Thread: I Need Girl Help

my advice to you would be worry about self development and the rest will fall into place. Go get a hobby one you have always wanted to try but haven't............ maybe the right girl is there or whoever will hook you up to the right girl. Making new friends is always a great way for self development and new hook ups.

Ya know if you are developing your own life and become happy with you eventually you will hook up with Ms right or atleast Ms. right now. Life is short have fun discover who you are.

good luck!

Disco Stu, this is your boy OG here. Let me put it to you like this. You're 18 or 19 years old and you don't know who you are yet. That's fine. I'm 26 and I didn't discover who I actually was until about 2 years ago. You're still young and you're going to make mistakes. Everyone does. But now is the time to put in that soul-searching effort to discover what makes you tick. What's your passion in life? What's your calling? What is it that you want to do more than anything else?

A few years ago I found out that my decade long curiosity in hypnosis translated in to working parties while I was in the Air Force. I found out, after testifying at a friend's Court-Martial, that I have a passion for law. Unfortunately I can't afford to go to college so I'm trying to get back in to Active Duty Air Force to get that started.

One thing that might be holding you back from getting what you want in life, and this is purely speculation... is if you're still a virgin. If you are it's nothing to be "ashamed" of. I was close to 19 when I lost mine. But once you have sex for the first time, you'll find things with women easier. You'll be a little more confident because you won't have that self-inflicted psychological disadvantage of "being a virgin" hanging over your head anymore.

And if you're not, then disregard that last paragraph.

But you remind me a lot of myself when I was your age. Except I never got off on porn. And there's no shame in jerkin' it. Honestly. If you go for too long without that release you can cause problems down in that area. Nothing long-lasting or permanent, but complications can occur.

You said you're proud, but what is your self-esteem like? Where is your self-confidence at? If these things aren't in check, then you'll never fully progress to where you want to be at in life. And that is something I've learned after I got in to hypnosis and started helpin' guys just like yourself.

It's not about "changing" yourself. It's about discovering who you are, at a fundamental level, and building upon that. Just like Rapid '87, I'm a pickup artist who volunteers his time on a particular forum board dedicated to this kind of stuff. If you're interested in taking control of your love life, then drop me a message and I can help you along on your journey of self-discovery and improvement.

OG

And brother, take it from me, OG KNOWS what he's talking about when it comes to relationship advice, he has insights that are rare amongst guys so value EVERY word he says.

That said... I don't think that "being yourself" is helpful advice. After all, you HAVE been doing that and look where it has gotten you...

I can relate to you though, about two years ago I have NO CLUE when it came to girls, BUT like anything in life, one can learn the social arts though ALOT of trail and error and I mean ALOT. I would go out 3 sometimes 4 times a week, willing to face rejection after rejection, knowing that eventually I would understand what I was doing wrong and WHAT I should be doing...

Well... turns out that I wasn't showing people who I TRUELY am deep down. "being myself" infront of people was different to how I was with my closest friends and when I'm on my own... I would try an impress them... which was destructive, it automatically assumed that everyone used to be more valuable than me.

I'm willing to guess that when you go out, you wish girls would see you for what your like with your friends and NOT actually the way you are with them. If that is the case, I advise YOU DO take OGs advice. We are social artists, that willingly dedicate our time to helping other men achieve the exact same thing you are seeking to achieve ---> and that is SHOWING your BEST SELF 100% of the time, which you are not doing.

Think of this scenario. You go to a bar and you see a guy sitting there on his own, in the corner, trying to act cool but you can see that deep down, he is lonly, low self esteeem and JUST hoping that MABE some magical thing will happen and the girl of his dreams is going to approach him and they will live happily ever after... It just never happens... He's shy... So he is polite and very straight with everyone...

Now think about that exact same guy, WITH A TON OF CONFIDENCE. Not so quiet anymore hey? Now he is teasing girls, busting their balls and they are both loving every minute of it. His TRUE self is revealing itself rather than a safe social mask.

You can learn how to do this too. OG, myself and MANYYYYYYYY other guys have OR are on the road to better themselves socially and as a result the others around them.

Take a chance. I dare you

The road to recovery is long and arduous at times, but it is worth it. I may not be getting laid every night, maybe not every week, but I am improving myself as a person.
For me however, my history that links us is only 6 months old. At the start of this year I could hardly muster the courage to talk to a girl, let alone a stranger. Now, things are changing, gears have started to turn and I am seeing social interaction in a whole different light. I am making friends I never would have had before and I am loving life to it's fullest.

Being myself was good, but I had to adjust it. I respect everyone and everything; as a result, I have not changed who I am on the inside, I just understand HOW to care for and respect others.

Take for example, I am much much closer to my family than I have ever been before, yet I live the furthest distance away from them that I ever have. Both of my parents live out of country, my brother lives out of province and my grandparents too. I am making monthly trips to visit my brother, visit friends etc. I hadn't seen my grandparents in about 2 years, and even then it was a short visit. In less than a week I am going to visit my grandfather for his 81st birthday and he lives more than a 20 hour drive away.

These are all changes in my life that have come from my willingness to adjust my personality and searching life to really discover what I want from it. But it was not a passive change; I had to want it, and I did.

"Do it and it will be done" -OG

Originally Posted by Rapid'87

For body language ---> "The definitive book on body language BY Alan Pease"

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For flirting ----> "David Deangelo's - Double your dating"

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An interesting read, and an insight into the possibility for change ---> "the game by neil strauss"

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AND A FORUM that I belong to. Which is all about social interactions and the finer details of attraction - Neil Strauss' Stylelife Academy - Dating Tips And Attraction Coaching For Men and click on the community button.

This is really all the advice you need. Honestly it will change your life.

I'm also part of the "community" Let me tell you its a beautiful feeling to see a girl on the steet and go up to her and start a conversation and get a kiss on the lips within a half an hour and at the very least get a number. Just to think a year ago i was too intimidated to even hold eye contact with women.

As far as porn goes dont worry about it. I think your actually asking us if your addicted to porn. The fact is less then 5% of men that watch porn are acutally addicted to it, and roughly 95% of them are married.

The reason why men like porn so much is because of something called Mirror Neurons. Its the same motory function that causes you to look away when you see a real gorry movie. Or makes you "Cridge" when you see someone get kicked in the balls. You actually feel there pain at a very small level.

Women are much more receptive to it.

Hope this helps

Live laugh and love

I Hope OP Reads the posts by Rapid, Orb, Livelovelaugh all great people who give the greatest advice that has changed the life of many people

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