Thread: Betrayed my mum and fiance

I recently found out that my mother has been having an affair with my fiance. We have always been very close and I cannot believe she would do something so terrible to me. My mother and my fiance had always got on very well and she had said to me that she was so happy that I had found such a wonderful man. I actually liked the fact that they seemed to like each other so much.

About 3 weeks ago, when I was at my mother's house, she broke down and told me that she and my fiance had ben sleeping together for the past 3 months and that she thought she was in love with him. I couldn't believe what she was saying. She kept apologising and telling me how sorry she was but I cannot believe she would betray me like this. My dad left when I was very young and she raised me by herself. She was a brilliant mother and I had the most wonderful upbringing. I just feel so alone now. I trusted her more than anyone I've ever know and never thought she would hurt me like this.

When I confronted my fiance, he admitted it too and said that although he still loved me, he did have feelings for her. I threw him out of the house and since then I haven't spoken to either of them. I'm just so confused. I don't know who I can trust anymore. My mum keeps phoning me and begging for forgiveness and my fiance says that he want to be with me still. I miss them both so much but I don't think I can ever forgive either of them. How can I just forget about everything? And if I was to forgive either of them, how could I trust them.

My mum was the one person I always went to for advice and now I don't know where to turn. What should I do? Has anyone else ever been through this?

I am so sorry you are going through this. I have not had a similar situation, but what I can tell you is that you probably should take a few steps back, and try to figure out what you are really feeling and what you will or will not stand for.

Just me, I'd dump him right off!