Thread: fear of the unknown

i am in a very happy relationship that has started to go downhill due to my trust issues. my boyfriend has never cheated and never thought of cheating. but for some reason i cant find a way to trust him. hes very romantic and emotional, and im very worried that he will get caught up in a romance with a coworker or something. i know i shouldnt and i know its wrong, but i tend to read his emails to spy on him. a few months ago, he messaged a friend and said "if i were single, jane is really cool" (one of his coworkers). during this time, we were having some issues. he is 25 and i am 20, in my senior year of college, and he was feeling sad that i had to go back to school. he doesnt love that we are in two very different places in life, as he wishes i had graduated last year so i could move in with him (as do i). but anyway, he went on in his email to his friend that he does not DESIRE jane, but she is the prototype of someone he would date if he were single (good job, has her own place, well into her adult life). its not that he wishes that was different about me, but it just makes him sad that he kind of has to wait another year to start OUR adult life together. so his comment about how she was cool was just a manifestation of his frustration at our different points in life. but anyway, he still talks to this girl a lot. they talk on gchat for like an hour per day while they work at separate desks. nothing flirty or inappropriate, just office chat and life chat. but this is making me so nervous. if he thinks this is the type of girl he would date if he werent with me, should he be talking to her at all? isnt he worried that the more he gets to know her, the more likely it is to develop into a crush? ive told him that i dont think its appropriate for either of us to flirt with or like other people, and he agrees, but im so afraid this is going to turn into something for him. do i need to get over it? if he isnt flirting and neither is she, its probably innocent...right?