Thread: Oh poo...now what?!

I know its the right decision. I still crave my own space. simple as that

A few months after my boyfriend and I got together, we had to move as well. We thought about moving in together, but decided we would give it a year. We found apartments right across the street from each other, so we could walk back and forth. It was basically like living together, but in two places :] I think it wasn't a bad idea at all, because we had the benefits of living together, but still had the safety of having our own places in case it went wrong. After that year of "living" with him, I knew I was very ready to actually live with him.

Recently, my friend Rachel moved in with her new boyfriend, because he was afraid that her not wanting to live with him was a sign of her "not having faith in their relationship." He ended up cheating on her, and telling Rachel that she had four days to get out. She had nowhere to go. Some people rush into moving in with each other BECAUSE they have little faith in their relationship, and feel the need to find some glue to keep it together. Living together is certainly glue... but it's hard to get un-stuck if you need to like poor Rachel.

I also dated a guy who was a bum, but when he wanted to live with me, he suddenly started doing chores. He wanted to prove that he would be good to live with... but I knew he was putting on an act, and would have stopped all cleaning and chores as soon as we lived together. You need to learn whether your new boyfriend is REALLY the household dream-come-true you describe him as ;]

I'd say give it a year. Get a small apartment for yourself, so that you can learn about the differences in the way you treat your living spaces. A year goes by fast for a successful relationship!

Aza...good idea, and I think thats what we are going to do. He is going to move into my other building that I run, and act as a representation on my behalf. My other building is only 10 steps away from its sister building, but it works! and hes still close!! So really, its the best of both worlds

thanks

Be careful about him helping you out on the job (I assume that's what you mean by representing you?) Your job is not just your current moneymaker, but references from it can affect future job availability and the ability to move on up to the East side I don't know the particulars of your job or how it all works, but just make sure you can keep the business separate from your relationship and don't let him take you for a ride.