Turtle09

Hey everyone! I really hope that you can help me on this one! I am a junior in high school and have quite a few crushes but there is one in particular that I Really like and we dont go to the same school but I met him a few months ago hoping to find some new friends in a small town that I just moved to..anyways lang story short, he asked me if I like him and I said yes and then the next day I was talking to him and out of the blue he just said oh and by the way my friend thinks that your nasty and then he told me his brother said that too and I almost started crying it really just ruined my day and really wouldn't that ruin your day to? You know I'm not a skinny girl and I'm not over wieght but why do guys have to be such a$$ holes about everything especially when they reject you?

sourpuss

That really awful. Junior high can be such a terrible time. Ugh!
Hang in there. Some kids are just jerks simply to make themselves feel better. I know that doesn't make you feel any better.

The good thing is that he goes to a different school. Just drop him and don't talk to him anymore. I know you liked him and it will be hard but he doesn't deserve to have a friend like you if he's going to be mean. It just doesn't work that way.

Do you have some nice girlfriends you can hang out with at your school?

rosewater

Listen, your body is still developing and this guy is young and is just being a plain old a$$. At that age guys minds are in a fog. Honestly, the biology of a boy developing and things they think of would shock you.
I'm 25yrs and in high school I hung out with alot of guys(I dressed like a boylol). I would hear the "inside" of what they would talk about girls and thats why I wasn't interested in dating at a young age. Whan I was 14yrs old, my friends mom said to me "you have your whole life to kiss boys and date.Think of them as limited, dont give them away easy, each kiss has value". So, I just focused on myself,friends,family,school till the right time came and I'm so happy that I didnt waste it.
Trust me, EVERYTHING changes after high school. Your friends,life,body,mind,self and guys. Well, guys take a bit longer lol.
Just try and put your energy into yourself and the rest will come to you.
Goodluck and take care!

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rosewater

jen0519

If these things didn't happen then you would never turn into a strong woman! I think that these things happen to all of us at some point. You grow from it. You are smarter about the next time. And it does change after high school, but most guys are still jerks! They are just more mature jerks! But after you know how to tell the difference between the good and bad, you won't have to waste your time on jerks anymore. It will get better. Every day a little more.

kaylar

When I was fourteen there was a girl
named Jill. Jill was two years younger
than everyone else, because she was
a genius.

She was cute as a button, but looked
her age. And did nothing to try to
look older, or be 'popular' because
she was a genius and came to school
to learn.

Of course she would get the best grades
and shortly was skipped ahead into
High School, where the other girls,
those who would get pregnant before
their final year, those who would fail
their subjects, but know the latest
dance, and all the other s tupidity
that kids get on to, could ridicule her.

She got a full scholarship, of course,
and was accepted at a prestigious
University, where she did a double
major, and was virtually drafted into
a Master's program.

She never dated, and she never worried
about it.

Being a genius, she could say;

"I never planned to get married in
Junior High, and since the purpose
of dating is to find suitable husbands,
it was a waste of my time."

There is one time in your life when
being absolutely selfish and me centred
is acceptable, that is when one is in
school.

You are there to learn. These years will
shape the rest of your life.

These years will determine if you will
be the lawyer or the defendant, the
doctor or the patient, the success or
the failure.

The School goddess in my year, Janelle,
the prettiest, coolest most popular
girl?

She wound up as a sales clerk in a
shop. The high point of her life
was being the prettiest, coolest most
popular girl in High School.

arbitraryglance

Two more years till you graduate! Hang in there. Although that guy may be cute, he's clearly immature and mean. He won't make it too far in life with that kind of attitude.

It might hurt a while but keep your chin up.

Now, there's no reason why high school and dating can't happen together. However, it's important, especially for us girls, to know how important education has on our future. Never give that up. It is your ticket to complete independence. Even when you fall, you don't have to depend on anyone. You will have the power to get back up.

However, if you fall in love along the way, don't fret. Even if you get hurt, heal and move on. Don't lose yourself.

And although he is mean and took advantage of your feelings, do whatever you need to do to prove him wrong. There's nothing bad with working out, improving your own image and be the person he can't even dream of getting. Don't do it out of spite of course. Do it for yourself and you'll learn, that every time you fall, it motivates you only to be better.

Good luck girl.

rocknrollqueen:)

I'm also a jr. in high school & lacking a boyfriend. Except I'm in an all-girls school, so I don't even know any guys. Until I get to college, I'll pretty much just have to be satisfied with a magazine pic of my celebrity crush on my door. Lucky for me though, I don't have to deal with jack a$$es like you did. Sorry that happened to you.Try looking closer to home... meaning in your own school. It will be easier to tell when someone will be mean to you if you know them better.