Please help, problem with sister in law and kid

silvishya · 06-25-2009, 10:12 AM

Hi all,

I am new to this forum and have a problem. I stay with my mther in law and husband. My sister in law stays very close by and her son is 1 year old. she is working and leaves the kid at our home.My mother in law always wants her to come home,keep the kid.I am 8months pregnant now and i am worried if my kid will be deprived off all the love and attention. Moreover,i do not know how to handle this issue.I do not like my sister in law frequenting home so often and do not want both the kids to be brought up together.

How do i make my mother in law understand my feelings?I do not want to hurt her.But i do not like my sister in law coming home so often just because she stays close by. Please help!!

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 06-25-2009, 06:26 PM

I am sure your mother-in-law loves her grandchild and will love yours equally.

It's difficult because the sister-in-law obviously needs to work and at this stage, that's okay with your mother-in-law...

You may also be feeling anxious due to your own pregnancy, it's not long for you to go.

Your only solution is to start saving to get your own place with your husband I think, so that you can live a normal husband and wife life and bring up your child, whilst sharing the love with his/her grandma.

At the end of the day, it's your mother-in-law's house, she can have whom she wants come over, when she wants to, I don't think you can make any comments, unless the sister-in-law is using her and she's upset herself over having to care so much for the child.

CW

**HALFNOTHING** · 06-28-2009, 12:35 AM

right mom.. it's difficult to live at one house with in laws as much as sister in law. there is always a gap between us. you can't afford to live with your parents how much more if somebody else. it's not good. the only thing they can do is to save to have their own house..

as of now, try to level and handle things out with your sis in law and mother in law.. if your mother in law likes you, surely you're in good hands specially you are preggy. you need helps until delivery..

that's normal in preggy. thinking that you hate peoples around you...

**WildChild** · 06-28-2009, 07:05 AM

You will be caring for your baby won't you? Why would you think your child would be deprived?

**happy ending** · 06-29-2009, 09:55 PM

you live with your mother in law, but you dont like your sister in law visiting so often, you think your child with be deprived? i dont get what your problem is?

06-25-2009, 10:12 AM	#1
silvishya Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1	Please help, problem with sister in law and kid Hi all, I am new to this forum and have a problem. I stay with my mther in law and husband. My sister in law stays very close by and her son is 1 year old. she is working and leaves the kid at our home.My mother in law always wants her to come home,keep the kid.I am 8months pregnant now and i am worried if my kid will be deprived off all the love and attention. Moreover,i do not know how to handle this issue.I do not like my sister in law frequenting home so often and do not want both the kids to be brought up together. How do i make my mother in law understand my feelings?I do not want to hurt her.But i do not like my sister in law coming home so often just because she stays close by. Please help!!

06-25-2009, 06:26 PM	#2
CHANDLERS WISH WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 9,910 Blog Entries: 7	I am sure your mother-in-law loves her grandchild and will love yours equally. It's difficult because the sister-in-law obviously needs to work and at this stage, that's okay with your mother-in-law... You may also be feeling anxious due to your own pregnancy, it's not long for you to go. Your only solution is to start saving to get your own place with your husband I think, so that you can live a normal husband and wife life and bring up your child, whilst sharing the love with his/her grandma. At the end of the day, it's your mother-in-law's house, she can have whom she wants come over, when she wants to, I don't think you can make any comments, unless the sister-in-law is using her and she's upset herself over having to care so much for the child. CW __________________ Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

06-28-2009, 12:35 AM	#3
HALFNOTHING Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 160	right mom.. it's difficult to live at one house with in laws as much as sister in law. there is always a gap between us. you can't afford to live with your parents how much more if somebody else. it's not good. the only thing they can do is to save to have their own house.. as of now, try to level and handle things out with your sis in law and mother in law.. if your mother in law likes you, surely you're in good hands specially you are preggy. you need helps until delivery.. that's normal in preggy. thinking that you hate peoples around you... __________________ Can't help it but to love

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06-28-2009, 07:05 AM	#4
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,223 Blog Entries: 5	You will be caring for your baby won't you? Why would you think your child would be deprived?

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happy ending Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: western australia Posts: 655	you live with your mother in law, but you dont like your sister in law visiting so often, you think your child with be deprived? i dont get what your problem is?