Thread: Fiance saying something to my sister about the things she says that upsets me

My sister always states her opinion even when not necessary. She always accuses and takes cheap shots. She calls us out on our faults when it is not her place. This has happend often.

This is the situation this time... She handles my Mothers money. We (fiance and I) borrowed $700 (in July) to get a car. We now owe $170. I gave my sister $60, last week. The weekend of Thanksgiving my fiance and I took our daughter on a Christmas vactation (3 hours away from home) to Branson. There was so much we didn't do because of lack of money. Today when I tell my sister, she goes off because we owe the money. She has a reason to have a concern and I understand that. She upset me cause of the things she says...she says " are you that self absorbed" "We need financial classes" "We don't have our prioritys right" "People in my life helped me when I needed it and now I don't think of them". As I said I understand her having something to say but she really was out of line with the things she said.

I hate arguing with her because she fights unfair and I always find myself explaining myself. She takes cheap shots. And I explain to my fiance that I don't know the right way to deal and communicate with her.

Because it is he and I that she is talking down on, he said he was going to call her and talk to her about the things she says. For one, she says these things to me and then when she sees us she acts like she hasn't talked all this . Is it okay to have him call her?

whatever it is that needs to be said, you need to say it. if he says it for you she'll see that you're too timid and will just keep on acting the same way towards you. Firmly put her in her place yourself and she'll end up backing off, or it wont bother you as much as you'll be standing up for yourself.