This is so hard to deal with. What can you do or say? All you can usually do is let them know you care and you love them. It's good you got him in for some counseling. This sounds like it may be guilt as much as anything. You are so right, nothing is forever, people leave us, sometimes even though they don't want to. No matter what you do or say, ultimately he has to choose how he responds.
He will have to move on, but when and how is up to him. There is an old tradition in the Northwestern Tribes as well as some others that once a year has passed after a death, you should have a giveaway, to honor the person who has gone on and you gift all their possessions to others. This gives the time to mourn a limit, allows you to bring some joy or help to others by giving things they need or will have a use for and it allows the family and community to remember the one who has died and say goodbye.
Be there for him but don't let him engulf you in this. If you can try to get him out to do some fun things once in a while. A picnic, a visit to the museum of public gardens, maybe a movie?
You are such a sensitive and perceptive woman, I have no doubt you find the right things to say and do.



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