http://www.womens-health.com/boards/ Something with the hubbie that you want to share with others? Something great that you want to brag about, or possibly something that you would like to get off your chest? en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:49:09 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.womens-health.com/boards/ http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/20025-not-wanting-sex-marriage.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:08:23 GMT Hello
i am 22 years old and i have been married for almost 2 years now. When me and my husband were just dating our sex life was great. Now since we got married it kind of went down hill. And it is not his fault it is mine. When we go to bed all i want to do is just roll over and go to bed. I dont even "get in the mood" anymore i dont know why, i love my husband to death and really still attractive to him but i dont know why my urge to not want to make love to my husband is this bad 1 can anyone give me advice or anything would really be appreciated ... ]]> Husband/Fiance LILLYMOMMA123 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/20025-not-wanting-sex-marriage.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19909-stay-not-stay.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 12:00:34 GMT I have two children from my previous marriage, and a baby with my new husband. He is not accepting the other two kids (even though they were there from the beginning, obviously). I have left him, but he has asked me to come back, promising changes. This didn't happen. I don't want to go through another divorce. I don't want my kids to be ignored either. I don't know if he loves me. I love him, and very much so. I have asked everyone I could for advice, no one can answer me. I feel ashamed, because I feel like I am badmouthing him, but that isn't my intention. He is such a wonderful man. And we (used to be) such good mates... what do i do? How will I get him to see? I am desperate and very confused. ]]> Husband/Fiance Risch http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19909-stay-not-stay.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19886-christmas.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 22:18:48 GMT so ladies what are you getting your man for xmas? so ladies what are you getting your man for xmas? ]]> Husband/Fiance Curious2009 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19886-christmas.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19877-men-who-have-changed-better.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 17:34:55 GMT I'm just reading a post about how a husband changed into a better man after a few years and how he went back to being not so good (a.k.a. a pig).

How many of you have experienced a man who has changed and become a 'better man'? I'm curious about it because 99% of the women say that "men don't change". Is that true? I'm not exactly sure what to think myself. I used to think that people only change for the worse, but I am not sure anymore.


I post this in the Husband/Fiance board because I'm talking about men who are married/engaged/in longterm relationships and not a man you've known for a couple of months. ]]> Husband/Fiance stressed http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19877-men-who-have-changed-better.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19790-texting-opposite-sex.html Fri, 13 Nov 2009 19:09:34 GMT No woman I know can understand this.. perhaps one of you lovely ladies can help. My husband has become friends with a girl who lives in AL, we are in NJ. I am not threatened. About 2 years ago our cell bill was over 400 bucks, it was because he went over our texting limit with AL. So, like the confident wife that I am, I increased his minutes to 1500 anytime (she's on a different network). Anyway, every now and then the texting still goes over. This is what I don't get. I go into Verizon and look at the texting times. She will text him the minute her feet hits the floor, all day, and all night. She will even text him, get no response and text him again and again. Now in all fairness I have spoken to this women a few times about this situation. I am assured it is nothing at all and that he loves me. (yes, why wouldn't he). We even became friends on facebook for awhile and I truly learned that even though she has 2 kids, a full time job, and is a twice over divorced girl, she is pathetic. Responds to all posts, posts everything she's doing, and even reply's to poeple replying to her. She lives on her blackberry! This is the only thing my husband and I argue about. He knows I can see the messages and I just don't get it. From a woman's point of view, if I was obsessive like that texting a married man, there would be a reason why. :rolleyes: I just chalk it up that this is her "fantasy world" where she can't get hurt and does not have to face the reality of living with a man. I hope someone agrees with me. We were in Nashville a month ago, he could have very easily picked a fight with me and drove 3 more hours to see her... he didn't. I am just jealous because I feel she gets more attention than I do. Is it possible that I really have nothing to worry/obsess about? ]]> Husband/Fiance vmail http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19790-texting-opposite-sex.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19760-need-some-suggestions.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 20:05:12 GMT Hello all, since my last post, my husband an I have been talking alot. I am alittle shocked because he has been suggesting to do all the these different things....trying threesome???.....go out and have fun drinking, music, srooms....I do not have any desire to do any of these things. Having fantasies in the bedroom is as far as I go, I know that I am not secure enough to go any further, I have explained this to him and he says he understands, but I always wonder "does he"? I'd like to go out and have some fun but I do not really want to go out with his friends...I really feel he has more fun without me because he can't act like a fool when I am around, and I certainly can not be myself around him....amagine that after 23 years together I feel I can't be myself.....I am not sure why. I know he is a totally different person when he goes out, and I do not like that person, and I have told him so, he says that it wont be like that people change....I can't believe him and I do not want to go out and get into a huge fight????? The drug thing well....in the 23 years we have been together he and I have NEVER....he says he would like to try it with me so we can act like fools together and have a blast.....I really really do not want to do that but if I do not I know he will go ahead without me and have fun with his friends. I know I have some issues and I know I cannot change what he does I can only change how I react....but it is really hard because I don't even know who he is anymore.....I really want to be a fun loving person but I feel that he is going to the extreme, sometimes I wonder if he is going through a mid life crisis, he always talks about how he doesn't want to get old, have a boring life, but I on the other hand know that I have a 3 year old son, going out once in awhile is good but ..... I know I am blabbing on and on but I am totally confused, am I going crazy? am I expecting too much?? am I boring??? :confused: ]]> Husband/Fiance always hopeful http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19760-need-some-suggestions.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19652-please-help.html Tue, 10 Nov 2009 05:42:30 GMT I am going through what I am sure many of you unfortunatley have been through. My marriage has fallen apart and I Love my husband so much if you are there and have any advise or wanna talk please help me:( I am going through what I am sure many of you unfortunatley have been through. My marriage has fallen apart and I Love my husband so much if you are there and have any advise or wanna talk please help me:( ]]> Husband/Fiance ladybug24 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19652-please-help.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19461-hubby-cheated-emtionally-ex.html Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:47:03 GMT hi , well after 18 years together ,i found out on august 28th that my husband had been ib contact with his ex- girlfriend ( that have not been together for 20 years .) we we having problems in our marriage m and he was having work stress and didnt want to talk to me baout things. so he went to her in mid july and thru august to talk about our marriage and about me. I found out thru trusting my intuittion , adn looking in his work phone book and finding her email and phone number . became an dectective and put her cell phone in reverse cell phone directory and out pops her name. Well the nite i found out , my husband was at bingo tell 10 pm. i found out at 8pm , and emailed her and asked if she had been emaling my husband . Long story short she has been looking for him for 17 years . and she says htey are just friends. well on teh night of august 28th ,i confronted him , and he ilied and said that emtionally cheateing is not cheating, bull pucky i said. Well, long story short he said that he was ready to leave me , but decided against it. i ws pissed and wanted to cheat on him , but told him it was morally wrong ,i wanted to make his heart break , just like he did to mine. i cannot trust him, and we are working things out by going to marriage therapy , . Last night he told me that he regreted contacting her , but that it was good to hear from her after 17 years . what i said . opps then he realized what he said . We are learning to communicate better , and not to say things in haste , but i am having a hard time putting this behind me. he has not had contact with her since august . i strongly believe that a man cannot be friends with an ex- girlfriend , especially (spelling .) one who he has had sexual relations with when he is married ? am i wrong ? things are better , but it is going to take mea long time to trust him , and to get over what he did. anyone have similiar experiences or advice . thanks in advance s . walker hi , well after 18 years together ,i found out on august 28th that my husband had been ib contact with his ex- girlfriend ( that have not been together for 20 years .) we we having problems in our marriage m and he was having work stress and didnt want to talk to me baout things. so he went to her in mid july and thru august to talk about our marriage and about me. I found out thru trusting my intuittion , adn looking in his work phone book and finding her email and phone number . became an dectective and put her cell phone in reverse cell phone directory and out pops her name. Well the nite i found out , my husband was at bingo tell 10 pm. i found out at 8pm , and emailed her and asked if she had been emaling my husband . Long story short she has been looking for him for 17 years . and she says htey are just friends. well on teh night of august 28th ,i confronted him , and he ilied and said that emtionally cheateing is not cheating, bull pucky i said. Well, long story short he said that he was ready to leave me , but decided against it. i ws pissed and wanted to cheat on him , but told him it was morally wrong ,i wanted to make his heart break , just like he did to mine. i cannot trust him, and we are working things out by going to marriage therapy , . Last night he told me that he regreted contacting her , but that it was good to hear from her after 17 years . what i said . opps then he realized what he said . We are learning to communicate better , and not to say things in haste , but i am having a hard time putting this behind me. he has not had contact with her since august . i strongly believe that a man cannot be friends with an ex- girlfriend , especially (spelling .) one who he has had sexual relations with when he is married ? am i wrong ? things are better , but it is going to take mea long time to trust him , and to get over what he did. anyone have similiar experiences or advice . thanks in advance s . walker ]]> Husband/Fiance suzieque http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19461-hubby-cheated-emtionally-ex.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19271-need-idea-you-people.html Thu, 29 Oct 2009 08:08:35 GMT I am completely desperate. I'm a muslim staying in UAE. I have 2 son. the older is in the philippines. and the 1 is here.. I love my husband ever but sad to say, i just know that he married other woman last 2001 and 2007.. his family hide it from me coz i'm abroad. But, after a month, husband come back to me. I'm angry. I want to knock him out. do revenge. I learn to chat online. with new people.. and i met someone else. he helped me to go out. build my new life.

I want to separated with my husband to be with him. but hubby doesn't want to.

what should i do? ]]> Husband/Fiance secretfatima http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19271-need-idea-you-people.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19259-let-me-know-what-you-think.html Thu, 29 Oct 2009 00:05:07 GMT Hello, I will try and make this a short as possible. The trouble started about 7 years ago, yes I know that is a long time ago but keep reading.....7 years ago my husband and I were trying to have a baby, after a year, no luck. I thought that we both agreed to maybe quite trying so hard, well I was wrong. Out of the blue my husband says, "its over", does not offer any explanation nor does he answer any of my questions. Well I had every feeling you could possibly have. We were apart for about 3 weeks and during this whole time I was staying at a friends and he was at our home. During the time apart I was searching for answers, since his was not offering any. Then I started to wonder...is there some else? Then I started to think back before our break up.....we were running our in city trucking company and there was this girl hanging around, Deanna, was her name, I never though anything about her because her brother worked for us. Then I started putting two and two together, and my imagination ran wild, and I asked my husband if anything was going on, and he swore that that was not the reason for the breakup, I still felt ill about it but I decieded to go forward and try and save the marriage. We talked things over and he finally said that he felt that I gave up having a baby and that I really did not want to be with him and felt that he wasted enough of MY life. Well long story short we got back together and decieded to try IVF. Well low and behold our son was born July 2006. Over the next three years we have been dealt some pretty crappy cards, we went into business with family, they didn't pay. Bought a home and property with family, they backed out. So we have battleing in court and to say the least we have loss our home, cars, business...it has been the worst 3 years of my life EXCEPT I have a beautiful little boy which has kept my head above water.

Over the last 6 months my husband has been going out drinking every weekend with his friends. I was really getting tired of it so I proceeded to express my feelings. Well since then we have had a few conversations in which he has told me that he doesn't want to get old, we are boring, we do not do anything together, and so on. I agreed that we should try and do more together. After our conversation he continued to go out, he said that he needed a release from the stress. I still had a problem, I had no release and I felt that he was living two lives, so I told him. Well the conversation got heated and the next thing I know I am asking him about the breakup before the baby was born and he proceeded to tell me that yes he did cheat on me with that Deana but he said that he was not thinking clearly and he really wanted a baby and was willing to PAY her to have his baby and she agreed!!! I was devestated!!! I knew it, he told me that he had no feelings for her he justed wanted her to have a baby for us. I said so if it would have happened, do you think I would have accepted that? He said No, he didn't know what he was thinking then. Now I am faced with all the those feelings from 6 years ago plus the feelings of stupidty for believing him in the first place and feelings of distrust, and wonder about any other foggy moments for him. Now over the last few weeks we have been having discussions about all these things, including things that I have never told him. Anyways two nights ago we had another heated discussion and he told me that HE KNOWS that I will never make an effort to go out him, never try anything different, that I have a problem in my head. It was all about what I had to do to make this work and I was so sick of hearing about what I had to do and nothing about what he had to do I just simply said "I guess your right, the change did not happen overnight, its not fast enough for you, but I cannot just pick up and go out, I do have a kid", so I told him "I GIVE UP, I am not fighting anymore, obviously you want to move forward, so go......after I said that he asked me if I wanted him to go, I said yes and then after about 15 minutes, he said "nope i am not going anywhere, I am going to stay here and make your life miserable" and a bunch of other hurtfull things, I didn't even reply. Then after another 15 minutes he was saying I do not want to throw it away, please I want to try, I love you with all of my heart. He also told me that he is depressed and sometimes he is numb? Have NO IDEA, any suggestions??? ]]> Husband/Fiance always hopeful http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19259-let-me-know-what-you-think.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19224-forgive-move-help.html Wed, 28 Oct 2009 04:11:06 GMT I've been with the love of my life for a wonderful 9 years. Recently, both our lives fell apart. Three months ago, I found out through his best friend that he cheated on me several times with multiple women, at a time when our relationship was long distance. I was angry, so I had a short, meaningless fling with the same friend, and he saw us. I have never dishonoured him EVER until I found out he had been lying this entire time, and he's an expert at covering his tracks. The timing couldn't have been worse because he had just proposed to me and I said yes (and meant it). Since then, we both suffered tremendously, broke off our engagement but came clean, promised to be faithful, and decided to try again. I've done my best to honour this, and we even planned a 3 week vacation together. But today I found out that he is still emailing dirty thoughts to his ex-lover. I love him, I know he loves me, we own a house together, and we've built such an amazing life together. It will be the most difficult task of my life to move out, but i've been debating this. We've both done wrong, but shouldn't he know better, after all we've been through? What do you think? ]]> Husband/Fiance rachel801 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19224-forgive-move-help.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19159-should-you-answer-your-husband-fiance-cell-phone.html Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:56:57 GMT Greetings, I am pretty new to the site and I have read a number of forums in the husband /fiance colum. In most cases the involvement of the cell phone and text messages seems to come into play in some kind of defense. So I would like to post the question if is right or wrong to answer or check your mate cell phone. My view on this issue is that if there is nothing to hide and you are married, living together, engaged, or seriouly involved I feel there should not be a problem with having access to one another cell phone. If there is a problem with answering one another cell phone it shows a sign of guilt. It seems as since cell phones and text messasing came into play the opportunity to cheat has been on the rise. Please post your concern or thought male and female :) Greetings,

I am pretty new to the site and I have read a number of forums in the husband /fiance colum. In most cases the involvement of the cell phone and text messages seems to come into play in some kind of defense. So I would like to post the question if is right or wrong to answer or check your mate cell phone. My view on this issue is that if there is nothing to hide and you are married, living together, engaged, or seriouly involved I feel there should not be a problem with having access to one another cell phone. If there is a problem with answering one another cell phone it shows a sign of guilt. It seems as since cell phones and text messasing came into play the opportunity to cheat has been on the rise. Please post your concern or thought male and female :) ]]> Husband/Fiance faithfulone http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19159-should-you-answer-your-husband-fiance-cell-phone.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19143-evil-stepmother.html Mon, 26 Oct 2009 01:47:37 GMT My husband has a problem. The problem is that I'm going to leave him unless he starts to defend/support me to his family, primarily his father and stepmother.

I could be wrong or overreacting and I need objective advice. It all started when his father and stepmother came to visit us. We have four girls between us, one "his," two "mine," and one "ours." My 5 year old daughter confronted the stepmother about her smoking (she was doing it in their sight and I always took offense to smokers, and this passed to her). Stepmother was so offended, that she didn't even acknowledge "my" three children at Christmastime, but sent "his" daughter a present.

She, then, did not acknowledge "my" daughter's 3 year old birthday.

Against my better judgment, we visited at their house in July. Again, my eldest took offense at her smoking. (I told her not to say anything, but she is very, very headstrong.) After we left this family party, the stepmother made disparaging remarks about my daughter to all left, saying she had no respect. She never mentioned any of this to me, just to everyone around me.

She, then, proceeded to send "his" daughter a birthday PRESENT and "our" (one year old first birthday) a card only. Very impersonal and little effort.

All I have asked for is an apology. I want her to say, "Hey, I overreacted to a child's comment and I never should have said anything about her to other people. I will stop treating one daughter above the others, and treat them all fairly." My husband is a fence rider and will not support me. He says one thing to me and another to them. This has torn my marriage apart.

I feel he is not strong enough to protect myself and my children. He has lied and omitted information. He called me one day and said that his "father will be there by the end of the day," after I made it clear I'd like an apology. Please help me get through this or another marriage will end up a statistic. ]]> Husband/Fiance kslp00 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19143-evil-stepmother.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19139-what-kind-men-do-women-really-want.html Sun, 25 Oct 2009 22:18:23 GMT I have been reading a thread about the two things that men want from women, which made me to think about : What kind of men do women really want?

Tell me you ideas here...I have read an interesting idea about this (Steve Harvey). It said, and I quote, " the only way a woman can truly be completely satisfied is to get herself four different men - an old one, an ugly one, a Mandingo, and a gay guy." The four combined into one person - we women are covered. Why?

1. The old man (financial security) - sits around the house with you, spends his pension check on you, hug you, hold you, give you comfort, and won't expect any sex from you because he can't "get it up" anyway...lol.

2. The ugly one (gives you all the attention you seek) - whatever you need - run you down the grocery store, wash your car, babysit your cat - he'll provide because he's happy someone as beautiful as you is paying him any kind of attention.

3. The Mandingo man (sex) - he's big, he's not necessarily that smart, but he's got the yummy physique - that's all you want from him, and he makes sure he gives it to you real good - mind blowing sex!

4. The gay guy (gossip-mate) - someone you can go shopping with,who doesn't want anything from you but gossip and details about what the old man bought you, which errands you sent the ugly guy to take care of, and exactly how Mandingo had you doing monkey flips for a week...all the conversation you need.

Now...guys and gals, what have you to say?:D ]]> Husband/Fiance caterpillar79 http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19139-what-kind-men-do-women-really-want.html http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19071-8mths-pregnant-i-think-my-fiance-cheating-me.html Thu, 22 Oct 2009 21:20:49 GMT I know sometimes that when you are pregnant you become a bit emotional, insecure and unattracted. So I am writing this forum to see if I am being over dramatic about things. When my fiance and I first met we hit it off like a pea and a pod. We both agree on planning to have a baby together. I have two kids and this would be his first. He has been marriaged a quite a few times but seem to be a great guy.. Friends and family always seemed comfortable leaving their kids with him. We also discussed marriage but since he had been married a couple time he was a bit skeptical about it. Although we did not think that I would get pregnant as fast as I did since it did not happen in the past for him being that he even paid for invitro with his last wife. We would make love at least 2/3 times a day and enjoyed each other. Now that I am pregnant not to mention a bit sick through my pregnancy we only had sex about 5 times total and I am 8 months pregnant. I began to think where did all the love, attraction, attention,sex, and happines go. I talked to him about it him no longer showing any affection and how he sleeps at the end of the bad and I am on the other side of the bed. I also asked him was he still attracted to me and of course he said yes. I do not consider myself big although I have gained 55lbs (135lbs when we met)but it is all baby. He has his own business and does other things on the side as well. So he has a lot of female friends so I do not know who is who but before I never felt insecure but all of a sudden I do know since everything has stopped. Here are the incidents. One day he suppose to go to his office to met a client and it was 4pm and he suppose to return so that we could go grab a bit to eat as time went by it was 8pm so I called him. He picked up and said he was at the office talking to two of his other friend and would be home shortly so something told me to get in the car and go over there which I sit out side his office about 30 min later he and his friend walks out with beer in their hands accompanied by two females. I drove up and asked what was going on he said nothing however the female that was walking with him turned her back to me and never said a word. As for his friend he continue laughing and carrying on. He was upset with me and stating that I should call when I come to his office. Another incident is I check his phone and seen text msgs from this female asking if they could meet, what she wanted for her birthday, calling him boo, and etc.. I asked him about it and he says that she is a friend he helped get her business started and lived out of town. About two weeks ago I again found calls from this same female which he change her name to initials in his phone and I questioned him about it and he said she was helping him with a deal and I informed him how she lives out of town and he could not say anything. We had a big falling out because I was pissed and the next day when I came home from work he said that he had to leave and go stay in a hotel to get himself together. I told him that we promise one another that we would not stay a night away from one another . I begged him not to leave but he still left and I called him after he left but he did not answer the phone. The next morning he called and wanted to take me to breakfast so that we could talk but I did not go so he brought it home to me. He stated he thought about what I was saying and I was right. We never talked about anything. So a couple of days later I explained to him the things we talked about when we first met and all his promises and he just apologzie and said that he would try not to stress me. Two weeks ago I could not reach him and he said that his cell phone went dead but I called the office and he did not answer. Earlier this week he stayed in his office tell about 830pm and came home to inform me that his phone needed a jump off and he came home to get the truck and cable. I know for sure the mercedes has jumper cables in the trunk but I did not say I word. He returned home in about 945pm and the office is about ten away from our home. I did not say anything to him once he returned he was just explaining which did not make sense. The next day I explain to him that it seems like I am going thru this pregnancy by myself an he is never around. Sometimes when I call he do not answer so what am I to do if something happen or go into labor. He apologized and said he understand and he would do better. The very next day which it was pouring down raining and usually we are texting or calling each other thuroughout the day. I did not receive a text or call which I thought nothing about it cause it happens sometime. Due to the weather I was a bit congested and did not want to keep getting out in the rain so on my way home I called him to pick up me some medicine on the way home and he did not answer. When I made it home I called the office and a man picked up whom I did not know and apparently did not know me. I informed him who I was and asked to speak with my fiance. He told me that he step away from the office for about an hour and did I want to leave a message. At this time I was furious because all of his friends know me and this guy must have been an average joe or something. Anyway I told him I will reach him on his cell phone which I called 3 times and did not get an answer. Then I called back to the office and ask the gentleman did he leave the office and the man repliled yes so I told him my name so that he could let my fiance know that I called. I then in returned tried caller him again on his cell twice and got no answer. Then about 30 mins later he calls the house and my cell but I did not answer. To top it all off he did not return home til about an hour and a half later. He came in the house trying to explain but I ignored him because he was lying I know.. He started saying that he left his phone on his desk and I was thinking why did the guy tell me his phone was in the office and why would you leave your phone when you have a fiance in her 35th week which means anything could happen at this point.. I am so mad and upset with myself to think that I trusted this man and this is the thanks I get. I have to know go another 18 years raising another child when I could had been finished in the next 5 years.. He shows no remorse to my feelings.. What in the have I gotten into. All of my life I have put my trust in men and I get the same result although I thought this one would be different.. Please give me your advice or suggestion. Good or Bad.. Thanks in advance. I know sometimes that when you are pregnant you become a bit emotional, insecure and unattracted. So I am writing this forum to see if I am being over dramatic about things.

When my fiance and I first met we hit it off like a pea and a pod. We both agree on planning to have a baby together. I have two kids and this would be his first.

He has been marriaged a quite a few times but seem to be a great guy..

Friends and family always seemed comfortable leaving their kids with him.

We also discussed marriage but since he had been married a couple time he was a bit skeptical about it. Although we did not think that I would get pregnant as fast as I did since it did not happen in the past for him being that he even paid for invitro with his last wife.

We would make love at least 2/3 times a day and enjoyed each other.

Now that I am pregnant not to mention a bit sick through my pregnancy we only had sex about 5 times total and I am 8 months pregnant. I began to think where did all the love, attraction, attention,sex, and happines go.

I talked to him about it him no longer showing any affection and how he sleeps at the end of the bad and I am on the other side of the bed. I also asked him was he still attracted to me and of course he said yes. I do not consider myself big although I have gained 55lbs (135lbs when we met)but it is all baby.

He has his own business and does other things on the side as well. So he has a lot of female friends so I do not know who is who but before I never felt insecure but all of a sudden I do know since everything has stopped.

Here are the incidents. One day he suppose to go to his office to met a client and it was 4pm and he suppose to return so that we could go grab a bit to eat as time went by it was 8pm so I called him. He picked up and said he was at the office talking to two of his other friend and would be home shortly so something told me to get in the car and go over there which I sit out side his office about 30 min later he and his friend walks out with beer in their hands accompanied by two females. I drove up and asked what was going on he said nothing however the female that was walking with him turned her back to me and never said a word. As for his friend he continue laughing and carrying on.

He was upset with me and stating that I should call when I come to his office.

Another incident is I check his phone and seen text msgs from this female asking if they could meet, what she wanted for her birthday, calling him boo, and etc.. I asked him about it and he says that she is a friend he helped get her business started and lived out of town. About two weeks ago I again found calls from this same female which he change her name to initials in his phone and I questioned him about it and he said she was helping him with a deal and I informed him how she lives out of town and he could not say anything. We had a big falling out because I was pissed and the next day when I came home from work he said that he had to leave and go stay in a hotel to get himself together.

I told him that we promise one another that we would not stay a night away from one another . I begged him not to leave but he still left and I called him after he left but he did not answer the phone.

The next morning he called and wanted to take me to breakfast so that we could talk but I did not go so he brought it home to me.

He stated he thought about what I was saying and I was right. We never talked about anything. So a couple of days later I explained to him the things we talked about when we first met and all his promises and he just apologzie and said that he would try not to stress me.

Two weeks ago I could not reach him and he said that his cell phone went dead but I called the office and he did not answer.

Earlier this week he stayed in his office tell about 830pm and came home to inform me that his phone needed a jump off and he came home to get the truck and cable.

I know for sure the mercedes has jumper cables in the trunk but I did not say I word. He returned home in about 945pm and the office is about ten away from our home.

I did not say anything to him once he returned he was just explaining which did not make sense. The next day I explain to him that it seems like I am going thru this pregnancy by myself an he is never around.

Sometimes when I call he do not answer so what am I to do if something happen or go into labor. He apologized and said he understand and he would do better.

The very next day which it was pouring down raining and usually we are texting or calling each other thuroughout the day. I did not receive a text or call which I thought nothing about it cause it happens sometime.

Due to the weather I was a bit congested and did not want to keep getting out in the rain so on my way home I called him to pick up me some medicine on the way home and he did not answer. When I made it home I called the office and a man picked up whom I did not know and apparently did not know me. I informed him who I was and asked to speak with my fiance. He told me that he step away from the office for about an hour and did I want to leave a message.

At this time I was furious because all of his friends know me and this guy must have been an average joe or something. Anyway I told him I will reach him on his cell phone which I called 3 times and did not get an answer. Then I called back to the office and ask the gentleman did he leave the office and the man repliled yes so I told him my name so that he could let my fiance know that I called. I then in returned tried caller him again on his cell twice and got no answer. Then about 30 mins later he calls the house and my cell but I did not answer. To top it all off he did not return home til about an hour and a half later. He came in the house trying to explain but I ignored him because he was lying I know..

He started saying that he left his phone on his desk and I was thinking why did the guy tell me his phone was in the office and why would you leave your phone when you have a fiance in her 35th week which means anything could happen at this point.. I am so mad and upset with myself to think that I trusted this man and this is the thanks I get.

I have to know go another 18 years raising another child when I could had been finished in the next 5 years.. He shows no remorse to my feelings.. What in the have I gotten into. All of my life I have put my trust in men and I get the same result although I thought this one would be different..

Please give me your advice or suggestion. Good or Bad.. Thanks in advance. ]]> Husband/Fiance faithfulone http://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/19071-8mths-pregnant-i-think-my-fiance-cheating-me.html