Thread: a car accident took my cousin's wife and he is devistated

Death is so hard to deal with. All you can do is try to realize that your partner would have wanted you to be happy and to go on with your life. Try to think of how you would wish they would act if you had died.

But those are just words, the reality is beyond words, and all you can offer is comfort.

WC that is such a great tradition and thank you for your support.

rcoreyus I've said those exact words to him about how his wife gave so much of herself to him and so much of spirit. She wouldn't want him wasting that. Honor her go out and kinda ya know pay it forward. She gave a lot to him made him feel special and confident. I think its more she showed him he could be those things and now with out her he thinks he is nothing, has nothing.

His brother died years before that and he hasn't let go of that pain. His wife passed away 2 years ago in august and then by that christmas he lost his dad to cancer. I know it was a lot of letting go and losing people all at once for him. He carrys such a burden of pain on himself.

Very true words and reality easy said not easy done all the time.

My cousin was in a similar situation as well. Her parents and her husband passed away within about a year of each other. It took her a long while but with the help of family and friends she was able to pick herself up. The pain will never go away but she now has the strength to move on.

From this post, I can see how much you love and care for your cousin, and he will need that love to carry him through the hard times. But I know you will be there to help him when he needs you. That's what he needs right now...