does he like me?

heynow · 12-03-2007, 06:50 PM

I have a guy friend. we have known each other since april and we became good friends. we started the way of getting together but it just fizzled and we are great friends. But he seems to tell me about the girls he hooks up with expecting a reaction. Then just today i tried to tell him about a guy i was talking to and he found something wrong with the situation when i wasn't asking for advice i was just letting him know my night. I don't want to post a too long message so my question is Does it sound like he likes me? I feel really silly writing this by the way because we are both in our mid 20's.

Goldm00n · 12-04-2007, 11:09 AM

That would be my guess......

arbitraryglance · 12-19-2007, 08:06 PM

If your guy friend is straight, has male buddies and has been going out with other girls, then that would be my guess as well. It's very hard for male and females to be just friends... unless you're entirely certain that he's not physically attracted (read disgusted) to you...

I learned one simple thing... guys don't waste time on "female" friends if they have guy buddies... unless he's in his teens or early twenties..

Not sure where you go from here... but if you're sure he likes you, give him the chase they all like.

If he likes you, he'll go for it.

Just do whatever you're doing right now. Don't change.

**Franny&Zooey** · 01-05-2008, 03:37 PM

Better yet, do you like him?

Sounds to me his actions could speak in one of two ways. Either A. He does care for you beyond a good friendship or B. He is reacting like an older brother, the protective sort. Do you two share any kind of physical contact; hugs, sitting close to one another, even hand holding? I had a good male friend, who was straight, that would hold hands with me, but it was understood that we didn't go beyond friendship. The best way to tell, besides just blatantly asking him, is to get under his skin, so to speak.

'Trigger' questions. When speaking to him about other men ask, "Does that bother you?", etc. When he is speaking to you, sound interested in all the women he talks about to throw him off. If he does like you, your sincere interest will agitate him. I've seen it done plenty of times.

heynow · 01-06-2008, 02:11 PM

i haven't talked to him in about 3 days. our last conversation was weird. We were talking about a girl he was seeing that was basically making a fool out of herself calling him all the time and crying if he didn't answer the phone. just making herself very desperate. well i said maybe i should have a talk with this girl and shake some sense into her because no guy is worth that humiliation. He then told me you would be the same way too. My response was a laugh and he seemed upset and said so you are telling me you don't want me. My simple response was i never asked and you never offered. Then he just went on and on about my ex and how i would jump back with him and just got really upset. so that was that i told him have a good night and haven't called him since. what does this tell you. I would be willing to give him a chance i just don't want to play games.

12-03-2007, 06:50 PM	#1
heynow Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 2	does he like me? I have a guy friend. we have known each other since april and we became good friends. we started the way of getting together but it just fizzled and we are great friends. But he seems to tell me about the girls he hooks up with expecting a reaction. Then just today i tried to tell him about a guy i was talking to and he found something wrong with the situation when i wasn't asking for advice i was just letting him know my night. I don't want to post a too long message so my question is Does it sound like he likes me? I feel really silly writing this by the way because we are both in our mid 20's.

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12-04-2007, 11:09 AM	#2
Goldm00n Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Somewhere in the cornfields of Nebraska Posts: 2	That would be my guess......

12-19-2007, 08:06 PM	#3
arbitraryglance Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 2	If your guy friend is straight, has male buddies and has been going out with other girls, then that would be my guess as well. It's very hard for male and females to be just friends... unless you're entirely certain that he's not physically attracted (read disgusted) to you... I learned one simple thing... guys don't waste time on "female" friends if they have guy buddies... unless he's in his teens or early twenties.. Not sure where you go from here... but if you're sure he likes you, give him the chase they all like. If he likes you, he'll go for it. Just do whatever you're doing right now. Don't change.

01-05-2008, 03:37 PM	#4
Franny&Zooey VIP Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Atlanta, GA, USA Posts: 75	Better yet, do you like him? Sounds to me his actions could speak in one of two ways. Either A. He does care for you beyond a good friendship or B. He is reacting like an older brother, the protective sort. Do you two share any kind of physical contact; hugs, sitting close to one another, even hand holding? I had a good male friend, who was straight, that would hold hands with me, but it was understood that we didn't go beyond friendship. The best way to tell, besides just blatantly asking him, is to get under his skin, so to speak. 'Trigger' questions. When speaking to him about other men ask, "Does that bother you?", etc. When he is speaking to you, sound interested in all the women he talks about to throw him off. If he does like you, your sincere interest will agitate him. I've seen it done plenty of times.

01-06-2008, 02:11 PM	#5
heynow Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 2	i haven't talked to him in about 3 days. our last conversation was weird. We were talking about a girl he was seeing that was basically making a fool out of herself calling him all the time and crying if he didn't answer the phone. just making herself very desperate. well i said maybe i should have a talk with this girl and shake some sense into her because no guy is worth that humiliation. He then told me you would be the same way too. My response was a laugh and he seemed upset and said so you are telling me you don't want me. My simple response was i never asked and you never offered. Then he just went on and on about my ex and how i would jump back with him and just got really upset. so that was that i told him have a good night and haven't called him since. what does this tell you. I would be willing to give him a chance i just don't want to play games.