Just a little confused

**sine101** · 09-21-2011 09:43 AM

Im just going to jump into it..

I was on Facebook one night and came across a friends brother whom I haven't spoken to in 8 years -we took a couple classes together in high school nothing more.. So I added him.. after he accepted my request he instantly emailed me saying hi! I emailed back - we continued the conversation via email for about an hour when I sd lets just text - makes more sense and I know your a good person. I gave him my phone # - he sent me a text right away.. alright, is this guy interested or just pulling my leg...

We text for a couple days, pretty much the entire day - with pauses of course when were at work and what not.. I find out we go to the same gym and we have a fair amount in common.. He asked me what I was up to on the weekend, I was super busy - he was like oh ok, well I'm going to the gym on Sunday I sd I would meet him there - the first encounter since high school! I was nervous but sd sure why not? So Sunday rolls around and I'm at the gym doing my own thing - I moved machines and started to "ski" when he came walking over with a huge smile on his face and was like hello?! We hit it off from there.. I finish up and we left together. We were at my car chatting when he mentioned that he is a diabetic - no big deal - I sd to him well I was gonna invite you out for ice cream tonight but it seems you cant have any... his instant reply was "nope, I'm coming!" So do you like me or do you just want ice cream?! lol

We hit off, had a great night. He gave me the most heartfelt sincere hug I felt in a long time from a guy - Ive been single for almost 3 years now. Had a bad break up and decided I needed to take me time and get my stuff together and find MY happiness

I text him that night to say thank you again and I had a great time - he sd he had a really good time too. So the week passes, we continue to text... I asked him if he wanted watch a movie on Sat. He sd sure. We watched a scary movie and a couple others that night.. we both passed out, me tucked nicely into his arms - hes 6'6 and Im 5'8' so it works out nicely

It was about 2am when we got and up and he was like i think its time for bed, I grabbed my coat and stuff and asked if he would walk me to my car - his response: of course I am and can you please msg me when you get home so I know you made it safe.. again another awesome hug - no kissing; wasnt ready for it.. he never forced it or showed that he wanted it... I was talking to him the next day and sd thanks for having me over and what not.. he sd no problem I had a great time too

Its been 3 days and it seems although things have changed.. he rarely texts me, seems like he is busy and just doesn't want to talk... although Monday night we had a great conversation (via text) and I pretty much put it out there that I like him and he said the same thing. I ended up going to bed early that night so I sd good night and mentioned for him to text me tomorrow when he has a chance... He didnt all day.. I ended up seeing his car at the gym I didn't go looking for him I did my own work out till I guess he was leaving and saw me cycling in the corner - he turned around and came back up the stairs to talk to me.. we ended up leaving together and chatting by our cars - he was different it seem... so now what? Is he playing it cool, did he loose interest over night, another girl, upset over not kissing? I wanna ask but I don't want to seem eager to know whats going on.. ya know? lol

I think I feel the way I do - always nervous, butterflies in my stomach etc bc I really like him.. I haven't felt like this in a long time - I've dated over the last couple years but nothing more than a couple dates bc I find out that I'm not interested and don't want to waste anyone's time.. so now I need advice please... Do I just leave it or what??

**KMonte85** · 09-21-2011 09:58 AM

I think you're butterflies are getting the best of you! This guy obviously likes you, he said so..

There's a good chance he was busy (happens to the best of us). You mentioned he was "different" when you saw each other at the gym - how so? Did it seem like maybe he was nervous? It is totally possible that he's a little shy now that it's out there that you like each other... it can make things a little awkward the first time you see each other when you admit your feelings via text.

Ask him out Ask him what he's doing this weekend (in person) and see if he wants to see a movie or a show or go to dinner or whatever the two of you might enjoy.

**sine101** · 09-21-2011 11:30 AM

He was different in the sense of distant? As in not so much joking around - more serious... we always joke around - it didn't feel like it so much yesterday. Maybe he did have stuff to do and I'm just crazy! lol I have text-ed him this morning and hes gotten back to me right away each time.. but not with all the smiley faces and such that he usually sends to me.. hmmmmm I don't want to give up but apart of me wants to run bc I want something to start or for him to show me more??I feel as though I have all this negative energy... I'm the type of person who likes things done yesterday, not today or tomorrow... but than again.. he is a guy...

**KMonte85** · 09-21-2011 12:39 PM

Patience is a virtue.

Put yourself in his shoes once. You just reconnected and moved pretty quick into getting comfy with each other. Maybe he's worried that he's coming on too strong, maybe he's worried that things between you are moving pretty fast and he doesn't want to rush and ruin anything.

You might be the fast and furious type, but perhaps he's not!

This is why it's good to talk stuff out, like.... over dinner

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 09-21-2011 03:08 PM

I agree, with KM, he made the move with the ice-cream, then he said, time for bed and you asked him to walk you to the car, he said, text me when you get home so I know you are safe, all good signs.

But I think you are making all the moves, in panic, fear, sit back and wait even if it's a day, make him wonder if you actually do still like him, I think he realises you do but there is no chace for him... Not sexually, just the dating chace which is fun..

I'd sit back no matter what, if he hasn't communicated in 3 days, send him a smiley and say are you smiling today?

Then I'd probably quit with the text messages if he replies with yes, and say "good, call me".. Start talking on the phone...and make another date suggestion if he doesn't, and nothing wrong with a kiss mam....