Thread: Need To Vent!!

How is your husband with the 10 month old? Does he show the baby affection or is he indifferent to him/her as well?

I don't condone divorce, I am sort of an optimistic...I have this thinking that if people try hard en0pugh they can succeed, however, I am not naive enough to realize that sometimes it just doesn't work...

If this erm, so-called, man doesn't realize what he is doing to this young girl then he def needs some sort of wake up call...Even if it is you leaving for awhile and giving him the chance to change the behavior...This behavior towards your little girl is not only wrong, but jeez, selfish...I don't know any other word....

Maybe before full blown divorce you separate and give him a chance, if he doesn't take the chance the go through with it!

ohh, how do I edit my post for missed typo's?..*enough*

I think you're a great mother for wanting to protect your daughter.
I personally think your husband loves you very much and the thought of you having a bond (your daughter) with your ex-husband is making him jealous.

But do keep in mind that you have a very small baby with your current husband and you don't want him to grow up without a father or with another step-father.

If i were you, i would plan some family activities and really try to set them to work together and for him to get to know her as a wonderful little girl and not as a souvenir from your previous marriage.

If all fails, you should go see a counselor. My husband and I had problems, but we could afford only a few sessions and belive you me that those sessions helped quite a lot.

I wish you all the best

I am so sorry to hear that. Sadly, I have been in your daughter's shoes. I won't go into much detail but it does hurt. It's good that you are taking her away from him. Because if she had to grow up like that; it would totally put her on a different path that might not be good for her.

good job for leaving him.

...and good luck to you

<3

I understand the people that are saying that she should try to make it work, save the marriage and all but it sounds like she has brought this up to him on many occasions and he refuses to change.

He is so childish that I had a hard time stomaching reading that post. I would say work with him if he had the ability to feel that way without emotionally damaging your daughter at the same time. If he was able to TALK to you about it and vent his frustrations there.

But since he can't fake it and put on a smiley face and at least pretend to listen to elaborate hamster stories like any adult would do, while he works out his own childish issues of not being able to accept that you had a life before him then you are making the right decision.

She already notices, what a heart this girl has it sounds. Something like this could shatter her self-image, have an effect on her relationships with men in the future and not to mention create a resentment to you for picking to stay with a man that could make her feel so unwanted.

Someone mentioned your baby, what about the baby? Etc.. I think a man that doesn't have the ability to put his wife and her child (part of her) needs above his own selfishness does not make good father material anyway. Better to raise both the children getting all the love and attention they both deserve (even without him) than to have one adored and one ignored.

I know, I know this must be so hard for you. A woman should not be put in a situation to have to choose between her child and her husband, but given the choice.. the answer is only obvious. Good luck to you. I am not saying he's beyond hope, or that you can't work it out I really hope to God that you do, as it is what would be best for everyone. But don't give him her formative years to work out his problems at her cost.