Thread: What does it feel like to be married?

After being married for a long long time...

Not having to date! Hoooray!!!!

Having someone who has your best interests at heart.

Not being into (so much) of the drama of what is he thinking? Does he think my butt is too fat etc etc etc.

Having someone who knows exactly what buttons to press to give you a great sex life.

Being able to wake up (look like a mess) and not be worried about him seeing you. *mostly... ;-)

I think marriage is great! But trust me having had one that was NOT great. Its got to be to the right person. Most people should wait and mature a LOT before they do this. This is a case where giving is more important then getting. And some people? Should just stay single...

For me marriage didn't change anything - we had been dating for years and living together for about a year. It just let the rest of the world know what we already knew.

Marriage isn't all that. You can have all the things that the other posters said without marriage. A lot of people view marriage as the only way to commit to the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. That is such a romantic thought, and so untrue. Commitment comes long before marriage. You can feel comfortable waking up with messed up hair and bad breath long before marriage. You can have a loving and monogomous relationship without marriage, and in a lot of ways it's better to not be married.

Marriage is nothing more than a legal binding contract regarding your commitment that does several things. First, it makes everything you own joint property, which means in the case of a divorce, you stand a good chance of losing 50% of everything you own. Second, in the case you and your partner decide that the relationship isn't working, divorce is very expensive. If you weren't married, you could just shake hands and go your separate ways. And finally, marriage guarantees a 70% or better chance that you will be divorced one day. I know, I've been divorced twice.

So what is the alternative? How about a loving committed monogomous relationship without making lawyers richer off of it and without risking losing 50% of what you've worked so hard to achieve? There is always a co-habitation agreement if you feel you must have a legal document to make you feel more secure. But marriage doesn't guarantee that you will be together forever. It doesn't guarantee that your partner will never cheat. And it certainly doesn't mean you will be happy in your relationship. Just my two cents.

There are NO guarentee's in life, so simply put not getting married because of what "could" happen is living in fear...

We walk around everyday making decisions not knowing what will come of it. and one thing I would never miss in life is the dance, ya know...Even after 15 yrs of marriage , alot of ups and downs, learning together, growing together(the dance)...I still know that one day it "could" all be gone...

Nothing is guaranteed ever, you have to work everyday to keep what you have....And Marriage is one of my biggest jobs. If I, along with my hubby, don't strive everyday to keep our marriage working, it will fail, we know this..

So no marriage is not all peaches and cream it can be downright bitter at times and can be just fantastic other times...

Originally Posted by Smiles302

Do you feel different as husband and wife, then boyfriend and girlfriend?
What is it like to be there? Coming home from the hunnymoon are ye different? Other than having survived the whole planning the wedding episode and being thrown together for a day with his family as while as yours.

Actualy I was amazed how little change, if any, I felt after I got married. I was expecting some sort of mystical sireal feeling, but there real was none. But then I relized that marriage is not the final destination of a relationship. Instead, a relationship is like a living organism that is growing and evolving. It is a slow process that leads to gradual change not rapid change like the caterpillar morphing into a butterfly.
Does marriage feel diferent then a bf/gf relationship? Yes it does but the different nuances took some time to develope.

It great but it's allot of work.

Is easy to get lazy with each other.


It's worth it with the right person