Confused

peggy66 · 01-06-2008, 07:34 PM

So girls I need your opinion and hopefully some advice... i met the guy a year ago and we were both looking for a friendship... Over the year things changed, we still hung out attending sporting events going to dinner and other social activities. Each time we were together did not end with sex but quite often it did. So when I approach him this weekend telling him I have developed feelings for him he just clams up... I tried to explain my feelings of confusion because I am not sure where he stands, espcially since his job will be moving him to another location this summer... He basically told me to figure out what I wanted because he can't tell me what to do... My big problem is he showed no emotion, does he not care and has he been using me? Or is he stuffing his feelings because of the impending move???

**metalbudderfly** · 01-07-2008, 05:37 PM

hi peggy66,
well in my opinion he might of got the impression that you guys are friends with benefits. you said he showed no emotion toward you when you expressed your feelings about him. i think maybe you might of startled him. have you guys ever discussed being in a relationship before? maybe he doesn't want to be in a relationship because he doesn't fee like making a commitment and what you guys have is very open and casual. also maybe he doesn't want to get attatched due to his job relocation. another thing is also maybe he didn't want to hurt your feelings and thats why he showed no emotion. well i wish i could help you out more. i hope you get closure on this......

peggy66 · 01-07-2008, 07:22 PM

Thanks Lynne... what you say makes alot of sense

**metalbudderfly** · 01-07-2008, 08:09 PM

well i hope i shed a little light on this subject..... your very welcome!!!!!!

01-06-2008, 07:34 PM	#1
peggy66 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 12	Confused So girls I need your opinion and hopefully some advice... i met the guy a year ago and we were both looking for a friendship... Over the year things changed, we still hung out attending sporting events going to dinner and other social activities. Each time we were together did not end with sex but quite often it did. So when I approach him this weekend telling him I have developed feelings for him he just clams up... I tried to explain my feelings of confusion because I am not sure where he stands, espcially since his job will be moving him to another location this summer... He basically told me to figure out what I wanted because he can't tell me what to do... My big problem is he showed no emotion, does he not care and has he been using me? Or is he stuffing his feelings because of the impending move???

01-07-2008, 05:37 PM	#2
metalbudderfly Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: utah Posts: 210	hi peggy66, well in my opinion he might of got the impression that you guys are friends with benefits. you said he showed no emotion toward you when you expressed your feelings about him. i think maybe you might of startled him. have you guys ever discussed being in a relationship before? maybe he doesn't want to be in a relationship because he doesn't fee like making a commitment and what you guys have is very open and casual. also maybe he doesn't want to get attatched due to his job relocation. another thing is also maybe he didn't want to hurt your feelings and thats why he showed no emotion. well i wish i could help you out more. i hope you get closure on this...... __________________ LYNNE

01-07-2008, 08:09 PM	#4
metalbudderfly Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: utah Posts: 210	well i hope i shed a little light on this subject..... your very welcome!!!!!! __________________ LYNNE

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01-07-2008, 07:22 PM	#3
peggy66 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 12	Thanks Lynne... what you say makes alot of sense