thing is I LOVE HIM and i know he loves me i just don't want to make the wrong decision just b/c he act weird the last month...I mean i just dont know if it fair bc i havent heard his side ....dealing with his finals and dealing with family maybe he just cant handle all the pressure that has been put on him. He doesnt deal with this kinda thing well so maybe this is him pushed to the limit. I just dont want me to think back at this and be WHAT IF
Sounds like you're making excuses for him to justify the way he's been acting. You can't always wonder "What if" because if its meant to be, it will be (as cliche as that sounds...its true). If a break is needed, take a break. It would be for the better of the relationship eventually if it does work out.
~Today, any person can fight the battles of one day It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternity's- yesterday and tomorrow, that we break down. It is not the experience of today that drives people mad. It is the remorse of bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring.
Let us therefore, live but one day at a time.~
I have to agree with lizzard, lvt.
You're excusing his behavior, saying it's because he's young, he's under a lot of stress, he's been taught to flee conflict from his parents....
An excuse is not a justification. He is treating you poorly, he is not even meeting BASIC relationship needs, and you are here telling us you've had enough.
He could have 1,000,000 excuses, but not one is good enough if it means you have to be unhappy in your relationship with him. You deserve to be happy, you deserve to be with someone who loves you, cares for you, and thinks you and your feelings actually matter (because they do). Don't be scared to tell him that he has to change his ways or you will walk. Give him the benefit of the doubt if you think it would be fair, but he must be willing to hear you out, and he must be willing to make some changes, make you feel like you're a priority in his life. If he can't do these things, then the only option you have is to move on and find a man who cares for you as much as you do him.
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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