She Just Gave birth today to my neice and wont let any of us come and see her not even my mother. My brother is away in the army and wont be back until this next weekend. We are all fed up with her and her lies and her two-facedness. She filed rape on my other brother before she got involved with her now husband and they are almost identical. I wouldnt have married my rapers almost twin brother.
The sad thing is that this baby is 6 weeks early and we dont know when it will be able to go home it was only 3 and a half pounds. My whole family is so frustrated that there is nothing we can do. we cant get mad at her because she is in such a delicate position and we cant just demand to see the baby because its not right to be unwelcome. No one in my family likes her but the fact is she is still family and as family we wanted to suport her and keep her company until my brother comes home. And even when he comes home he will protect her and not us because we are the "evil family" that just wants to be apart of the childrens life.
Does anyone have any sugestions as to how to deal with her.

There is absolutely nothing at all whatsoever
that you can do.

Anything you will do will prove wrong.
You have to just walk away.

I'll give you an example.

Divorced parents, their son's first child....
Son is married to a woman who leads him
around by the nose.

The Son's Mother, wisely, stays away.
The Son's Father, stupidly goes to the hospital.

DIL...(Daughter in Law) is in charge of the
Earth, and her parents are deputy commanders
who decide if/when the Son's Father can see
the child, under what conditions, etc. etc.

The Son's Father is livid.
How dare they tell him anything...
so he's tossed out of the hospital.

Are you watching this?

The Paternal Grandfather is thrown out of
the hospital for 'upsetting' the mother...
and father of the baby...his son.

His Son, who by the way is allowing it.

So the Paternal Grandfather is Thrown Out
of the Hospital...and in shock, rings up
his ex-wife, the paternal Grandmother...
who hasn't moved from her livingroom.

As bad as your case is..
this one is even worse.

Leave them alone.
It is her life, her baby, and if anything
goes wrong, she's the one to be blamed.

With her husband away, she's acting
like a vicious dog protecting her puppy...
leave her alone.

Don't worry about it, let it go.
When he comes back, or when the
novelty wears off, maybe your sister
in law will come down to earth...

She sounds mentally imbalanced.
Unless you can prove this, however,
and have the child taken away from
her, and she declared an unfit mother,
all you can do is break your own heart.

You know what kind of person she is.
And you don't want to be the victim.

Oh i could so get those children taken away but i dont feel That is fair to every one els. My brother is a good daddy they have been talking about devorce since they got married but always decide to stay together in the end. I knoe she is not good for hi she cant even clean her own home or take care of her own children but yet she wants to run an in ome day care where she is the boss and doesnt have to watch the children she is so full of dumb idea but she just doesnt listen to any one even they are experiance in that field. Grr she makes me mad But she did change her mind and let us come and see baby today and she was cute.

Imagine this, the daughter in law decides to breast feed.
Breast feed exclusively for six months.

The son's mother never breast fed, always bottle fed
and started the children very early on food so that
the 'weaning' was totally painless.

DIL doesn't want to hear a word of this.

The baby wakes up every hour crying for food.

The doctor tells her...over the phone, that there's no
problem. She'll make enough milk.

Every hour the baby cries for food.

So the Son's Mother, hearing this tells the DIL
that she's not making enough milk. She should
supplement.

Who told MIL (Mother in Law) to say anything?

You can imagine who is Persona Non Gratia.

The point is, let people make their own mistakes
and pay for them.

My ex's sister is a nut job. This is my story: My ex is a self admitted alcoholic. She confronted him several times and so did her husband. Not that they are any better. They both smoke weed and drink to excess every weekend themselves. When my son was born and I told him that enough was enough deal with it or I'm leaving. His sister told me she completely supported me and that he deserved what he got. Well he went to AA for exactly three meetings and said he was cured forever. So we talked and tried to work things out, spent time together. I never moved back in with him. But then May came and summer was around the corner and the guys from work were going for beers and he started acting like his old self. In other words treating me like dirt. So I left. When we went to court I said my ex could have the baby every second weekend during the day Sat and Sun. That is WAY more than the courts automatically give. So I gave him a huge leap of faith. However I would send all of the bottles, diapers, clothes and toys and most of it would come back. The baby never once got enough bottles in a day, never once was changed more than once in NINE hours. Then when I confronted my ex he freaked out and then his sister started sending me threatening emails. After that I told my ex that he was no longer to take the baby to her house. I did not like the way she was acting (it was out of the blue and scary). However he took him there anyways. It just happened to be the day that the baby started his first ever antibiotics so I called to check on him. He was supposed to be at his parents but they said they had not seen him in days. I went to his sister's house and my ex was leaving without the baby and had left him there with her alone. Which we had long ago agreed she would never be alone with him because of how neglectful she is with her own son and how she is always stoned. When I knocked on her door she would not answer and would not let me see my son. I had to call the police in order to get her to let my son see me. So I said enough is enough...you can't be trusted with anything. So we went back to court and I asked for supervised access. I even offered for it to be supervised in my home. However my ex and his sister chose to try to make me look bad by putting alot of lies in an affidavit in court and take custody away. But they did not want Bryson to live with my ex...he just wanted custody. My lawyer thought he was trying to get child support but still have me have the responsibility. The judge threw his motion out and suspended his access over Christmas and then in January ordered supervised access at an access centre. While it was technically what I asked for...this whole situation is not what I dreamed of as a little girl. So that is why it drives me nuts when his sister sends me emails or calls me saying things like "We give up, you win. You never wanted us as part of the baby's life" I never said I did not want them part of his life. But I do not want drugs, alcohol or fighting around my child. I don't know if I want advice or just some time to vent. Does anyone else think they're nuts?

Your ex never should have had anything but supervised
access.

Firstly, he's not interested in a baby. What is the point
of getting visitation if you leave the child one place and
go another?

I think he's not going to exercise his visitation after a
while, which is good. One less bad influence.

Thank you so much. I've had so many people telling me that it's not right for me to want supervised access. But he's not taking it seriously and if he does not want to do things "right" than I would rather he just leave my son alone. I don't want my baby growing up feeling bad for not knowing his father but I truly believe he would feel worse growing up with a father who is inconsistent or uncaring.

With supervised access he has to be on his best
behaviour, can't take the kid any where, is forced
to actually pay attention to the child.

Many men hate this.
They just want to toss the kid in the car
and go about their business, then drop the
kid back.

Supervised access is the only way to go.