I know its not okay for a guy to hit you but what if you hit him first ?

Id love to hear your opinions or past experience wit violence in your relationships.

I hope (and suspect) this is a Troll.
But, just in case, no hitting ever, except in self defense - immediately followed by pressing assault charges.

Hi misswendi..

Well your not a troll seeing as you've posted a few here on other issues/matters relevant...

But, i am assuming you are saying that you got upset angry, lashed out and hit your guy and then he hit you.

Firstly, NO it's not okay for him to hit you full stop.

You may have been irritable due to difficulties you are having with your body at present and therefore, you lashed out.

Certainly it's best for no one to hit, full stop and you need to get that under control yourself. Anger is not going to solve anything.

Pending also if you have been "pushing him, over and over and over" hitting him every time you get mad and finally he couldn't help himself, then I would forgive him to a degree.

But, if you are asking, well I hit him so he then hit me. NO....

Men are stronger and there is no need what so ever to take anger out on a woman and hit her, nor hit her back, full stop.

Maybe you should tell us a bit more.

It's a screen name and that's what this site is for.

CW

If I hit someone, I would expect nothing less than to get hit right back.
No one should be hitting anyone in a relationship.

This probably won't be a popular response, but hey...

If a woman gave me a close handed punch (ie, not a slap), and I didn't feel like she had a good enough reason, I would probably physically respond. It would, however, be a radically reserved response, never a closed handed punch, as serious damage could be done - men are strong and women are fragile. However, neither is it acceptable for women to take advantage of this difference and expect no retaliation. Look where campaigning for equal rights has got you ...

I can see situation in which I might slap a woman in the face, or throw her to the ground, or put her in a submission hold. All things which I know are not damaging. But establish the fact that such action is not to be tolerated. That being done, the liklihood of staying in that relationship would be small.

I would never, ever, ever, instigate any form of violence.

It is worth mentioning, that as well as relationships where the man is physically abusive to the woman, there are also cases of the opposite scenario - where men are abused, its rather pathetic to see to be honest, but it does happen. It is not acceptable on either side of the fence, but retaliation is retaliation, as long as it shows understanding restraint.

How about agressive behaviour? If he behaves on a way you feel he is "agressive".. but he says it wasn't, he says it was only "wild" because he was "upset".

pfff I would think he is a coward.

Umm, what?

As for the original question... im with sourpuss, if i whacked someone, id expect it back. Some partners can bring the worst out of you and those are the ones that you need to move on from.

A man should never hit a women unless self defense even than unless your really beating the out of him he should keep his hands to himself

Sorry i left out that i agreed with rcoreyus