Thread: why am I attracted to older guys?

Older men tend to have more wealth and power. They have more experience of the world, more to talk about. They may have more experience in the bedroom as well. Often they are more considerate.

But - as men get older, they are more likely to have physical problems, won't have the energy they had when they are young. They are less likely to do adventuresome things - have more to loose.

I think dating someone 20 years older is fine. But - if you think about a perminent relationship, think of the future. When you are a healthy active 55, they may be a failing 75 -some people are in nursing homes at that age.

My advice is rent, but don't own.

(this from a guy in his mid 40s btw).

Lol. I dated a 40 yr. old not so long ago and we had a texas chainsaw poster in the bedroom and he was always getting toys for christmas... not exactly what I was looking for. This guy I am seeing now... OMG! The way he kisses me, looks at me, everything. I am so in love with him. He and I have been dating for 8 months. He is the guy you see in the movies, holds your face when he kisses you, plays with my hair all the good stuff. I worry too that if we are together for any length of time that you are both right about his drive and himself depleting way before me. Definately something to think about and NO I am not in love with being in love. I have analyzed the S*** out of this relationship. Thanks though.

Being attracted to older men is actually a quite common thing. It is the situation I find myself in currently. I am 17 and dating a guy who just turned 24, whom my mother is slowly getting used to, but my father and Brother like him and his family likes me too.....
Anywho...
It is the maturity level for sure in this case.I am very mature for my age and so I need someone just as mature if not more so. Someone who I can have an intelligent conversation with and still know he is listening to and understanding everything I say. Older men know more and are also pleasantly respectfull, more so than younger boys whos first thought is to get into your pants and undo that bra as fast as he can..NoThankYou! yes older men are more experianced and are not afraid to suggest somthing ur all "" about..but thats just how life is..you cant be ready for everything...go with the flow...dont worry about WHY your attracted to older men...just take it how it is..it is perfectly normal and it is the best thing that has ever happened to me you will see it that way for yourself too

I went to college whilst I was at university for a year, so I was a 20 year old in a class full of 16 year old girls. For me, this proved that girls aren't more mature than boys. They all talked about completely vacuous ****, which nobody could even pretend to care about. Their existance was so shallow it was basically a line. Sure, they all wanted to LOOK mature, and to pretend to be mature, but they didn't have a clue. A few of those girls took an interest to me 'cos I was older, and I guess they thought that their maturity would be a match for mine (like ****).

Of all the relationships I know where the girl is about 17/18 and the guy is 23+ are unhealthy. They are NOT equal relationships, the girl is basically a child that they guy looks after (and shags, which is creepy).

My advice, try to be a kid, enjoy your youth, and stop tying to win respect by acting/pretending to be mature.