Thread: Cheated On my Boyfriend.

I never said that I expect everyone to agree with me... When did I say that?

I have no experience with sex unless you consider oral, but I do read up.. a lot. Spend about 70% of my day reading. I know it's nothing like experiencing it, but when you get it from a Kama Sutra expert you might as well explain to everyone else... And no, I don't get everything I say from a book. I actually have other experience which I won't get into.
Who says just because I'm a virgin I can't give out information on masturbation...how to please your man other than sex...how oral sex feels.
Just because you have sex doesn't mean you're a God on it. Outsiders can have the same advice, too.

I think you're wrong when you say that just because I'm 16 that I expect a man to be faithful to me. Any woman in her right mind expects that. She might not get it and she'll acknowledge that fact, but she wants it and needs it. I'd love to find a boyfriend that didn't cheat on me every living second of the day, but recently I've notice that guys my age and around my age are ready for something like that, so I've taken a break from the dating scene. I bet you didn't know I knew that, now did you? Don't assume that just because I'm 16 that I'm naive and inexperienced. I'm somewhat of the complete opposite.

I think you took what I said to her personally and I apologise even though you are not the creator of the thread with a problem. I told her what I said would be harsh and she accepted it, but you on the other hand haven't. Sorry.

Of course the adults were apologising to me because I'm the little defensive child that needs comforting whenever I have a tantrum. They didn't bother to apologise to me because they finally see my side and understand me more. Thank you for knowing exactly what goes on in their head. Now I know that the only reason an adult will apologise to me is because I argue back. It's not because I make valid points or can make them think.

This is a forum. You're right about that. People from all other the world can come to a forum and post. Are you trying to tell me that if I can't agree with someone that I shouldn't post at all? I don't think anyone, but the admin has the right to tell me when or when not to post and she has told me not to let people get to me. I shouldn't have let you get to me because you know nothing of me and it would be foolish of me to think that you do.

Thats okay though cause you are just going to have to deal with it!

And deal with it I will. Although, it is a shame that I have to deal with people who only consider my age as an important fact... Oh well.

Thank you and have a snappy day.



To the thread maker - Do what you feel is right. Tell him or not. Later, you'll see the success or error in your decision.

Ravi Out.

You know what kid I didn't come on here to argue with you!! I gave this girl my own advice and stated my own opinion, you didn't like oh well!! And I didn't tell you, you couldn't post I simply said why do you post if you can't handle when people are going to disagree with you! As a matter of fact I didn't say I can read those other people minds but I do know that you got really defensive with them and they sympothized with you!! Anyways Im not going to keep argueing with you, I don't know you, and you don't know me, so this just going to go on back and forth here. You don't like the advice I gave to this girl well OH WELL!! She accepted what I told her you didn't so there is really nothing to fight about here. You do have a attitude where you add a little $mart *** tone to it!! thought and thats what I took as offensive, I didn't attack you remember you attacked me with your dissagreeing with me and you didn't like when I posted back!!

Originally Posted by miserable mom

You do have a attitude where you add a little $mart *** tone to it!! thought and thats what I took as offensive, I didn't attack you remember you attacked me with your dissagreeing with me and you didn't like when I posted back!!

Please...refrain from calling me kid. I have a name and it's Ravsoma. Use it respectfully.

I'm not being smart. This is me being nice after I get a little hyped up. All I did was quote you and give my opinion because your post seemed a little off.

I felt that she should think about him. She said it was something that was getting to her and the best way to get rid of something like that is to get it off your chest. I also wasn't treating her like a bad person. I made it very clear that even though I do not know her that she is most likely a very nice person... in my very first post to her.

Now, excuse me for being so rude. I know it's childish of me to do so. I just have to watch what I say next time or else I get banned. XD

A glass of cold lemonade would come in real handy right now. ^_^

Originally Posted by dgirl07

I did come for advice. and i appreciate all that you have put out there. I didn't come to hear what I wanted to hear. I came to ask what people thought of the choices i've made with the situation so far. and i have gotten exactly what i came for. and i have gotten advice from 2 different sides.

I've been given advice from someone who absolutely is against cheating and someone who believes its ok to keep this one thing from him. It has given me so much to think about that at this point I'm not sure what I will do with the sitaution.

I just know that I love this guy. In the 4 years I have know him I have never lied or kept anything from him until this. And he was hurt when I told him I kissed another guy. But we have worked on our relationship and right now it couldnt possible get any better.

As you know I do feel guilty about hiding it from him and that I dont want to tell him because I know I will lose him and I know that you think thats selfish. But I also don't want to tell him because I dont want to hurt him more that I already have or cause him to have any more grief in his life.

But seriously thanks so much for your in put. you truly are a very smart and mature person for your age.

-fans you away- Oh no.. No no no. None of that. XD

Meh... Do as you please. If you feel it's better for the relationship, do so. But just letting you know that if it stays on your mind it's there for a reason. -nod nod-

...If you do decide not to tell him... which it seems you already have... treat him good, okay? It would break my heart if you didn't. Also, stay by him.

You're very welcome.

Ravsoma, I know I said I was not going to argue with you and Im not but Im just going to say one more thing, what do you mean my post was a little off? Why is it off because I could relate to this girl and understand why she doesn't want to tell him? You know you take this situation way too personal!! Remember I didn't say that cheating was right at all, she knows she made a mistake and she feels guilty for it, telling him will only make it worse. It doesn't make no difference whether or not she told him she slept with the guy because regardless she still cheated and he knows that. And if you read my post correctly you will know I don't condone cheating, I don't think its right, I just believe that some things are better left unsaid especially if its going to jeapordize the relationship more. Like she said she feels really bad, and hopefully she will learn from her mistake. Not everyone that cheats cheats again!! For some people that is what makes them change their ways, they realize they hurt someone plus they realize this someone is the person they love. Now that could be a real eye opener for some, they almost lose that special person and they learn to do whatever possible to keep them after that. You just have to think of it front both points of view and not just your own.

Originally Posted by miserable mom

Not everyone that cheats cheats again!! For some people that is what makes them change their ways, they realize they hurt someone plus they realize this someone is the person they love. Now that could be a real eye opener for some, they almost lose that special person and they learn to do whatever possible to keep them after that.

I really appreciate this^^^. That quote really defines what changed in me after i cheated. I became a whole new person. Even to this day in every aspect of my relationship I have changed how I treat him. I used to be the kind of girl who threw relationships away and didnt care about hurting someone. If I was in a relationship with someone and they didn't like how I acted or things I did I would simply say "hit the road jack." But not with this current boyfriend. Before him i was a party girl, i was a b**** in general, and i just did not give a rip what people thought of me. And because of him I have changed it all. I actually think about my actions and how i treat people. and i feel bad if i don't treat them right. i have completly given up my party girl image.

and until now i had not realized how much i had changed myself to keep my relationship strong. and i think now i know that i am doing the right thing in not telling him the absolute truth.

it may be selfish and some may think its wrong. but i have become a better person due to this man, and even though i made the mistake i made, im not willing to give him up because of it.

MISERABLE MOM-
thank you.