my boyfriend recently came out as bi

**riksta** · 08-13-2011 09:28 PM

After 2 years together and 2 babies, my bf has recently told me he likes men doing things to him. He says he just attracted to the male penis, but im not sure that could be all. I have no idea what to do, what were his reasons for telling me. i am very insecure i only had our 2nd baby 5 wks ago and he told me this only a couple of weeks. I have suggested we do things in the bedroom that may satisfy him, but it seems unless its a man he dose not want a bar of it. He does look up gay porn while i am with him, and he dosent mind that but i feel very vunerable and clingy afterwards, don't think i could handle him being with another man. He said he is very attracted to me and loves women but likes penis, he says he wants to be with me for the rest of his life.He has been with 2 guys, only sex and didnt see them again, he says he can just ignore the feelings but what if they get too strong? i am so confused i dont know what to do, i cant talk to family because no one else knows about this. Can some one pls help me, can a relationship like this work. I have been supportave with everything to do with this, i love him very much but its all i think about and its driving me mad in the head.

**rosekitten** · 08-13-2011 10:37 PM

I'm bi and my husband and I are just fine. It may or may not be something you're comfortable with, but what about using toys with him? It's not the same, by far, but it is better than nothing so far as his end of it is concerned. As far as for you, why does it bother you? Seriously, think about it. You don't have to share it here, but what is it that really bothers you so much? A person can ignore their desires 100%, but that doesn't mean he's going to run around and screw whatever guys he can find, either.

**Mes T** · 08-13-2011 11:23 PM

I can see why you're nervous. The question is, does he feel like he needs to experiment more with men? Is he going to be sexually satisfied with just one woman in his life, or is he going to need both to remain happy?

I think this is something you need to discuss. It's one thing to be bi, and another to have a "curiosity" that begs satisfaction.