Thread: How to deal with a nagging MIL??

Hey all,

I am confused as to how to handle my relationship with my mother in law. I have got married only 2 months back and we were dating since past 5 years before we got married. My mother in law has always remained insecure that my husband would ignore her and stop loving her because of his closeness with me. After marriage she was very nice and sweet to me. I really appreciate her for a lot of things but there are a certain things that are blowing my mind off. She controls our lives too much. She starts in the morning by waking us up. She will keep banging our door until we wake up. She will then keep insisting that I want to see your faces before leaving for work. The moment it is evening she will start calling my husband asking questions where are we, when will we be back, she is waiting, did we have our meals, did we have milk, what did we eat in our lunch, she wants the exact menu. It just irritates me coz it makes me feel like I am a small kid. It is just 2 months and we sometimes have our plans for the evening after working really hard the whole day and most of the times we have to cancel our plans because she starts crying and saying we don't give her any time. What has happened now is that whenever I am out with my husband all I am thinking is that we have to reach home as soon as possible coz I really don't want anybody crying because of me. Whenever I am alone with her she talks nothing but her insecurities. How men cheat, how things change after marriage and I dont know what all. I can't take so much of her insecurities. I have been trying to maintain a balance but now I have started giving up. I am scared of being with her alone coz I might just loose my patience with her some day. I do tell my husband about all this but I only then stop him to say anything to her coz I dont want them fighting and then she crying. It makes me feel really guilty. I am totally confused. Please suggest something.