The guy I went out with hasn't called in a WEEK - normal?

**rnl1990** · 10-11-2011 03:08 PM

Alright, here's the whole story.

We met on a dating site, Plent of Fish. He is the one who contacted me. We got along really well and had a lot of chemistry.

We met that week and went out on two dates. We couldn't get enough of each other. He was very sincere, saying he couldn't believe how lucky he was to meet someone he liked so much so soon.

He would text me almost ever day and we would talk pretty often.

The next week came. I asked if he wanted to hang out the coming weekend and he said probably not because he would be busy, but maybe Sunday if I had gotten over m sore throat (I was pretty sick). I told him I'd probably just go home for the weekend in that case and we could talk when that day came.

That was the last I've heard from him. That was last wednesday, the 5th. I've sent him some texts since then, once Friday when I wished him a good weekend, and once yesterday (Monday) when I asked how it was.

He has missed my texts before, so thinking that was the case I also left a voicemail last night, just saying, "Hey, it's me. Haven't talked to you in a while, so I was just calling to say hey. Give me a call sometime if you like. Bye."

Now I'm just going to wait... I'm worried, becuase I really really like this guy and he seemed to like me too.

My question is.... what's the longest you've gone between talking to someone while you first started going out? I mean, it has only been a week, so it doesn't mean he isn't interested anymore, I guess... but I'm just wondering if it's normal for someone to wait so long between contact.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-11-2011 03:16 PM

Honey, chemistry is not all that there is.. If he was on Plenty Of Fish, then there are two reasons, 1) to hook up or 2) to seriously look for a relationship and that goes beyond just chemistry where as 1) is only based on chemistry

Tell us about the two dates...

Don't text him again, even if he misses text messages, honestly if he is/was so keen to speak to you, he'd be checking his phone...

A question I have to ask, did you sleep with him? Or fool around? I know there is no rules really for when you say yes, verbally or physically but often, if someone is looking for something serious, there needs to be the "chase" and acknowledgement that he / she is the one, waiting for that special moment and not acting on chemisty...

If your answer is no, I didn't, then maybe there was chemistry but no chase still, as you didn't allow him to make the contact you texted, he didn't reply, then you texted again, he didn't reply, then you left a voice message, he didn't reply, so there is no chase, he knows he can have you...IMO.

Sit back and wait, let him chase you, that's all you can do now sweet. If not, don't stress it, it means there is someone better out there for you...

**kristalyn_04** · 10-11-2011 04:02 PM

Perhaps he just is really busy, but don't smother him. That might push him away and turn him off. Most guys like to be the one to initiate, so let him come to you. If he doesn't, then maybe he wasn't all that interested in you, or the constant contact with you so soon pushed him away. In that case you just need to take it as a lesson and move on.

**Irishfan** · 10-11-2011 04:37 PM

Coming from a guy, he has probably lost intrest. Sorry to say. Many men are scumbags, not all. If you had sex he is more than likely feeling smothered. A big turn off for most men. The worst mistake a woman can make is to give it up to soon. If you really want to know if a guy is into you make him wait at least ten dates or one month the longer of the two.

**StevenR** · 10-14-2011 06:36 PM

Here are two questions - 1) has he not contacted you at all since your date and 2) did you leave a VM on a land line phone or his mobile phone?

If he hasn't even replied to a text, that's lame and move on.