http://www.womens-health.com/boards/ en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:07:28 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.womens-health.com/boards/ http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19982-not-over-after-2-years.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:22:19 GMT I dated this guy for 2yr and 7 months. My first real boyfriend, we met when i was 15. We broke up because he said he didnt love me anymore, and he started dating another girl. That was almost 2 yrs ago, and some how im still dead over heels in love with him. How can i just get over it ? I dated this guy for 2yr and 7 months. My first real boyfriend, we met when i was 15. We broke up because he said he didnt love me anymore, and he started dating another girl. That was almost 2 yrs ago, and some how im still dead over heels in love with him. How can i just get over it ? ]]> Dating GiiGii_89 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19982-not-over-after-2-years.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19937-feeling-uncomfortable-about-my-body.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:10:15 GMT I feel really uncomfortably..... I am short, thin and have a small waist..... But my boobs r a D cup.... And cuz of my size everywhere else it makes me feel a bit weird cuz they r th first thing anyone seems to look... Guys seem to talk to them more than they do me... I get unwanted stares.... It makes me really uncomfortable and kind of puts me off wanting to date anyone.... Just wondering if anyone had advise on this.... I feel really uncomfortably.....

I am short, thin and have a small waist.....
But my boobs r a D cup.... And cuz of my size everywhere
else it makes me feel a bit weird cuz they r th first thing
anyone seems to look...

Guys seem to talk to them more than they do me...
I get unwanted stares....
It makes me really uncomfortable and kind of puts me off
wanting to date anyone....

Just wondering if anyone had advise on this.... ]]> Dating Perfect!!! For a Designer http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19937-feeling-uncomfortable-about-my-body.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19887-idk-what-happened.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 23:05:34 GMT I was with my bf for almost 3 years...things have never been easy for us we are both really hard headed and like things our way...just last week he started moving out with a friend...he didn't call, text or come over to see me for like 2 days so i decided to tell him how i felt...he said he was busy moving out and that i was being needy...it takes like two seconds to text and at least say hello right? well i let that go but a few days later he invited me to a friend's party i had tests coming up and i said i couldn't go i had to study...he text me ur missing out and i got very upset because to me he choose to go over to a party than to go spend time w/ me...again i confronted him and that led to another argument...finally same week....he asked me to go with him to buy some stuff for his room i said i have to be home early and that i would go if we were to come back by 9...he asked me do u want to go? i said yes but r we gonna b back by 9? he started getting frustrated, didnt answer my question and started screaming at me that he would b over in a bit....so i hung up...the next day i receive a text...it read "i feel im wasting my time with you, u've been the only long term relationship ive been in and i feel i can do better than this"...i tried to talk to him telling him we both had a rough week but he said he was done...can someone really go from telling you they love you and that they want to marry you someday one week and the next be done with you and tell you they feel they"re wasting their time with you....idk im so confused i honestly saw myself with him forever i had set my hopes and dreams with him and now i feel like idk what to do from here... ]]> Dating nmgarcia http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19887-idk-what-happened.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19883-date.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 21:06:43 GMT People never cease to amaze me:cool:

So, off I went out on my little date.... The setting was "thoughtful", oyster bar, by the sea, wine, so I thought, which turned out to be "he'd eaten, naturally, his two girls were still at home, he arranged for the neighbors to look after them 11 &13. So, off course at some point, having established this, I went and ordered food.... He bought the wine.

Admittedly, I'm about the "inner person" not the outer, so trying to look at someone and see that inner person to start to "fall" ever so slightly for, made me look closely. Noting in my opinion that "perhaps" he may not be 43, rather older.

That Chemistry "wasn't there", I found him to be, I don't know, weedy? no shoulders.. anyways as I said, focus, CW, inner, inner.

Before we get to that part. The conversation - "a question about his work", oil and gas... (lost me a few times discussing infrastructure", yawn, shh CW... the conversations then turned, yep you guessed it, to the ex, who is now a "hippie" but wasn't "before"... ???? My stance on that was, well, she had to be Eco before hand, and now she is simply living the real her... how old is she? (43).. ahha... ok...

Then I got a picture show of a gorgeous home in another part of Australia, and explanation of this being his "friend" who lost everything and commenced developing, and this was his 3 storey home, modern, new and I noted that his "mobile" was one of those "huge" blackberrys?.. Is he going blind? Okay, 43...mmm..

So, no talk about why I never had children, my life, work, WH, haha, nothing on mutual ground going on here....

Then conversations regarding his last 3 dates "again"... one was 4 ft 5, stating she was 5 ft 4 until she turned up, one was into Vegetarian food, and massages, etc, and on the fourth date, organized a massage that turned into a "massage" and that turned him off, almost going into detail mind you, till I said, I don't need to know and the 3rd, 2nd date occurred and then nothing, no call, nothing.

He then tried to touch on sensuality/sexuality, horny, lol a conversation that I seem to ensure I have, after all I am not after someone whom is not passionate or non understanding of a woman, especially as I am a giver.... and proceeded to basically inform me of his staying power as well as understanding of my logic.. I didn't bring this conversation up mind you....then mentioned something about "shame I didn't have a hotel room", haha, okay... grrr.

A comment thrown my way as to the way I looked (darn hot) but besides that:D and then my question... Are you really 43?

"No"...

An explanation ... women on "dating sites" will not look for a man who states he is, ready? (52), where he seeks 40 - 45.. WTF?

Well, women don't like lier's either.

He went onto the logic of it, that once meeting a person it gives them the opportunity, he always admits upon meeting and so I said, uh hu, and what did they say? He said they were all fine with it. So, I said okay so that is why none of those dates worked then huh.. To which he proceeded to inform me 4 ft 5 was too short, he realized with the second one that BBQ's were out and that she was obsessive and he liked the third one but she reneged on speaking further after the second date.

Admittedly, he seemed grounded and passionate about life, but not "sharing" of conversations or "getting to know someone", skills. I think she ran after re-thinking her position.

He also is a dreamer, assuming that at 52 he can save enough to then obtain a house, I own mine well paying it off, and my business abode, I'm thinking how the heck you going to do that, at 43 maybe, 52?

Anyways, ranting here, but I knowwwww you want all the gossip.

I had a cigarette or two and he basically said, well you lied as you said you were a non-smoker. To that I stated, no, I joined that site for the Forum, you can't unless you put up a profile, simple and so the information wasn't for anyone for the dating purposes and I'm trying to quit, so I didn't lie at all... It wasn't relative at the time I placed the profile....

So, basically I told him, that I had already given him the run down on 3 dates over the past 12 months, once where the guy said 42 and was 52 and that, I advised him (I HATE LIERS), it's one of my pet hates, simple, can't change my thought pattern...

He tried to change that thought pattern, again by using logic as to why he did it.

Don't care.

Actually "confident jerk" was 51 but he's hot :D And, I'm still working on him and quitting smoking haha as that's his only problem with me and I know it, a past death in his family, we are due to go out again at some point before Xmas.

So, anyways, we walked along the Pier towards a taxi... he decided to put his arm around me, hehe. I decided not to do the same.

We got to the taxi, and I offered to swing past his first (one taxi) and then proceed to my place, but he had a "mate" in the hotel that "owed him money" so he was going to collect as arranged... mmm remember the mention about me having a hotel room?

So about to get in the taxi, turned to say goodbye, he decided to kiss the nape of my neck, and then a kiss on the lips and I got in the taxi. So, what he thought that perhaps appealing to my sexuality may work?

lol.

And, I proceeded home, deciding delete, delete, delete, dating sites, delete, get out more with your girlfriends, even if they are after sex, they are also after a relationship, so you know how to play that game CW...

So, there you have it....

Even when you can converse well, get on well, the proof is in the pudding and lying and me, as I said, don't mix well at all.

I learned though that even discussing who you are inside, in various forms, may be appealing but in the real world, the truth comes out.....

:rolleyes:

Life at any age is still a learning curb is it not..... ]]> Dating CHANDLERS WISH http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19883-date.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19880-dating-two-men-but-need-help.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 17:49:56 GMT I've been dating man A for about 3 weeks and man B for two weeks. When I am with man A I feel more sparks and chemistry. He told me is also dating others which I said is fine at this point because I am also. We have great conversations and he holds my hand over dinner and is always touching me. But he is moving slower than man B.

I have fun with man B as well who is equally well educated but man A is brighter somehow. Intelligience is a real turn on for me. Man B seems to be really into me. I feel like he already sees me as girlfriend material and isn't seeing anyone else. Whereas man A sees me as dating material as this point.

Is there anything I can do to move things along with man A? I'm not calling him or emailing him or anything. I want to up his interest.

I almost feel that man B is ready for a domestic situation.:confused: ]]> Dating emily100 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19880-dating-two-men-but-need-help.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19874-there-something-wrong.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 16:41:52 GMT Hey,

I'll start by saying my situation... lol ;)

I'm 17 and i have met this guy and we get on really well and everything...
It has started to move forward if you get me... :p
The only thing is that he is 25, nearly 26....
That's a big age gap :mad: And i have some people telling me it's really wrong.... It's kind of confusing :confused:

What do you think about it? ]]> Dating Perfect!!! For a Designer http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19874-there-something-wrong.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19855-age-difference-has-become-issue-me-after-5-years.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 05:23:51 GMT My boyfriend is 17 years my senior - I am 27 and he is 44.

For most of our relationship this was never a problem, I never saw his age, only the person he is, but lately it has started to really bother me. It has nothing to do with our different interests or anything like that, and he certainly doesn't act his age (not in an immature way) but over the past few years I have seen groups of my friends getting married - all to people their/my age (give or take maybe 1 or 2 years in between), young couples at the same stage in life, starting their lives together. This has started to really upset me to the point where I dread receiving wedding invitations in the mail.

When we first started dating (I was 21, nearly 22), telling people his age was a huge novelty for me. It made me feel mature. But as the years have gone on that feeling has changed. I have realised that even though I truly do love him, maybe it would have been best if we had stayed friends. We have spoken about marriage and I have told him it is just not a big deal for me when in reality something about marrying him doesn't sit well with me.

I worry a lot about the future too. When I reach the age he is now, he will be ready for retirement. I don't wantto be working for nearly another 2 decades before joining my partner in retirement.
When I am finally of retirement age at 63, he will be 80. I know all of these things are a lifetime away, but we joked about it on the weekend and it kind of hit home with me. If we haven't had children by the time I am 33, he might be ok with being 60 years old at his child's 10th birthday party, but I am not ok with that. I know I should be but... I am just uncomfortable with it.

I only wish he was 15 or even 10 years younger! He is the perfect man. He treats me like a queen and still tells me he loves me every single day. He puts me first. He trusts me. He allows me all the freedom in the world. He supports me. He doesn't belittle me. He is my best friend. He wants nothing more out of life than to care for me and make me happy. I know I am never going to find a man as wonderful... but I can't shake this feeling and I don't know what to do.

How do you tell someone who you mean the absolute world to that you are having major, MAJOR issues over the one thing that they can't control or change?!! And why has this started to bother me now?!! ]]> Dating SecretlySad http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19855-age-difference-has-become-issue-me-after-5-years.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19845-new-boyfriend.html Sun, 15 Nov 2009 23:36:27 GMT Hey! This is my first post... I've been lurking around here for quite awhile, and just joined recently. Anyway, I hope that you all can give me some advice, although I know my problem is quite vague... Sorry that this is so long!

Anyway, I'm dating a new guy. We became 'offical' on Halloween of this year, but I can only (or mostly) see him on weekends due to him living on campus without a car. I've only seen him a few times since we started going out. I met him through a dating site. We had really fun, long conversations, and hit it off... so we met in person soon thereafter. He's an attractive guy, and we like a lot of the same things. I feel comfortable with him. Even so, I haven't kissed him yet. Annnddd... that's where the problem starts.

I dated my last boyfriend for eight months. We went on two vacations together, and became very serious very fast. He was my first serious boyfriend, and the first person I became intimate with... infact, sex was probably the only thing we had in common. He treated me poorly, but I didn't realise it until well after we'd broken up. He made me feel so bad about myself that I was afraid to act naturally, afraid to crack jokes or make comments, afraid because he was SO sensitive about everything that I walked on eggshells around him constantly. I couldn't even have friends... and due to me being bisexual I couldn't even rely on my girl friends for shelter from his overly critical eye. He'd text me nonstop, and get suspicious if I wouldn't reply in fifteen minutes. It was... well, insane. He'd hurt my feelings badly, and then turn around and do or say nice things... so he tricked me and I tricked myself into believing he was a nice guy. He'd shower me with gifts, and then towards the end when he got sick of me - he'd stop doing so altogether. When we were on vacation, he bought everyone things but me. He even walked up to me and asked me to buy something for him. (He said it wasn't a big deal, because I wasn't spending my own money anyway. I'd gotten graduation money that I was using at the time...) And then disparage me for it later. We had nothing in common. To avoid talking to one another, we had lots and lots of sex. If I refused, he'd make a big fit about it like a child, and guilt trip me until I agreed. He even forced me to have sex with him when I had a really bad cold, and was feeling altogether miserable. I couldn't be in the same room with him alone without him groping me or coercing me... and yet he'd insult me for being an openly sexual person like I was garbage. He'd even run away like a child when we went to buy condoms and lube together. He made a lot of comments about wanting to be a "child" and not feeling like a "grown up"... but also insulted me for not having as many adult responsibilities as he had. Towards the end of our relationship, he convinced me to have anal sex with him. It wasn't as though I wasn't interested in the idea (as it had always been a fetish of mine to one day try it), but he pressured me into it before I was completely comfortable with the reality of it. How he treated me during the act was pretty unforgivable...

Anyway, now that I've ranted...

I deal with things by hardening myself up, and becoming numb to them... that way I can handle them piece by piece instead of all at once. I cut off communication with him entirely when he was urging us to still be friends (He didn't believe I could be happy without him in my life, and wanted to micromanage what I was doing without being responsible for me... I believe), but I refused. But I find that the aftermath of our relationship is impacting the relationship I have with my boyfriend now. My last boyfriend and my current boyfriend are totally different. Where I couldn't speak my mind with my ex, I can tell just about anything to my current boyfriend without being looked down upon. He doesn't suffocate me at all, and gives me a lot of freedom. We touch base almost everyday, but we don't need to talk constantly. He let's me live my life and gives me my space. But he is also a virgin who has never had a serious relationship before... which is probably why he won't take charge when it comes to kissing, etc. And I find myself scared to do it myself for fear that it will speed up the physical part of our relationship until it is the basis like it was before.

Does this mean I don't love my new boyfriend if I still feel slightly numb to our relationship? I was definately more romantically invested in my ex... I had an intense crush on him before we even started going out. I felt 'butterflies' when I was near him... but I also never knew where I stood with him at that time, and it was very burdensome. I've known from the beginning where I stand with my new boyfriend, and I never doubt myself in his presence. I think I've convinced myself that those are necessities to being 'in love' with someone when they aren't. I know it is way too soon to have deep feelings for my current boyfriend, and I don't want to give up on him just because I don't have them yet... He's a really nice guy, but I worry if I don't kiss him it'll just be like we're two close friends pretending to be dating. ]]> Dating KDia03 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19845-new-boyfriend.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19802-two-months-since-breakup-still-no-contact.html Sat, 14 Nov 2009 05:55:37 GMT Hi guys. I appolgize ahead of time for the length of this post and the fact that I'm rambling on about this. It's one in the morning and I can't sleep.
If you don't want to read my previous thread, I'll sum it up: My boyfriend of six months broke up with me about two months ago due to the fact that he went away to college. We had no problems what-so-ever besides that he felt "distant" and instead of trying to work things out he just ended it. He knew I was still 100% invested in the relationship at the time, but he just wasn't anymore. He is the kind of person who likes to experience new things and go with the flow. I'm sure he just didn't want to have a girlfriend at home holding him back. Although I was very upset for quite some time, I let it go.

When we broke up he said he wanted to still be friends, and that we'd contact each other when we were ready. It's been two months and I've tried contacting him twice, when I was ready, and he's ignored both of my attempts (once a text, once a private facebook message). He was supposed to come home a while ago for the weekend, but decided not to (very obviously because of me- he decided not to come home a few hours after I had sent him a message. And his facebook status was that he had "cleared his head" and decided not to come home).
I don't want to be pushy so I haven't said anything since. The ball is in his court. But I really just want some closure. I want to be friends again, or atleast be acquaintances. Besides being a couple, we were best friends. I can tell you without a doubt in my mind that there is not a SINGLE thing that he does not know about me. Big or small. He knows every insecurity, fear, secret, family issue....I could go on and on.
Anyway, he is coming home in one week, for sure. And my group main of friends is his main group of friends. Or I should say "was" his group of friends. Because he has cut off all contact with basically everyone. (Prior to us breaking up, I was the only one from home he talked to). I would really like to see him. I'd like to know how he's doing. I CARE about him. I don't even want him back as a boyfriend anymore but I do want him back as a friend. My best friend tried texting him the other day and he (surprisingly) responded to her and after a few texts back and forth even asked how I was. She told him I was doing well, working hard on my college applications, and excited for the new show I am in. And then he all of a sudden stopped responding. Then 45 minutes later she texted him again about something else and he responded, completely ignoring the other text. It's as if he wants me to not be ok or something. I don't get it. He could have atleast pretended to care. It's a TEXT. She wouldn't have known the difference.
And to make matters WORSE, I have a friend who is a year older than him at the same college, in the same major. She became friends with him through me this past summer because I thought it would be good for him to know somebody in his department so he could ask her for advice, etc. They have become really good friends, which wouldn't bother me if it weren't for the fact that now she has been acting really weird towards me. I feel like she doesn't like me anymore. I won't know for sure until I see her in person when she comes home, but I can just tell that shes going to be awkward.
And this whole thing is making me really upset. I don't know what he is thinking. I don't know what she is thinking. Maybe they are even hooking up! Although its unlikely, who knows?
I know there could be a million reasons for why hes not talking to me. And I know that going back to being best friends is very very unlikely. But a simple "hi, how are you?" shouldn't be that much to ask for. I should be the one upset- he broke up with ME! He cannot avoid contact with me forever unless he wants to spend his holidays and summers without his friends... This whole thing is just dumb.
I know it'll work out. It's just very upsetting that he doesn't seem to care enough about me to even check up on me. He's acting so out of character right now. I know he must still care about me. He must. But he’s seems to be so wrapped up in college he’s completely oblivious to how immature he’s acting. There have been things I've really needed to tell him and haven't been able to. That's what kills me most of all. I miss talking to him.
And he should appreciate how cool I’ve been about this whole thing. Because his ex-girlfriend before me was not psychologically stable. She scarred him emotionally, blew up in his face the second they broke up, and stalked him for years claiming she was still in love with him. Oh and she friended him on facebook the DAY we broke up. Yeah. He should be happy I’m not like her and that I’m emotionally ok and that he doesn’t have to worry about me doing anything extreme like starving myself or cutting my wrists over him. But is a “how are you” so much to ask? It's been two months. He should be over whatever guilt he is feeling by now.
I don't know whats going to happen when he comes home next week, but what I DO know is I tried my best to contact him and there is nothing more I can/should do... Please tell me if this rambling made any sense. I'm not sure if I'm being reasonable or if I'm just in my own little fantasy world where things all work out. ]]> Dating please http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19802-two-months-since-breakup-still-no-contact.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19797-should-i-stay-leave.html Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:46:29 GMT Hi everyone i am new on this site and i just need some good advice as i am so confused with my life at the moment,

i have been in a relationship for the past 6 years and everything worked out well we spent lot of time together and in general the relationship was good but then came the time where i needed more then just going out on casual dates i wanted to know where i stand with this guy. so i asked but he did not answer he stayed quiet so i thought i will give him some more time to consider and sooner or later we will talk, but i have been waiting for years now i have tried to bring up the subject but he just ignores it and start talking about other things,
this has been going on for ever now he just does not want to talk about it even if i get angry or cry but he just stayes quiet, i stopped seeing him but he calls and dont giveup, he says he cannot let me go but he never wants to talk about the relationship,
i love him very much and don't want to hurt him and myself but i dont know what else to do i need to know where i stand with him otherwise i just cannot see myself with him anymore its hard to let go
the sad thing is he is so good to me otherwise an i know he loves me but then why does he not want to talk about our future i have been a good friend to him even asked him what the problem is maybe we can solve it together but again no answer
what should i do just leave or ignore him for sometime as he is very confident i wont leave him no matter what. ]]> Dating zaab http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19797-should-i-stay-leave.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19781-officially-dating-younger-man-update-dating-situation.html Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:52:25 GMT So a couple weeks ago I posted that I might like my best friends younger brother. We went out last weekend with some people then hung out a few nights this week so we decided to run the idea by her.... And she actually didn't flip. She still doesn't think it's going to work bc of where we are in our lives which who knows at this point anyway...but so far I'm really liking it.

He is fun and easygoing. He likes to travel like I do. He gets my crazy optimism and sense of humor and MOST importantly, he makes me feel like he's into me and is taking some initiative...

Here goes nothing :) ]]> Dating kygirl http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19781-officially-dating-younger-man-update-dating-situation.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19759-we-falling-out-love-we-just-bored.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:37:25 GMT My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 14 months. We have lived together for the last 7 months. The last month or so, I feel like a lot of the passion has gone out and we're in a rut and routine. Is it because we're so use to living together that days have just become routine? We rarely ever fight. In our 14 months, we've really only ever fought twice. So that isn't an issue. We live very peacefully under the same roof. Our sex life is still active. I just don't get as excited anymore. What can I do to ignite the fire again?? When we first met, we spent every night out. Either going to the lake for a night walk, shopping, or getting a dessert. Now, recently, it's been sitting at home him watching Football, me doing home work, or something boring like that then we just go to bed.

Is it just a case of being bored? Or are we falling out love? :confused: ]]> Dating asiangrace86 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19759-we-falling-out-love-we-just-bored.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19720-how-can-i-prove-him-wrong.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:23:30 GMT i really need advice!! Me and my bf have been going out for almost 3years. We broke up late may and we just go back together early sept. that was our first and only time we broke up. Me and him have always had a great relationship and we always understand each other the best we can and especially to try and communicate. Well the problem is that when me and him broke up i found out that he was seeing another girl and to make a long story short he was like almost living with her. Wen I found out of course i wanted to also feel like i had someone or at least "see someone" Even though in that break up, we still talked to each other but never saw each other bcuz he moved like 2hours away from where i live. Well in late june i had already been just talking to a friend that so happend to like me and so we went to a party that was for one of our close friends and that nite i kissed him and he also "touched" me (banged me) in his car and that was it. the only reason y i went that far was bcuz my bf had told me that this girl he was seeing had gone down on him wen me and him were still going out so i just felt hurt so i wanted to feel like i can get someone too.. but the problem now with me and my bf is that he claims that he saw me that night at the party and that he has PICTURES of me having sex!!! I NEVER had sex with him. I told him EVERYTHING that i did wen he was gone and so did he just so we can move on but he says that i am lying and that he has proof. He doesnt want to show me those pics he says he has bcuz he wants me to admit that i did have sex and I cant do that bcuz I DIDNT HAVE SEX! he is driving me crazy. we cant have sex w.o him asking me something about that nite or things like that. He says he wants things to work out but he just doesnt stop! I told him i can prove him wrong by calling the guy and all sorts of things but i just dont believe that he was there bcuz he doesnt want to show me the pic and everytime i ask him a question about the party or things that can show me he was there he turns it around and tries to make me feel guilty. hes been really bad bcuz of this and i dont know wat to do someone help please!!! I really need advice!:( ]]> Dating steph* http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19720-how-can-i-prove-him-wrong.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19686-bf-old-sex-tape.html Wed, 11 Nov 2009 05:11:31 GMT I recently moved into my bfs place, and a few weeks ago while he was out of town on business I found something disturbing. I couldn't sleep, and so I started snooping around through a draw in which I know he keeps everything... receipts, old highschool essays, old love notes, picture junk really it's a jumbled mess of his life... I wasn't snooping out of suspiciousion of anything, or really for any reason other than boredom and the fact that I like seeing that kind of stuff. I feel like I learn a little bit more about him. Anyway, I found an unmarked tape of what I thought was his hidden porn collection(which doesn't bother me)... curious I stick it in the the player and what do I find but a sex tape, of him and his highschool sweetheart!!! I feel like I can't be mad at him, because it's not like he's cheating on me. It was an old tape, and I knew about his ex. It was my fault for being nosie...but now I can't close my eyes without seeing it in my head and wanting to throw up. I also can't help but wonder what type of guys keeps that around??! Why is it still in his house!? Maybe he just never throws anything away... but ew! Either way, i'm mortified and not really sure how to fix the situation. Getting angry with him, will just be proof that I am a snoop... I want to destroy the tape, but I don't even want to touch it again. I don't know... any suggestions? ]]> Dating Month36 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19686-bf-old-sex-tape.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19637-should-i-leave-him-although-i-love-him.html Mon, 09 Nov 2009 21:36:12 GMT Apologies from the start if i hark on for too long but i need to talk to someone. Cn't talk to friends as they will judge him and love him to much to hear it from them.
The problem is i don't think he really loves me i think he stays with me as we have a 7mth old. We have s*x maybe twice a month and i need to feel loved from him but i just don't. He chats to online girls and looks at porn constantly and tells these girls what he would like to do to them etc but with me it's just predictable. He deletes all his phone messages etc etc and thinks i'm stupid but i am well aware he is up to no good. If we're out in public he blatenly stares at females for their attention making me feel so worthless. Im sure the girls look at me with pity. I used to be happy and confident now i have no self esteem and feel fat and ugly. Hes a fantastic dad so i often contemplate disappearing but how do i take his baby away??/
Please help i just don't know what to do??? Ive tried talking to him and he just makes out im imagining it all...pleaseplease help:( ]]> Dating Butterfly*** http://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/19637-should-i-leave-him-although-i-love-him.html