Do i keep trying of break it off?

bratney · 11-30-2007, 12:35 PM

(this is also on family and relationships i just wanted to see if anyone over here had any advice for me)

I've been dating my man for over 2yrs now. We do argue a good bit more than most people I know. I think it’s because we are very much alike. But lately it’s been over ****** stuff. He keeps telling me I have to grow up because I still like cartoons and I like to play around and joke a bit. But I do understand when I need to be serious about stuff. These last two weeks he just doesn’t want to call me anymore, he says he's not mad at me but I don’t understand why he won’t call me. He use to call me a few times a day. Now I have to call just to make sure he's still alive because he won’t call me at all. I’m starting to think he doesn’t care about me, my feelings or anything about me. What makes it worse is I have no one to talk to about it. My friends and parents don’t like him so they always blame him for everything. And it’s really starting to affect my life more than I would want it too. He ss one of those guys that think he's the "boss", if you understand what I mean? And it doesn’t bother me all that much if he doesn’t demand for stuff, as long as he asks i'm ok with this "boss" attuide. But it’s starting to get a little out of hand for me. I’ve said stuff about it before and he says that is who he is and if I can’t deal with it to go away. I;ve tired not to call him and give him space and I can last up till about day two of not calling him then I get over worried something’s happened to him (he has a long drive to work) or that he's moved on. When we are together at the same house he is so nice to me but when we're each at our own house and we have to talk on the phone he is really mean to me. Says I talk too much and he’s not a girl so he doesn’t need to be on the phone all the time so for and so on. I just don’t get it. Lately, I haven’t called him and took a little time for me. We did go out last Sunday (me, him, his 2 brothers, my brother, his sister, two cousins. Mom, dad, and his cousins friends) we had wwe tickets and my brother was dieing to go. That went all well and good we had a nice time together. He came by my house on Monday before he headed back home, that went all well and good no fighting just having a nice time together. This week he has called and wanted to talk which was ok. He begged and pleaded with me last night to come by his house and drop off his sisters present he left at my house. I really didn’t mind going I was bored and had nothing to do. I headed up there, while I was there he told me he didn’t want to know what life was like with out me (which I thought was sweet) but the last half hour I was there he started to get ill (I guess because he was sick, and I was getting a bit ill too) and so I headed out on my way to the car his dog got in the way so I moved her out of the way and he thought I kicked her and got very mean with me. Today I sent him a text joking with him that he got me sick and he replied saying I make him sick very day. I have no idea where that came from. He said I was a b**** when I came down, I don’t think I was but, I said I was sorry if I was. He told me not to say sorry it was just who I am. He says I’m a b**** and that’s who I will always be so there is not point in apologizing anymore. I know I can be a b**** sometimes and I do have a very short horrible temper (family trait for the little women) but I always say I’m sorry when I’ve gone to for, but it’s like its doesn’t matter to him anymore. I just don’t understand where he can be so nice one minute and then be so hateful the next. Maybe he is BiPolar or something. I think i’m just going to stop taking his phone calls. I don’t know what his deal is.

**sourpuss** · 11-30-2007, 03:20 PM

So why do you want this guy in your life again?

bratney · 11-30-2007, 03:31 PM

sometimes he is the sweetest person ever. and i love him to death. but he can be such an *** sometimes. i cant just seem to leave him ive tried and keep coming back

SecondGuess · 01-09-2008, 09:41 AM

It may be he's the sweetest guy and you may love him, but do you think you deserve to be treated that way? Even if it's hard to leave him, you need to have will power to stay away from him. It's all you, no one else is telling you to go back to him accept you. You need to go out there and find someone that will respect you and who you are.

jeanie_snowden · 01-09-2008, 10:00 AM

girl hes a jerk why do you thank you need him in your life? no wounder your parents dont like him.he sounds like to me he could get abusif.he might not hit you now but one of these days he probley will.get rid of him for your own safty.

11-30-2007, 12:35 PM	#1
bratney Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 12	Do i keep trying of break it off? (this is also on family and relationships i just wanted to see if anyone over here had any advice for me) I've been dating my man for over 2yrs now. We do argue a good bit more than most people I know. I think it’s because we are very much alike. But lately it’s been over **** stuff. He keeps telling me I have to grow up because I still like cartoons and I like to play around and joke a bit. But I do understand when I need to be serious about stuff. These last two weeks he just doesn’t want to call me anymore, he says he's not mad at me but I don’t understand why he won’t call me. He use to call me a few times a day. Now I have to call just to make sure he's still alive because he won’t call me at all. I’m starting to think he doesn’t care about me, my feelings or anything about me. What makes it worse is I have no one to talk to about it. My friends and parents don’t like him so they always blame him for everything. And it’s really starting to affect my life more than I would want it too. He ss one of those guys that think he's the "boss", if you understand what I mean? And it doesn’t bother me all that much if he doesn’t demand for stuff, as long as he asks i'm ok with this "boss" attuide. But it’s starting to get a little out of hand for me. I’ve said stuff about it before and he says that is who he is and if I can’t deal with it to go away. I;ve tired not to call him and give him space and I can last up till about day two of not calling him then I get over worried something’s happened to him (he has a long drive to work) or that he's moved on. When we are together at the same house he is so nice to me but when we're each at our own house and we have to talk on the phone he is really mean to me. Says I talk too much and he’s not a girl so he doesn’t need to be on the phone all the time so for and so on. I just don’t get it. Lately, I haven’t called him and took a little time for me. We did go out last Sunday (me, him, his 2 brothers, my brother, his sister, two cousins. Mom, dad, and his cousins friends) we had wwe tickets and my brother was dieing to go. That went all well and good we had a nice time together. He came by my house on Monday before he headed back home, that went all well and good no fighting just having a nice time together. This week he has called and wanted to talk which was ok. He begged and pleaded with me last night to come by his house and drop off his sisters present he left at my house. I really didn’t mind going I was bored and had nothing to do. I headed up there, while I was there he told me he didn’t want to know what life was like with out me (which I thought was sweet) but the last half hour I was there he started to get ill (I guess because he was sick, and I was getting a bit ill too) and so I headed out on my way to the car his dog got in the way so I moved her out of the way and he thought I kicked her and got very mean with me. Today I sent him a text joking with him that he got me sick and he replied saying I make him sick very day. I have no idea where that came from. He said I was a b when I came down, I don’t think I was but, I said I was sorry if I was. He told me not to say sorry it was just who I am. He says I’m a b and that’s who I will always be so there is not point in apologizing anymore. I know I can be a b** sometimes and I do have a very short horrible temper (family trait for the little women) but I always say I’m sorry when I’ve gone to for, but it’s like its doesn’t matter to him anymore. I just don’t understand where he can be so nice one minute and then be so hateful the next. Maybe he is BiPolar or something. I think i’m just going to stop taking his phone calls. I don’t know what his deal is.

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11-30-2007, 03:20 PM	#2
sourpuss WH Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Montana Posts: 1,374	So why do you want this guy in your life again?

11-30-2007, 03:31 PM	#3
bratney Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 12	sometimes he is the sweetest person ever. and i love him to death. but he can be such an *** sometimes. i cant just seem to leave him ive tried and keep coming back

01-09-2008, 09:41 AM	#4
SecondGuess Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 14	It may be he's the sweetest guy and you may love him, but do you think you deserve to be treated that way? Even if it's hard to leave him, you need to have will power to stay away from him. It's all you, no one else is telling you to go back to him accept you. You need to go out there and find someone that will respect you and who you are.

01-09-2008, 10:00 AM	#5
jeanie_snowden Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: ky. Posts: 18	girl hes a jerk why do you thank you need him in your life? no wounder your parents dont like him.he sounds like to me he could get abusif.he might not hit you now but one of these days he probley will.get rid of him for your own safty.