13 Year Old Kleptomaniac?
DH and I adopted a sweet little girl but.... She comes with some serious baggage. The latest is that we visited a friend's Mother (She has a boat) and our little monster made off with this very nice ladies favorite doll. The lady btw is neat as a pin so we KNOW its missing. And I know who stole it this because I was changing her sheets and found the doll hidden behind her bed. Sooo... DH has her and no one knows. I'm tempted to let DH do all the dealing with this latest "crime" *She has stolen from us in the past. This one really just frosts my cake... ARG!!!! Is it ever easy?
"Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got." ~ Janis Joplin
She's been adopted.
Stealing is usually "possession" off course the thrill as well, but usually "possession"
She wants a lot of things she never had, which could be a simple thing like "attention".
It would be good to work to break the cycle, because little things add up to bigger things as we know, but also the older she gets, anything stolen can land her in bigger trouble.
Certainly, feel for you there.
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
I have so much respect for you, for adopting this child. How old was she when you adopted her?
The fact that she has had to be adopted proves in itself that she has been through alot already. Who knows what she went through? I hope you can tell us.
What this child needs is continued love and support from you, her new parents. She will most likely do bad things because she considers herself to be bad or because she's sure you're going to get rid of her soon enough so she might as well make it happen...
She's obviously had a hard time and all you can do is try to explain right from wrong in case she really doesn't understand but also try to make her believe that you're in this for the long haul, you CHOSE her because you wanted to love and look after her unconditionally and no matter what she does she's stuck with you.
A neighbour of my friend adopted a little girl who was apparently 'not very affectionate' towards her new mum... after not seeing this little girl again for a while my friend asked and was told the family had 'given her back because she was so unaffectionate and too much trouble'! My friend and I were in tears talking about this. That poor little girl had been pushed from pillar to post, family to family, constantly being rejected- why would she be affectionate?? she's just waiting to be rejected yet again and lo and behold it happened again. Who knows what went on in this girls life, sexual/physical/mental abuse? What she needs is a family to stick with her, taking care of her and loving her UNCONDITIONALLY until she realises they're not going anywhere, even if she doesn't kiss or hug them for years! It must take alot of hard work to deal with adopted children because of their baggage but anyone who is determined to see it through must surely be rewarded in the long run.
Good luck and God bless you xx
No good advice on this one except the obvious which is to take her to therapy. Not sure how much it helps. Does it get easier? Yes, when they are about 19 or 20 years old, and sometimes not till 28 or so.Originally Posted by Phoebee
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