family nudity, sorry this long

gym rat · 06-18-2009, 12:51 PM

hello everyone
this thought has been in my mind for 3-4 months now, i am a bit cunfused and maybe have some issues with it. i grew up in a family of 5 with an older sister(2years older), myself(male) and a younger sister(3years younger), mother and father. we where all pretty privat. door locked when having a shower, bedroom doors always closed. didnt see any one of them without any close on, didnt dare to try to peek.
i am now 34 married with 2 childeren, 7 year old boy and a 5 year old daughter. my wife was an only child and saw her mom and dad naked all the time, bathroom, bedroom all indoors of cource.
when it is bath-bed time for my 2 childeren, they run all over the house naked, this doesnt bother me a whole lot, but my wife let them bath together a little while ago and i got home from work i went to check up on them and started going crazy and got them out of the tub and in to pjs. i just thought they where too close to each other. i am not against nudity and i dont want them to grow up feeling ashamed of there own bodies.
how do i or we(my wife and i) go about seperating the time for nudity and privat time. ive been on some interesting forums lately and read some different stories between brothers and sisters and it bothers me to think of what could happen because they see each other naked at bath-bed time.
i am interested in hearing what others think in this situation, good or bad.
thank you for your time, sorry it was soooo long or if it is confusing. my writing sucks
gym rat

**WildChild** · 06-18-2009, 03:20 PM

This is hard because it gets into personal preferences. In some societies, no one sees anyone naked, in others its quite common. I think it important for them to understand that what is ok at home, isn't in public. They also need to understand appropriate and inappropriate touching. Kids do explore, that's natural. I'd bet that if you keep an open and frank attitude, there won't be any problems.

**Hopeless Dork** · 06-18-2009, 03:56 PM

Personally, I don't feel family nudity is appropriate. You can teach your kid to not be ashamed of their body while at the same time teaching them to respect it and the people around them. Little babies is one thing, but over 6 even I think its time they bathe seperately and learn to give each other privacy.

I don't see what good can come from a practice that is so unusual it would need to be 'only done indoors' etc. In the real world and in society, nudity is not widely accepted, right or wrong its the world we live in. To teach them come be nude at home then outside/ at theirfriends house behave different. Confusing.

I'm sure some kids that grow up in totally free open nudity homes may have a good sense of self and their bodies and I am sure some may have feelings of guilt and wierdness when they find out most homes don't operate this way.

Its your life, its your family of course you can run it how you see fit, your wife seemed to have turned out fine in her environment but if your looking for opinion I think they are too old to be bathing together and seeing each other nude. That they needn't be shamed, but that now is the time to start teaching bounderies.

**blondie80** · 07-03-2009, 06:23 AM

Sorry to reply to this post so late but im going to reply anyway

I think it all comes down to what you are used to and what you grow up with, I never seen my father naked or sisters or mother infact yes at times half naked while they were getting dressed or things like that but never properly.
My children bathed together until they were maybe three and four and my youngest I had trouble keeping clothes on her, but I persisted it doesn't mean that we still dont get the odd nude run through the house but now nearly all the time covered by towels. We have had the big talks about body parts and things like that and why you should wear clothes and those sorts of things but to a degree i think that they need to be aware that its really not appropriate to be naked or that your too old to bath with your brother or your sister.
I don't know if that is really right but that is my opinion and what has happened in our house over time!

06-18-2009, 12:51 PM	#1
gym rat Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1	family nudity, sorry this long hello everyone this thought has been in my mind for 3-4 months now, i am a bit cunfused and maybe have some issues with it. i grew up in a family of 5 with an older sister(2years older), myself(male) and a younger sister(3years younger), mother and father. we where all pretty privat. door locked when having a shower, bedroom doors always closed. didnt see any one of them without any close on, didnt dare to try to peek. i am now 34 married with 2 childeren, 7 year old boy and a 5 year old daughter. my wife was an only child and saw her mom and dad naked all the time, bathroom, bedroom all indoors of cource. when it is bath-bed time for my 2 childeren, they run all over the house naked, this doesnt bother me a whole lot, but my wife let them bath together a little while ago and i got home from work i went to check up on them and started going crazy and got them out of the tub and in to pjs. i just thought they where too close to each other. i am not against nudity and i dont want them to grow up feeling ashamed of there own bodies. how do i or we(my wife and i) go about seperating the time for nudity and privat time. ive been on some interesting forums lately and read some different stories between brothers and sisters and it bothers me to think of what could happen because they see each other naked at bath-bed time. i am interested in hearing what others think in this situation, good or bad. thank you for your time, sorry it was soooo long or if it is confusing. my writing sucks gym rat

06-18-2009, 03:56 PM	#3
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 1,173	Personally, I don't feel family nudity is appropriate. You can teach your kid to not be ashamed of their body while at the same time teaching them to respect it and the people around them. Little babies is one thing, but over 6 even I think its time they bathe seperately and learn to give each other privacy. I don't see what good can come from a practice that is so unusual it would need to be 'only done indoors' etc. In the real world and in society, nudity is not widely accepted, right or wrong its the world we live in. To teach them come be nude at home then outside/ at theirfriends house behave different. Confusing. I'm sure some kids that grow up in totally free open nudity homes may have a good sense of self and their bodies and I am sure some may have feelings of guilt and wierdness when they find out most homes don't operate this way. Its your life, its your family of course you can run it how you see fit, your wife seemed to have turned out fine in her environment but if your looking for opinion I think they are too old to be bathing together and seeing each other nude. That they needn't be shamed, but that now is the time to start teaching bounderies. __________________ ------------- My Lovely Whats...That's What. Last edited by Hopeless Dork; 06-18-2009 at 03:57 PM. Reason: clarity

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06-18-2009, 03:20 PM	#2
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 5,858 Blog Entries: 4	This is hard because it gets into personal preferences. In some societies, no one sees anyone naked, in others its quite common. I think it important for them to understand that what is ok at home, isn't in public. They also need to understand appropriate and inappropriate touching. Kids do explore, that's natural. I'd bet that if you keep an open and frank attitude, there won't be any problems.

07-03-2009, 06:23 AM	#4
blondie80 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 106	Sorry to reply to this post so late but im going to reply anyway I think it all comes down to what you are used to and what you grow up with, I never seen my father naked or sisters or mother infact yes at times half naked while they were getting dressed or things like that but never properly. My children bathed together until they were maybe three and four and my youngest I had trouble keeping clothes on her, but I persisted it doesn't mean that we still dont get the odd nude run through the house but now nearly all the time covered by towels. We have had the big talks about body parts and things like that and why you should wear clothes and those sorts of things but to a degree i think that they need to be aware that its really not appropriate to be naked or that your too old to bath with your brother or your sister. I don't know if that is really right but that is my opinion and what has happened in our house over time!