18 year old boy wants marriage??????

**dgirl07** · 11-29-2007, 06:57 PM

So lets start with the basics.

I just turned 19 and my boyfriend will turn 19 in 4 months. We are both out of high school, and working and in school. We dated 3 years ago for 6 months, but we were young and living in different towns so we ended it.

Well we started dating again and We have been together 8 months and we have had our fair share of problems. But in the last month and a half (i know that isnt a long time) our realtionship has reached its strongest point ever. We don't fight and we're happy all the time and we spend most of our free time together.

We have always talked about getting married, since the first time we dated, and that is something that i really want with him. But here is the part that i think is weird.

He talks about it all the time. Not ALL the time but he absolutley brings up getting married more often than I do, and I dont mind it because as i said i do want that.

But is it weird to anyone else that he is only 18 and he is so into the thought of getting married?

**Little** · 11-29-2007, 07:15 PM

Maybe he's going through a phase? Is there something going on at home?
You know, these days, it's quite socially acceptable for two people to move in together. They say that cohabitation ruins marriages, but I feel like if you find through cohabitation you could never marry a person, it's a save.
I would tell you to ignore half of what he says about marriage and attribute it to something outside that you haven't figured out yet, and if he's so into it, ask him about cohabitation if it's within your beliefs.
Good luck

**dgirl07** · 11-29-2007, 11:19 PM

Thanks Little!

I suppose it could be something going on at home, but he works and goes to school in the same town as I live, and his parents live in a different town so he really only goes home once a week. And we are always very open and honest with each other about stuff, especially family issues.

And yes I do totally believe in cohabitation, I think that you don't truly know someone until you live with them. We are planning to live together within the next year, but at the current time we don't have the funds for that. And as I said he stays with me 6 outta 7 days a week.

I dont know. I'm not complaining, that he says he want it and when he talks about it he doens't talk about it happening soon...he just mentions it and talks about like he wants it to happen in the next 2 years.

I just thought maybe that because he is young and if hes talking about it so much and seems so serious..that it must be something hes really considering?

But thats why I'm asking for opinions because i know I could be reading things totally wrong.

11-29-2007, 06:57 PM	#1
dgirl07 VIP Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 50	18 year old boy wants marriage?????? So lets start with the basics. I just turned 19 and my boyfriend will turn 19 in 4 months. We are both out of high school, and working and in school. We dated 3 years ago for 6 months, but we were young and living in different towns so we ended it. Well we started dating again and We have been together 8 months and we have had our fair share of problems. But in the last month and a half (i know that isnt a long time) our realtionship has reached its strongest point ever. We don't fight and we're happy all the time and we spend most of our free time together. We have always talked about getting married, since the first time we dated, and that is something that i really want with him. But here is the part that i think is weird. He talks about it all the time. Not ALL the time but he absolutley brings up getting married more often than I do, and I dont mind it because as i said i do want that. But is it weird to anyone else that he is only 18 and he is so into the thought of getting married?

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11-29-2007, 07:15 PM	#2
Little WH Junior Administrator Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: whjuniorad[at]hotmail[dot]com Posts: 1,559 Blog Entries: 4	Maybe he's going through a phase? Is there something going on at home? You know, these days, it's quite socially acceptable for two people to move in together. They say that cohabitation ruins marriages, but I feel like if you find through cohabitation you could never marry a person, it's a save. I would tell you to ignore half of what he says about marriage and attribute it to something outside that you haven't figured out yet, and if he's so into it, ask him about cohabitation if it's within your beliefs. Good luck

11-29-2007, 11:19 PM	#3
dgirl07 VIP Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 50	Thanks Little! I suppose it could be something going on at home, but he works and goes to school in the same town as I live, and his parents live in a different town so he really only goes home once a week. And we are always very open and honest with each other about stuff, especially family issues. And yes I do totally believe in cohabitation, I think that you don't truly know someone until you live with them. We are planning to live together within the next year, but at the current time we don't have the funds for that. And as I said he stays with me 6 outta 7 days a week. I dont know. I'm not complaining, that he says he want it and when he talks about it he doens't talk about it happening soon...he just mentions it and talks about like he wants it to happen in the next 2 years. I just thought maybe that because he is young and if hes talking about it so much and seems so serious..that it must be something hes really considering? But thats why I'm asking for opinions because i know I could be reading things totally wrong.