A really embarrassing question

**kodakbaby** · 01-30-2012 11:41 AM

Dont feel embarressed or weird. I was a Virgin up until a couple months ago and i just turned 23 on Saturday. I however did not care what people thought and was determined to wait until i was ready and was only goin to give it to a person who i thought deserved it. My bf and all family and friends knew i was and although i was teased at times they all respected my choice. Many say they admirend me for waitgin. My bf never pressured me i did it because i felt i was ready and that he was the right person. And until this day i dont regret it and even if we were to break up, i would know i did it because of me and not anyone else. You should not feel embarresd, you should feel proud. & about the whole sex thing and positions its like everything, with practice you will learn. I know how that can feel i felt weird, and still til this day i feel i needa learn more. But anyways just make sure you do it because YOU are ready and with someone who u think will appreciate you and not someone who will try to pressure U (i met many of those, trust me).

**lizzardb63** · 01-30-2012 11:58 AM

Don't worry about pleasing him either. You will, and having sex isn't always about pure pleasure, it's a way of expressing how you feel about someone. Sex isn't always amazing, but it's worth it no matter what, because it's an expression of how two people feel about each other. Don't worry too much about the "Will it feel good for him" or "Will I do it wrong"... it's a natural thing and you'll realize it's not anything you know until you do it. Kind of like kissing. It comes natural and you learn new techniques the more you do it.

**Seeker_Advice** · 01-30-2012 03:30 PM

There is no 'dumb question' or nothing to be 'embarrassed about' in here, first and foremost.

We are all anonymous, from all over the world (literally), mostly adults who have a genuine interest in helping one another.

There are men in here too, I am one of several, and there are GREAT moderators who monitor the site to keep the 'undesirables' off of the site.

So fear not my friend...Ask anything you want to ask and talk about anything you want to talk about.

This is a great place to 'discuss' about anything.

We are glad you are here!

**James1978** · 03-30-2012 11:38 AM

First, you are not a looser. Second, I was a virgin for a lot longer than you. (30) I know, I know. Horrible right? But circumstances, life, standards, etc, are all a part of it. Obviously I'm in a unique situation to sympathize with you, but I honestly don't think a good guy will judge you, or think you are a looser because you are still a virgin. I think the best thing to do in your situation is try to meet a guy who you like, and trust, and has a good character, morals, etc. Then just go one step at a time. I think, for me, one problem I always had before I finally lost it was that I was constantly worried about doing it from the minute I met a girl. But then I realized that if I just worried about one step at a time, it would all fall into place on its own. For example, on the first date I just focused on having a good time and getting to know her and enjoying being with her. On the second date and third date, same thing except that I actually got some kissing in there. Once we were comfortable enough with each other, the sex just happened. The only thing I would suggest NOT to do is sleep with a guy just to get it over with. I think the best thing is to be open to guys who want to date you, but don't keep any guy around who doesn't treat you well. There's nothing wrong with a guy who wants sex in a relationship, and making him wait forever may drive him away. But a good guy, who really cares about you will let you know how he feels and do whatever it takes to make you feel comfortable with him. Then, it'll just happen. As for the rest of the physical stuff... I think a woman should answer that. lol. Good luck!