njgirl

Ok. So about two years ago I got dumped by a guy. After three years together. Over the phone.
I spent about a year feeling sorry for myself and finally decided to make a change so I quit my job and moved to Europe to teach English.
I met a guy here who I was v3ery happy to have met because he is genuinely kind and thinks the world of me. The problem is, I think I let myself get into a relationship that is moving very quickly without really taking the time to let myself think about how I really feel about this new guy. The thing is, I'm not really that attracted to him, and I think I might have let myself drift into a serious relationship with him just, well, because it was something to do and it made me feel good.
We made plans to move to Canada (where he is from) and now I'm in a state of panic. I can feel myself distancing from him, and the worst part is, I don't care. I mean, I don't want to hurt him, though I'm sure I'm past the point of no return. My life has become so entwined with his and even our savings for the move are shared. , we even bought our tickets. I know only I'm to blame, and maybe I'm just getting cold feet before a big change. I don't even know what kind of advice I'm looking for. If anyone has ever been in a similar situation, I'd like to just hear that maybe, just maybe I'm not totally nuts.
Thanks

Pinkstarluv

If you are not happy now you wont be in a few years either. You rule your own world and right now your allowing pity to control it.

CHANDLERS WISH

Firstly, to have a longish term relationship end, over a phone, is well, calous...

It has played on your mind right? Why? What?

Rebound_ mmm,i need to feel loved.

Your not nuts.

Can i suggest "me time",take time out for you find out what you want and then allow someone else in your life?

If you need to, only if you need to, to move on, find out from the ex, why? and why over a phone? sucks big time, weak....

xx

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C

The one thing that you said that hit me in the face was the ending....I'm not totally nut.....This I think many of us are....At least I know there is a bit of me that is...But I don't think it is bad...at least my husband tell me it is good....

My best advice is don't do what you don't want to do......If you have reservations about this man, it is for a reason......Don't put yourself in a place that you don't want to be in....Liking someone is different than loving someone.....I would not want to go to bed with a man that I liked.....He must be a man that I hunger for and adore....You do not sound like you are at this point....Money can be recovered but your life cannot be....Don't worry about anyone's feeling but your own.....You, my dear, have to live with you......Be happy.......Just be happy.....Much love, Caroline