i suck when it comes to dating!!

messymind · 09-27-2007, 08:52 AM

okay..i have been in almost three relationships this year, and i can't seem to hold on to any of them. The thing is, it's not really the guys, its me.
i think i could be classified as a "heartbreaker"! my friends tell me that i rush into one relationship after the other, and then as soon as i get them wrapped around my finger, i nitpick something about them and dwell on it for a couple months, and then let them go. for example, i was dating this guy for almost 9 months(my longest and latest relatioship) and i thought i was soo in love with him the first part of the relationship, then all at once, i found soo many things that i couldnt stand about him to the point where i couldnt even stand to talk to him and of course, broke it off. this wasn't the first time this has happened..actually its happened about, 5 or 6 times. and now im already dating another guy who i think i really like, but im not sure if it'll turn out the same way as every other relationship. what is my deal!?!

**sourpuss** · 09-27-2007, 06:24 PM

No one is perfect. You'll just have to start to let the little things go. It's hard, I think I'm like you sometimes, I know I drove my ex crazy with all the nagging and nitpicking.
Every time you find yourself annoyed with something, try to immediately think of two things that you do like about him. Then think, is this one thing that I don't like a bigger deal than these two things that I do like? Usually, you'll find that those little things don't really matter in comparison to the really good things about a person.

**dgirl07** · 09-28-2007, 03:35 PM

i can totally be understanding of your position. i used to be the same way jumping from one relationship to another all because i would get annoyed with the guy. if you read my latest thread post im still in this same situation but i am starting to realize that i just have way to high expectations.

im not saying that its the same way for you...it was just a thought and i absolutley agree with sourpuss im actually going to take her advice and try it in my situation.

hope things work out for you.

messymind · 10-15-2007, 09:10 AM

well me and dustin, the guy i am dating now and again, broke up last week, and i've found bigger things to nitpick on him than anyone else i've dated. so, the next day im all bummed out at school and i see this military guy who just happens to be a new kid at our school. so 4th hour comes along and he's in the same class. we start talking and asking each other questions then he asks if he can sit at lunch with me. so i say yea, and then he turns out to be this creep and he starts pooring his heart out to me telling me im the most gorgeous greatest girl he's ever met and he would love to be with me calling me lovey dovey names such as baby, honey, beautiful, gorgeous, sexy blah blah blah..and i can not stand clingy guys anyway, so this is just completely overboard, not to mention its not even been an hour knowing each other. he happened to live in the same town as me which is just bizarre because noones lives in the town i live in, so asks me for a ride home. i figured there would be no harm done with that so im like sure. when i get to his house, he tells me to hold on, so i do..5 min later he gets back in my car and says my mom says i can go to your house..i didnt know how to react so i just kinda went with it, even though i was terrified and im one of those people who are just way to nice. so were at my house and hes all over me! so i told him he needed to go home early cause i was really tired..when i dropped him off i had no intentions on ever seeing the kid again. the next day he calls my house like 20 times and i was not goin to answer! so me and my cousin go to town and my mom calls me and tells me this new guy is at my house! i freak out and i dont know what to do. so i get home and hes cleaning fish with my brother and talking to my dad. I try to be stand offish and just stay away! he comes up to me, all over me again, and hes like, what wrong baby?? you can tell me anything.. come and talk to me.. whats wrong whats wrong whats wrong??!! finally im like you need to go home and he's liek why and i say, because i think you waqnt to be much more than friends and im far from wanting that..sorry..he was super bummed out but what could i do?!..so i take him home and he tries to kiss me and im like, no..sorry. and he leaves. the next day he keeps calling me repeatidly, and im just hoping hes not going to spontaneously show up at my house again. then i talked to dustin that day and i realized how happy i was with him and how i need to be more thanful for those people in my life and that he's really a great guy! Dustin agreed to make a few changes with his attitude and i agreed not to nitpick him like i do..we both are soo happy together now and i think we both learned a lesson from this whole experience..

roxxie1 · 10-21-2007, 08:14 PM

I was married for 8years and am recently back in the dating game. well i have to say these guys have plenty to complain about. i have never met such babys in my life... yes i agree that we have to realize everyone is not perfect as well but we are dating a bunch of yutzes. I dont know what else to say sometimes we have to go thru many relationships and dates to find the one that works for us. good luck to us all. lol

09-27-2007, 08:52 AM	#1
messymind Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 8	i suck when it comes to dating!! okay..i have been in almost three relationships this year, and i can't seem to hold on to any of them. The thing is, it's not really the guys, its me. i think i could be classified as a "heartbreaker"! my friends tell me that i rush into one relationship after the other, and then as soon as i get them wrapped around my finger, i nitpick something about them and dwell on it for a couple months, and then let them go. for example, i was dating this guy for almost 9 months(my longest and latest relatioship) and i thought i was soo in love with him the first part of the relationship, then all at once, i found soo many things that i couldnt stand about him to the point where i couldnt even stand to talk to him and of course, broke it off. this wasn't the first time this has happened..actually its happened about, 5 or 6 times. and now im already dating another guy who i think i really like, but im not sure if it'll turn out the same way as every other relationship. what is my deal!?!

10-15-2007, 09:10 AM	#4
messymind Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 8	thanks...& listen to this.. well me and dustin, the guy i am dating now and again, broke up last week, and i've found bigger things to nitpick on him than anyone else i've dated. so, the next day im all bummed out at school and i see this military guy who just happens to be a new kid at our school. so 4th hour comes along and he's in the same class. we start talking and asking each other questions then he asks if he can sit at lunch with me. so i say yea, and then he turns out to be this creep and he starts pooring his heart out to me telling me im the most gorgeous greatest girl he's ever met and he would love to be with me calling me lovey dovey names such as baby, honey, beautiful, gorgeous, sexy blah blah blah..and i can not stand clingy guys anyway, so this is just completely overboard, not to mention its not even been an hour knowing each other. he happened to live in the same town as me which is just bizarre because noones lives in the town i live in, so asks me for a ride home. i figured there would be no harm done with that so im like sure. when i get to his house, he tells me to hold on, so i do..5 min later he gets back in my car and says my mom says i can go to your house..i didnt know how to react so i just kinda went with it, even though i was terrified and im one of those people who are just way to nice. so were at my house and hes all over me! so i told him he needed to go home early cause i was really tired..when i dropped him off i had no intentions on ever seeing the kid again. the next day he calls my house like 20 times and i was not goin to answer! so me and my cousin go to town and my mom calls me and tells me this new guy is at my house! i freak out and i dont know what to do. so i get home and hes cleaning fish with my brother and talking to my dad. I try to be stand offish and just stay away! he comes up to me, all over me again, and hes like, what wrong baby?? you can tell me anything.. come and talk to me.. whats wrong whats wrong whats wrong??!! finally im like you need to go home and he's liek why and i say, because i think you waqnt to be much more than friends and im far from wanting that..sorry..he was super bummed out but what could i do?!..so i take him home and he tries to kiss me and im like, no..sorry. and he leaves. the next day he keeps calling me repeatidly, and im just hoping hes not going to spontaneously show up at my house again. then i talked to dustin that day and i realized how happy i was with him and how i need to be more thanful for those people in my life and that he's really a great guy! Dustin agreed to make a few changes with his attitude and i agreed not to nitpick him like i do..we both are soo happy together now and i think we both learned a lesson from this whole experience..

10-21-2007, 08:14 PM	#5
roxxie1 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 20	i too am out there.. I was married for 8years and am recently back in the dating game. well i have to say these guys have plenty to complain about. i have never met such babys in my life... yes i agree that we have to realize everyone is not perfect as well but we are dating a bunch of yutzes. I dont know what else to say sometimes we have to go thru many relationships and dates to find the one that works for us. good luck to us all. lol

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09-27-2007, 06:24 PM	#2
sourpuss WH Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Montana Posts: 2,187	No one is perfect. You'll just have to start to let the little things go. It's hard, I think I'm like you sometimes, I know I drove my ex crazy with all the nagging and nitpicking. Every time you find yourself annoyed with something, try to immediately think of two things that you do like about him. Then think, is this one thing that I don't like a bigger deal than these two things that I do like? Usually, you'll find that those little things don't really matter in comparison to the really good things about a person.

09-28-2007, 03:35 PM	#3
dgirl07 VIP Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 50	i can totally be understanding of your position. i used to be the same way jumping from one relationship to another all because i would get annoyed with the guy. if you read my latest thread post im still in this same situation but i am starting to realize that i just have way to high expectations. im not saying that its the same way for you...it was just a thought and i absolutley agree with sourpuss im actually going to take her advice and try it in my situation. hope things work out for you.