I have been thinking about this for years . . .

GucciGal · 02-13-2009, 01:05 PM

Have you ever considered adopting or fostering a child? Why or why not? I’ve been considering this for a while now. It’s not that I’m not capable of having my own children, but I’ve always thought of adoption/ fostering as a good thing to do. You know, there are so many children here already to choose from, that need and want love, I feel compelled. But I must admit I am a little afraid.
Just curious what you think some pros and cons are….

**reilu** · 02-13-2009, 02:32 PM

yes...........i want more than anything to have foster children some day (but im not anywhere near ready to have kids, cuz im only 18!!).

think about it. there are so many children out there that need homes. ive always said, "why make more when there are so many in need of homes??" im not saying that people shouldnt have children of their own. of course they should. but for me personally, i feel a need to give those children something that every child has a right to. love, support, a home, and a feeling of security. that is the LEAST that every child has a right to.

i have this book right now and its called Orphans of the Living. its about foster children. i cant wait to read it.

and there are a lot of foster parents who are NOT good parents at all. they dont use the money they get for the child to provide for the child as well as they should. thats something that makes me sick to no end. ive often thought of going to school to become a social worker, cuz theres a lot of them that dont do their job as they should. one case in particular that happened near where i live:

there was this social worker who was supposed to be going to this house to check on this little girl of about two years of age. well the parents kept making excuses. "oh she's napping right now" "shes with her grandmother" well, they later found the little girl dead stuffed in a cooler.........i dont have words to tell you how sick htis makes me. yes, the parents are comletely disgusting. but the social worker is also to blame. she wasnt doing her job. if the parents keep making excuses, you DEMAND to see that child. THAT IS THEIR JOB. to check on that child. its stories like that, about people who are supposed to do their jobs but dont, that make me want to pursue this career. but now that little girl is the one who is dead. i'd like to hang them all.

i want to have foster children so that those children get treated right, get loved. they have a right just like any other child to be loved.

i think that, if i did ever have foster children, i would probably form such an attachment that i would probably try to adopt them. people dont realize how hard it is on these kids to be thrown from one home to another. its really sad.

good on ya!! i hope you do it! there arent many people who can do this sort of thing.

**reilu** · 02-13-2009, 02:38 PM

and you wanted to know the pros and cons?? yeah its going to be tougher. these kids are going to have a lot of problems and might be really rebellious, but they need someone to show them that they care for them. they need love. maybe they will never admit, maybe they will never show it back, but they need it. and they want it. its gonna be really hard. but its so important that you stick to it. in the end, they are the ones that are more important. try to think of them as if you physically gave birth to them. you would do anything for your child right?? well a foster child shouldnt be any different. as for adopting children..............i dont know too much about that. lol again, if i adopted, it would be foster children.

**ThexMrs** · 02-13-2009, 11:14 PM

I have known my lot in life from a young age. I was meant to be a mother. There isn't a doubt in my mind. I love children. I've thought about this a lot. I am very much so into adopting. I agree with what you said, there are so many children out there ready to be chosen and loved.

As for fostering... That is something that I would do if I needed to. The reason I say it like that is because a friend of mine does it and in time the children are taken and moved. You don't have the child from the time you get him/her until the time they are 18. That to me would be so heart breaking. I couldn't just give up my child that way.

**reilu** · 02-14-2009, 09:46 AM

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As for fostering... That is something that I would do if I needed to. The reason I say it like that is because a friend of mine does it and in time the children are taken and moved. You don't have the child from the time you get him/her until the time they are 18. That to me would be so heart breaking. I couldn't just give up my child that way.[/COLOR][/FONT][/B]

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yes it would be heart breaking. thats why i would probably try to adopt the children i fostered.

MoveOnIn · 02-24-2009, 03:22 PM

yeah...there are definitely a lot of things to consider and it's an irreversible process to that one really has to be on board w/it before making a HUGE decision like that. I'm still a bit skeptic when it comes to adopting but yeah...it seems like the pros may just outweigh the cons.

02-13-2009, 01:05 PM	#1
GucciGal VIP Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 36	I have been thinking about this for years . . . Have you ever considered adopting or fostering a child? Why or why not? I’ve been considering this for a while now. It’s not that I’m not capable of having my own children, but I’ve always thought of adoption/ fostering as a good thing to do. You know, there are so many children here already to choose from, that need and want love, I feel compelled. But I must admit I am a little afraid. Just curious what you think some pros and cons are….

02-13-2009, 11:14 PM	#4
ThexMrs Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Oregon. Posts: 3,476 Blog Entries: 13	Yes, Yes, Yes! I have known my lot in life from a young age. I was meant to be a mother. There isn't a doubt in my mind. I love children. I've thought about this a lot. I am very much so into adopting. I agree with what you said, there are so many children out there ready to be chosen and loved. As for fostering... That is something that I would do if I needed to. The reason I say it like that is because a friend of mine does it and in time the children are taken and moved. You don't have the child from the time you get him/her until the time they are 18. That to me would be so heart breaking. I couldn't just give up my child that way. __________________ "I carry your heart with me, I carry it in my heart, I am never without it, anywhere I go, you go, my dear, And whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling."

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02-13-2009, 02:32 PM	#2
reilu Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: pennsylvannia, US Posts: 162	yes...........i want more than anything to have foster children some day (but im not anywhere near ready to have kids, cuz im only 18!!). think about it. there are so many children out there that need homes. ive always said, "why make more when there are so many in need of homes??" im not saying that people shouldnt have children of their own. of course they should. but for me personally, i feel a need to give those children something that every child has a right to. love, support, a home, and a feeling of security. that is the LEAST that every child has a right to. i have this book right now and its called Orphans of the Living. its about foster children. i cant wait to read it. and there are a lot of foster parents who are NOT good parents at all. they dont use the money they get for the child to provide for the child as well as they should. thats something that makes me sick to no end. ive often thought of going to school to become a social worker, cuz theres a lot of them that dont do their job as they should. one case in particular that happened near where i live: there was this social worker who was supposed to be going to this house to check on this little girl of about two years of age. well the parents kept making excuses. "oh she's napping right now" "shes with her grandmother" well, they later found the little girl dead stuffed in a cooler.........i dont have words to tell you how sick htis makes me. yes, the parents are comletely disgusting. but the social worker is also to blame. she wasnt doing her job. if the parents keep making excuses, you DEMAND to see that child. THAT IS THEIR JOB. to check on that child. its stories like that, about people who are supposed to do their jobs but dont, that make me want to pursue this career. but now that little girl is the one who is dead. i'd like to hang them all. i want to have foster children so that those children get treated right, get loved. they have a right just like any other child to be loved. i think that, if i did ever have foster children, i would probably form such an attachment that i would probably try to adopt them. people dont realize how hard it is on these kids to be thrown from one home to another. its really sad. good on ya!! i hope you do it! there arent many people who can do this sort of thing.

02-13-2009, 02:38 PM	#3
reilu Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: pennsylvannia, US Posts: 162	and you wanted to know the pros and cons?? yeah its going to be tougher. these kids are going to have a lot of problems and might be really rebellious, but they need someone to show them that they care for them. they need love. maybe they will never admit, maybe they will never show it back, but they need it. and they want it. its gonna be really hard. but its so important that you stick to it. in the end, they are the ones that are more important. try to think of them as if you physically gave birth to them. you would do anything for your child right?? well a foster child shouldnt be any different. as for adopting children..............i dont know too much about that. lol again, if i adopted, it would be foster children.

02-24-2009, 03:22 PM	#6
MoveOnIn VIP Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 36	yeah...there are definitely a lot of things to consider and it's an irreversible process to that one really has to be on board w/it before making a HUGE decision like that. I'm still a bit skeptic when it comes to adopting but yeah...it seems like the pros may just outweigh the cons.