the first one is "caught out" and he'll admit it...
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Enough said thereThere is a reason others are your ex's and your with your current SO.
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
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