I wrote a thread on another section that could fit here to, but problem was i had difficulty working out where it would fit best.

Then i thought of one of the lines i wrote that would certainly assist everyone in dating.

If your separated are you still married. Yep. Single, yep, what do they call it separated, gee don't want to tell people that, they will think i may still have issues.

So, i didn't google that one to get that answer, but that just came to mind..

So, i'm out there in this dating world ( not now ) but was as a mature young 44 year old, tall and blonde, not now, brunette, funny story. And i'm concerened of a lot of things.

Get it right this time.

... How can i tell if he only wants to seduce me
...How can i tell if he is really baggage free
....Emotional un-attached
... Still loves his ex
....playing a game...

I learn't from a "seducer" that didn't get the change to seduce me, that if i "hear" his words and one goes "ping" remember it, google it later and ascertain the meaning of that particular word, of if it's a sentence, google the main word and work around that sentance.

It has worked a treat for me.

I know a phsycologist, that is he has trained in this field and his word was anticipation.

Now we all know what that word means, right? I anticipate it will happen.

Now when i googled it, "from a physcologist's point of view" and here was a whole new meaning pertaining to my conversation that showed that he wanted me to anticipate when he would next call, or what his next move was, so that i was wanting, lusting, but not that call, him.

Well in this instance, we've been dating now for 3 months and he's just ensuring i am not going anywhere as he doesn't live here. But see the difference.

I knew it would happen but did not know the term of which he would surely have learnt in his training, therefore, understood what he was doing, when i was a bit saddened by the messages getting shorter, little....... told him that many a time..

Seduction: - Ooh, that sounds exciting, the man knows how to make a woman feel sexy.

Now after my date with him clearly, that wasn't what seduction meant to him. And, i established that one real quick.

But when i googled, ****, how to seduce a woman and have her in your bed in 1 date, or 2 dates, no matter even if your ugly.

He was certainly not the type of man i would look at, but before i googled, he did 5 out of the 6 steps, so guess he read that site inside out and was practising, but i would not have been aware of it.

I'm in a relationship but i feel i need a bit more of an edge.

So i googled, and well here i am on this site and learning a treat as well as contributing....

So, pick a word, start really listening, it will come out, it can't be helped, we all say what we mean, it's how we say it and in what context.

You'll be amazed at what you pick up and learn.

Now, i am only talking about dating, not long term relationships because you'll get yourself into trouble if he says something genuine and you google and read something and interperate it all wrong. There, you communicate and ask the question straight to him other wise, no point being in a relationship if you can't communicate it also involves trust.

But with dating, you don't know him from a bar of soap and it does assist you learning about how men think or what he may have met on that first date.

Don't take it all in too seriously, again you'll go nuts. Use is simply as a method of learning and trying to discover.

More i think for an action than a word, as in this man tried to seduce me but was unsuccessful as i read the sites as well as my own not ready yet never on 1 or 2 or 3 dates, but that's me. But, he also used the word..

Happy hunting, doubt we'll ever understand fully men, but then doubt they'll ever understand fully, women.