peacefulangel26

Ok...well i'm currently a high school girl and I'm the kind of preson who really take a relationship seriously and never get into one until i know that is who last for a good deal of time....i have to admit that I love dating and have a boyfriend, but my mom is totally against it.....she went crazy the last time she found out that I was going out with this mexican guy and that he kissed me on the lips...The guy's name is Ricky and we love each other....well at least we think so...he and i reallly don't want to break up cause both of us "know" that we can not live without eah other...I think i'm old enough to know that parents are more important then a guy so one day I told him this and he seemed to understand...then he said..."but, I really do love you...I'll wait for you...no matter how long it takes." ....WHY DID HE HAVE TO sAY THAT!...well, during the summer I met him at our weekly Student Gov. Meeting...And that was when we found out that I was president and he was Vice presdent for next year....JUST GREAT! It was so hard for us to stay away from each other, after the meeting we had to say good bye to each other, but it was so hard just to leave him without giving him a hug...so I gave him a hug...he held onto me tight and then looked at me... "Can I kiss you?" I wasn't thinking!...I let him kiss me and then he walked me to the bus stop and then I went home....i felt bad and now I can't think!..please help me I don't know what to do ...I don't want to lie to my mother but I have so much feeling for this guy...I don't have the heart to leave him for reals...And sorry I'm writing so much...

LaVitaDolce

I understand where you are coming from because I've been there done that. I am only 18 (about to be 19 in a few days) and I'm with the same guy I met when I was in the 8th grade. My mom was okay with it, but my dad hated the idea, just like your mother. He kept me away from him so I started to do bad things (sneak out, skip school, etc.) And it really hurt me in the long run.

So my dad sat me down and we had a 2 hour discussion about it. He told me I could see him on certain days for a certain amount of time.. And I was thrilled! I thought some time was better then no time. And it was.

Maybe you could do the same. Sit your mom down and talk to her about it and see if she will set some sort of limits for you. Maybe he can come over for dinner a few nights a week or something. I wish you the best!

cubanochicka2330

i agree, you should just talk to your mom in a completely civil conversation. Shes your mother.. its not like she can hate you for being a completely normal teenager. Shes just realized that your growing up and is probably scared ****less. But, like i said..talk to her. And follow the advice you got before me..even if its just a compromise thats better than nothing. This boy sounds like a sweetie, and if hes really into you that much.. then you cant loose him. Because great things like that dont come around often. Good Luck!!

Ravsoma

Oh my. Your mother sounds like mine.

I can't talk to my mom about boys and sex. All she does is laugh. She told me I could get a boyfriend when I turned 16 and I've been 16 for a few months now. When I started talking about boys she just looked at me with anger and said, "...I hope you don't have a boyfriend." I got ****ed off and told her that one day she won't be able to help it if I got a boyfriend. Meh meh.

Sure, sneaking around your mom to be happy sucks because you feel as though you mother should be happy if you're happy making smart decisions, but rarely none of them are. I'm sure she wants the best for you and only thinks that you can't handle the pressures and the maturity level required in a relationship, but I think it's time for you to prove her wrong and let her know that you won't always be the child anymore. You'll be her child...but not a child, get me?

If you and Ricky are going steady and are safe and responsible you should tell your mother that and let her know that you know what you're getting yourself into and that if you can sense anything going wrong you'll pull away. She probably won't believe you because of your age and the sure fact that you're her daughter, but that's why you have to prove it to her and maybe you have to sneak around and get to it. You might get yelled at, but in the end if the yelling can make her look like a fool I think it's worth it... (What a horrible thing for me to say)...

For the record, I've had 25 boyfriends...and yes, they were all behind her back...'Cept one. She met that one, but never thought we were dating.

Hopefully, this helps some and one more thing, don't ever be ashamed or scared to expressed the way you feel with Ricky. It's the worse thing to feel bad for liking someone... Having that thought that you're mother is constantly watching you... Gross. T_T