Thread: What has become of me? Tell me your story to help inspire me.

Originally Posted by wednesdaymorning

Thanks you guys for your responses.

It's tough, you know? He came over last night and was very nice and sweet and funny and it makes it hard to imagine that he can be so mean. I'm thinking the best way may be to, instead of digging up the past and all that, tell him he deserves better and he should go find a new girl.

When he said those options I listed, I just knew that he wasn't serious about any of them except the "fixing it" one. He called and asked if I had come up with any answer and I said "Listen, I don't think I'm going to like sex and I don't think you're going to not like it..." and those were the only words I got to say before he launched in to a tirade. "This is about compromise! We're a couple! Are you seriously leaning towards--we should be looking for creative answers like maybe we could have sex every three months. Of course, in between, I'll need *other stuff* but I don't think that's too much to ask!" et cetera.

I mean, it isn't fair that I don't want to have sex with him, right? Man I am such a coward.

These responses are actually helping build my confidence though, believe it or not.

Don't u dare tell him he deserves better--what so when u finally get guts to leave he can go and do the same thing to someone else? He is manipulating you. He knows he has to be sweet and nice to be around sometimes otherwise he wouldn't stand a chance. You need to get angry and u need to work on yourself. This is just as much your doing as you've stayed with the abuse long enough for him to know he can keep doing it. It's called being an enabler. What have your family said? I'm guessing they've told u to leave (if you have told them everything-if they think it's an ok relationship it's because u haven't been open with them) if u have told them everything are they over telling u to leave as u just haven't? There is only so much other people can say. U want people to tell you to leave to make u stronger but at then end of the day u just need to leave and have a life with friends and fun and who knows u might meet a guy that makes sex so nice u want it all the time---or you can be a doormat. If u want to have a bad life stay with him. If u want a good life, take the above advice and change locks, ph number etc. Tell him your breaking up with him. Don't enter into argument. He knows why uv left him. If he insists on a reply tell him he is manipulative and ruining your life. This whole "were a couple thing" is so wrong. Just leave and the newfound respect u have for yourself will get you through missing the "good times" which were only fabrications of his to keep u submissive anyway.